News this week : Im like Hitler!

[Anonymous2014]

Ladies have left guys with 8 inch dicks who couldn't give them an orgasm for me. And that's a 60% increase that they walked away from

[Resolute]

1 hour ago, Anonymous2014 said:

I'm slightly over 5 in length as well as girth, but I believe I'm still considered smaller than average. I honestly don't think the difference between me and someone that is 4 by 4 is significant enough to warrant the kind of misery that many on this forum seem to believe.

you are certainly above average, and at least double the volume of 4x4. i'd wager that you have above average looks as well (height, weight, hair, face, skin, eyes, etc.).

[Small]

Anonymous,

 

I'm happy for you 

[ShameOnThem]

On 2/27/2016 at 10:36 AM, Anonymous2014 said:

This is some of the most Douche baggy drivel I have read in a long time. I left this forum over a year ago and thought I had been unsubscribed from all the threads but received an email recently, so here goes. If you can learn to properly give a woman the kind of pleasure she seeks, she won't care about the size of your penis. The G-Spot is only three inches from the opening of the vagina, and just one's middle finger can be used to give her an orgasm. What have I been doing for the past year? Getting laid. This forum does more harm than good, as it perpetuates a limiting belief to which you will forever remain a prisoner if you don't break free the way I did.

I wish I could like this more times. I also come to this conclusion reading the opinions on this board. It's always so negative, and people like it that way because it's easier to wallow than to admit that maybe the real reason we are miserable is something other than our small penis and the women who prefer big ones.

 

On 2/27/2016 at 10:51 AM, robert said:

we are just being realist. please don't keep perpetuating the lie of "size doesn't matter" that causes harm too because you are lying to men with small penis we all know the truth size does matter although some women may not care. a large majority does but its best to tell a man the painful truth please don't give false hope "Douche baggy drivel" Thats Very funny LOL!!!

bingo!

you're really not being realist, though. This guy is out there having sex and giving women orgasms. Plenty of guys with much bigger penises are having sex and not giving out orgasms. For some it matters, but penis size is not more important than giving orgasms to your partner and making them feel good about themselves. And lesbians have mind blowing sex without penises at all, so clearly the penis is the not the be all and end all of sexual pleasure. Being realistic is recognizing that the very feeling of inadequacy we are all familiar with is going on in the brains of so many other lonely and sad women who want nothing more than a person who accepts them and loves them for who they are. When we portray penis size as the only relevant thing in a sexual relationship and all women as shallow size queens we are not being "realistic" we are being purposefully self deprecating because it makes us feel good. It may help ease the pain, but it is not helpful in the long run, and that makes me worry about the benefit this site can offer to young men who come here already hurting and unsure about themselves. 95% of this whole penis size shit is about pride, ego, and the stupid social construct of 'masculinity'. It's not 'realistic' anymore than racism, homophobia, or misogyny are. Sure, you can choose to believe them because they are very real in that people possess these feelings, but they are not right and they do not represent the feelings of most people.

[robert]

10 hours ago, ShameOnThem said:

I wish I could like this more times. I also come to this conclusion reading the opinions on this board. It's always so negative, and people like it that way because it's easier to wallow than to admit that maybe the real reason we are miserable is something other than our small penis and the women who prefer big ones.

 

you're really not being realist, though. This guy is out there having sex and giving women orgasms. Plenty of guys with much bigger penises are having sex and not giving out orgasms. For some it matters, but penis size is not more important than giving orgasms to your partner and making them feel good about themselves. And lesbians have mind blowing sex without penises at all, so clearly the penis is the not the be all and end all of sexual pleasure. Being realistic is recognizing that the very feeling of inadequacy we are all familiar with is going on in the brains of so many other lonely and sad women who want nothing more than a person who accepts them and loves them for who they are. When we portray penis size as the only relevant thing in a sexual relationship and all women as shallow size queens we are not being "realistic" we are being purposefully self deprecating because it makes us feel good. It may help ease the pain, but it is not helpful in the long run, and that makes me worry about the benefit this site can offer to young men who come here already hurting and unsure about themselves. 95% of this whole penis size shit is about pride, ego, and the stupid social construct of 'masculinity'. It's not 'realistic' anymore than racism, homophobia, or misogyny are. Sure, you can choose to believe them because they are very real in that people possess these feelings, but they are not right and they do not represent the feelings of most people.

i want to believe what you guys say but, idk my mind is just in disarray i don't know who or what to believe anymore. maybe it's my porn addiction that's messing my head up. also having a small penis is not my only flaw. just don't want to find hope to be let down

[Resolute]

12 hours ago, ShameOnThem said:

I wish I could like this more times. I also come to this conclusion reading the opinions on this board. It's always so negative, and people like it that way because it's easier to wallow than to admit that maybe the real reason we are miserable is something other than our small penis and the women who prefer big ones.

you're really not being realist, though. This guy is out there having sex and giving women orgasms. Plenty of guys with much bigger penises are having sex and not giving out orgasms. For some it matters, but penis size is not more important than giving orgasms to your partner and making them feel good about themselves. And lesbians have mind blowing sex without penises at all, so clearly the penis is the not the be all and end all of sexual pleasure. Being realistic is recognizing that the very feeling of inadequacy we are all familiar with is going on in the brains of so many other lonely and sad women who want nothing more than a person who accepts them and loves them for who they are. When we portray penis size as the only relevant thing in a sexual relationship and all women as shallow size queens we are not being "realistic" we are being purposefully self deprecating because it makes us feel good. It may help ease the pain, but it is not helpful in the long run, and that makes me worry about the benefit this site can offer to young men who come here already hurting and unsure about themselves. 95% of this whole penis size shit is about pride, ego, and the stupid social construct of 'masculinity'. It's not 'realistic' anymore than racism, homophobia, or misogyny are. Sure, you can choose to believe them because they are very real in that people possess these feelings, but they are not right and they do not represent the feelings of most people.

that's your version of how the world is. now allow me to tell you how it really is; the majority of the inhabitants of the planet on which i live are stupid and shallow people who think with their eyes and ears or their genitals (or other body parts, depending on the person) rather than their brains (or even hearts, for that matter). as many have stated, including jessie, most straight women quite enjoy the feeling of being full down there, regardless of orgasm. and let me tell you something, even the orgasms which you advocate so much, are also a shallow thing.

as for the "lonely and sad women who want nothing more than a person who accepts them and loves them for who they are", well, not to be insensitive, but these are obviously the women that nobody else wants. are they what we should pursue now? the problem is, if these women suddenly (or gradually) became desirable, guess what? they're gonna want more than just "a person who accepts them and loves them for who they are", which means bye bye below par partner.

most guys here never "portrayed penis size as the only relevant thing in a sexual relationship", but denying that it is (among other physical attributes) of the utmost importance, specially in today's world, is beyond delusional and ignorant.

"we are being purposefully self deprecating because it makes us feel good. It may help ease the pain, but it is not helpful in the long run". neither is repeated rejection, humiliation, and chasing mirages.

"95% of this whole penis size shit is about pride, ego, and the stupid social construct of 'masculinity'.". unfortunately, we are all (humans in general) at the mercy of social constructs, whether we like it or not.

"Sure, you can choose to believe them because they are very real in that people possess these feelings, but they are not right and they do not represent the feelings of most people." i'm afraid they do.

shame, i appreciate your efforts to help, and your positive view of how the world is. the only problem is, it's misplaced optimism.

[Small]

Resolute laying down the law!

[Resolute]

well klingsor wasn't around to do it. and he did pass the torch to me lol.

[Victimorthecrime]

6 hours ago, robert said:

...my mind is just in disarray i don't know who or what to believe anymore... just don't want to find hope to be let down

I know the state of mind you are talking about robert.  Often times people will wonder why some guy isn't more ambitious, doesn't pursue a better job, a degree, or a relationship. What never seems to occur to them is that maybe the guy has tried pursuing those things in the past but is tired of having his ass handed to him. Believe me I have been there. My solution, for me personally, is to ditch the expectations and just live my life. I read this quote on Facebook and it changed my life: if you can't change your circumstance, change your mind. Words are magic, that's why they call it spelling.  

[robert]

4 hours ago, VictimofBullyingNo1cared said:

I know the state of mind you are talking about robert.  Often times people will wonder why some guy isn't more ambitious, doesn't pursue a better job, a degree, or a relationship. What never seems to occur to them is that maybe the guy has tried pursuing those things in the past but is tired of having his ass handed to him. Believe me I have been there. My solution, for me personally, is to ditch the expectations and just live my life. I read this quote on Facebook and it changed my life: if you can't change your circumstance, change your mind. Words are magic, that's why they call it spelling.  

true! when i was a teenager i actually believed the whole "size doesn't matter" narrative only to find out it does matter not saying all women are size queens but i actually live in reality and hear about guys being humiliated for having a small penis. honestly if size wasn't a big deal this forum wouldn't even exist and this is one of the reasons why i haven't tried to pull myself up. when people find out you have a small penis they no longer respect you no matter what you are or what you have accomplished. some women won't tell you its a deal breaker because some women don't want to hurt the guys feelings. i can say the downward spiral in my life all started with my penis and my insecurity about it. i can't even look women in the eye or even talk to them because it feels like they know i have a small penis. i mean i'm 27yrs old and a 13 or 14yr old can satisfy a women better than i can simply because they are bigger than i am. to this day i still fear people finding out i have a small penis and having a small penis is not something you can "fix" like other things it's something you have to live with until you die including all the shame,guilt,insecurity,low self esteem,poor self image,hopelessness,loneliness that comes with it. even seeing couples people getting married and hearing about family and friends having kids is painful i rather be shot in the heart because at least it would only hurt for a minute. i've come to the conclusion without a doubt having a small penis is a curse. a curse that i will have for the rest of my life

[Jessie]

On 29 February 2016 at 2:16 AM, Anonymous2014 said:

Ladies have left guys with 8 inch dicks who couldn't give them an orgasm for me. And that's a 60% increase that they walked away from

perhaps they have. some women dont like very large ones for a variety of reasons.

that does not mean such women would tolerate, let alone prefer, someone my size.

The ideal size is 6.5 (or 7,5 BP)  length and most women like 'girth' and 5 girth is average and therefore perfecty acceptable.

4 though is well below the bell curve alas.

The great majority of women do not want their men to have the genitals of children.

Its usually a significant turn-off or even a deal breaker.

[Small]

18 hours ago, VictimofBullyingNo1cared said:

 I read this quote on Facebook and it changed my life: if you can't change your circumstance, change your mind. Words are magic, that's why they call it spelling.  

Glad Its still working for you

[Victimorthecrime]

5 hours ago, Small said:

Glad Its still working for you

Thanks Small. It helps, but you know, life is still life, don't get me wrong.  Plenty of things would be different if I had my way. 

[Resolute]

35 minutes ago, VictimofBullyingNo1cared said:

Plenty of things would be different if I had my way. 

for me, it's very simple; if i had my way, all of existence would be diametrical to what it is now, no matter the implications. my reasoning is that it can't possibly be any worse than this reality.

[ShameOnThem]

On 3/1/2016 at 0:44 AM, Resolute said:

that's your version of how the world is. now allow me to tell you how it really is; the majority of the inhabitants of the planet on which i live are stupid and shallow people who think with their eyes and ears or their genitals (or other body parts, depending on the person) rather than their brains (or even hearts, for that matter).

Again, this is your version of how the world is, not actuality. Just like mine is the optomistic version of the "the truth," yours is the pessimistic one. Because yours is more callous and cold-hearted does not make it more realistic, because there is good in the world and there are people out there who can and will love us despite us having below average dicks.
 

On 3/1/2016 at 0:44 AM, Resolute said:

as many have stated, including jessie, most straight women quite enjoy the feeling of being full down there, regardless of orgasm. and let me tell you something, even the orgasms which you advocate so much, are also a shallow thing.

Jessie having a negative outlook on small penises and how women perceive them. WHAT?!?!?

"Most" women is probably overstating, considering the sources who say this(size queens and self-hating small penis havers) but even if it is more than 50% who desire to feel full more than they desire to orgasm, that still leaves large swaths of the ocean of women out there to whom they would be perfectly happy with us. If you've ever seen the end of Unhung Hero(only good part) then you'll know that one study found that women married to men who have smaller penises reported higher levels of sexual satisfaction than those who are married to men with bigger penises. He also gave an anecdote about a man with a small penis who was in a very happy marriage with a woman who sometimes enjoyed "feeling filled" and that the guy was confident enough that he would wear a strap-on and that they lived hapilly ever after. Whatever, I'll never be able to come up with more anecdotal evidence of our adequacy than our inadequacy, because you are right that most people can be very mean when they are not happy(most people aren't happy), and I'll never convince you or Jessie that your bodies aren't useless shit, but everyone else should know that there are reasons to be reasonably optimistic about our future viability as successful sexual beings.
 

On 3/1/2016 at 0:44 AM, Resolute said:

as for the "lonely and sad women who want nothing more than a person who accepts them and loves them for who they are", well, not to be insensitive, but these are obviously the women that nobody else wants. are they what we should pursue now? the problem is, if these women suddenly (or gradually) became desirable, guess what? they're gonna want more than just "a person who accepts them and loves them for who they are", which means bye bye below par partner.

Yeah, I used to hate women, too... What I'm saying is that those women who are lonely and sad are our analogues, that for every man who is self-conscious about their bodies, there are likely 2 women who are self-concious about theirs. The patriarchy is a bitch like that. Maybe some of them are not bangable enough for you, but not everyone who is lonely and sad and broken is undeserving of our efforts.  Are we ones who shouldn't be pursued? I know you may not think highly of us, but I think some of the people here are really great.

And w/r/t your scenario, to be honest, the nature of our inadequacy being hidden to the world it's just as likely if not more that we small penis havers are the ones who become more desirable, by gaining the confidence that comes from being in a successful relationship, and then leave them. And yeah, the possibility that you fall in love with someone and then they break your heart will always exist. This is in no way unique to us, and if whether they leave us for our lack of girth or lack of long term job prospects, it's not going to feel much better. But I've seen what love can do for others, in some ways I've felt tiny waves of it myself, and it's worth the risk, it's a huge part of what makes us human. Do you want to go your whole life without the love of another human because you didn't want to have to risk losing it? In my humble opinion, that's plain cowardice, and also self-fulfilling misery.
 

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most guys here never "portrayed penis size as the only relevant thing in a sexual relationship", but denying that it is (among other physical attributes) of the utmost importance, specially in today's world, is beyond delusional and ignorant.

Yeah, some kind of do. Like how you kind of contradict yourself here by emphasizing it's "utmost importance" status in all of "today's world". Penis size is less of a deal than those on a support group for penis size anxiety disorder make it out to seem.

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"we are being purposefully self deprecating because it makes us feel good. It may help ease the pain, but it is not helpful in the long run". neither is repeated rejection, humiliation, and chasing mirages.

There is a destination in front of all of us that is "love". In between here and there invariably is pain, whether it's about our bodies, their bodies, or some other aspect of life(religion, desire for children, unforeseen tragedy...etc.). This is the "long run" I'm referring to. Some of us may never truly get there, and to those it wouldn't be worth it, but two things. A.) It's highly unlikely that the thing that keeps us from love is the physical dimensions of our bodies and will most likely be something between our ears or theirs, and B.) Those of us who will never try to get there will be subject to an inherent pain of an unfulfilled life of loneliness. Pained if you do, pained if you don't. If the pain helps us grow as people and find love eventually, it's absolutely worth it.

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"95% of this whole penis size shit is about pride, ego, and the stupid social construct of 'masculinity'.". unfortunately, we are all (humans in general) at the mercy of social constructs, whether we like it or not.

True, but it doesn't mean that we can't recognize bullshit when we see it.

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"Sure, you can choose to believe them because they are very real in that people possess these feelings, but they are not right and they do not represent the feelings of most people." i'm afraid they do.

It is my belief that humans are inherently good. That barring any kind of neurological disorder, "we all want to live by eachother's happiness". (YT: The Greatest Speech Ever Made) (YT: The Greatest Speech Ever Made)

And that when we are mean to others it is because we are unhappy with ourselves. A happy person is very rarely mean to others, that is just the amalgamation of my life experiences and everything I have heard and observed from others. Just like bigotry is very real and very bad, so to is people hurting other people. We can choose to believe in this, or we can call bullshit when something is. No one's insults can hurt me, only I can allow them to hurt me.

resolute, i appreciate your efforts to introduce me to "reality", and your view that my positive view of the world is completely wrong. The only problem is, it's misplaced pessimism.

Our minds have tremendous power. Out there in the world are so many people silently dealing with so much worse than us, and ultimately we get to choose our attitudes in how we deal with what's in front of us.

[Jessie]

well to the above I would simply say this:

Even if you were to ignore the data, the surveys, the articles, the clips and the 2nd hand stories, one has no choice but to accept their own experiences that they see with their own eyes and hear with their own ears.

And in my case every women who i have been with has rejected me due to size and (nearly) every women who I have heard directly talk about the issue has directly or indirectly said they find small penises completely unacceptable.

Telling a black man that he is 'imagining the racism he experiences' does not help him.

Teling me my girlfriends never left me or that I never heard what my ears actually heard wont help me either.

[ZR55]

On 2/28/2016 at 10:01 AM, Klingsor said:

Why did you come here in the first place? 

I came here looking for helpful posts on how to deal with certain things as someone with a small penis. There are some things, but a lot of it is "whoa is me"

[Victimorthecrime]

On February 27, 2016 at 10:01 AM, JS202 said:

 

Because women don't have a penis so it doesn't effect them. Things that effect women are dealt with more swiftly than things that effect men because humans are cognitively biased to feel more empathy for women than men. No one would ever get away with mocking, say, overweight women without being sacked or looking bad in the eye's of society.

You hit that one on the head.  Did you know March is "Women's month"? 

[Victimorthecrime]

ShameOnThem - I like your post because it was thoughtful and positive and you seem like a nice guy but wanted to ask one thing. You said you believe humans are inherently good. My question is have you ever studied history?  The story of humanity is war and slaughter and torture and butchery and madness and cruelty in all times in all places and in every way conceivable.  How do you explain that?  

[ShameOnThem]

17 hours ago, VictimofBullyingNo1cared said:

ShameOnThem - I like your post because it was thoughtful and positive and you seem like a nice guy but wanted to ask one thing. You said you believe humans are inherently good. My question is have you ever studied history?  The story of humanity is war and slaughter and torture and butchery and madness and cruelty in all times in all places and in every way conceivable.  How do you explain that?  

I have many thoughts on this, like most things, but I will try to be brief. Hopefully you've watched the above video of Charlie Chaplin's speech about the growing tide of fascism in the late 1930's. It encompasses much of my views on the world, and shapes my optimistic view on the world.

I also think that the Ancient Chinese philosophers were really onto something with the yin and yang construct. 

We see it everywhere in life, two competing/opposing factors interact to create one complete whole. Fire and water, chaos and order, men and women...etc. Well, in each of us is good and bad, and without the option of bad, the choice of good loses it's nobility. Obviously there are monsters among us, and our history is littered with them, partly because someone who lived a long life, raised a loving family, and contributed to a peaceful and prosperous community is not particularly noteworthy. History doesn't remember those who lived wholesomely, where as we all know the names of Jeffery Dahmer or Bernie Madoff. It is also no coincedence that we are not the only species that wages war, and that other monstrous tendencies can appear in nature outside of our social structure. There is part of us that knows being bad can feel good or be beneficial, and there is part of us that wants to do good and can feel empathy for those outside us. Chaplin refers to these people who chose beneficial evil as "machine men, with machine minds and machine hearts" and contrasts them to the rest of us who posses humanity in our hearts. 

It's often perceived as more rational to believe in this machine world, in which we are all evil and only nice when we selfishly want to others to like us. While there is obviously merit to this rationale, as evidenced by Nazis and women who loudly mock men's bodies alike, what is truly irrational is to think that this is the only side of the story. It may not make the news, but kindness and gentleness are all around us, and we would be ignorant to think the love of a mother to her child and the love of one stranger to another are completely unrelated. We're all on the same team, which brings me to why all of you should vote for Bernie Sanders, because the only truly important issue facing humanity is the environment, and the only way to mitigate climate change is with radical changes to the our energy systems and our systems of government. You can't change the system by taking their money, Hill-Dog. What were we talking about again?

[51 Years of Misery]

1 hour ago, RogerJay said:

It's been about a year, and I thought I'd stop by (it's just a flying visit, I'm not staying around!)

So not too much has changed around here, then?

I hope you're all keeping well anyway - Jessie, Small, Resolute, Victim, et al (Oh yes, and KLINGSOR of course! )

Apropos Adolf Hitler having "einen kleinen Schwanz"...well...I don't see that it's remotely possible for us to know something like that? (Personally I doubt it - for reasons which I won't expand on. But who knows?)

I don't believe it either.

[Resolute]

hey roger! welcome back. long time no see, mate! how have you been, man?

[51 Years of Misery]

Spot on!

[robert]

klingsor, your posts are always depressing because it's the sad truth. well since my religion (Jew torah,bible,non-talmud) forbids suicide even though sometimes i act like a heretic i still cherish and believe in it. i guess i have to suffer. penis size is important those who disagree are just in denial. face the truth i used to believe size doesn't matter until i found out it was all bullshit. it's the Sabbath so i say shalom!!! to you all and life sucks

[TimmyStan1967]

Well yes females do have something that is like a penis or tail of a peacock.  They are called breasts.  These babies can sometimes make or break a woman's self esteem and there are many men who say women with virtually no titties should apply, but the big difference is the fact that there truly are men who like small breasts, myself included.  I have never heard of a group of anyone who prefers small cocks and there are surgical procedures that truly work to enlarge breasts.