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Grower's SPS / Flaccid size only SPS


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I'm wondering how many of us have SPS just because body image issues, and not a sexual issues.

I've been reading quite a lot of threads where people talks about being OK with their erect size but ashamed for their flaccid size, or describing how their flaccid size affects their perception of their erect size, making them feel small, despite knowing hey are not.

Like I said on my first post, this is my case, and I'm wondering how many people here are in a similar situation, and if our approach to beat SPS can be specific for it.

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Yeh, in a nutshell, this is me. I don't have a micro penis, but I'm pretty sure people think I do. My flaccid size makes my life a living hell sometimes. I don't dress well either, so my bulge is a constant worry. Erect I'm 5.5 length and 5.5 girth. The Earth average? Tell that to the Earthlings. I know it could be worse, but like every human, I think the sun shines out my arse and world revolves around me, so it's, you know...a drag. 

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3 hours ago, YahwehOrTheHighway said:

Yeh, in a nutshell, this is me. I don't have a micro penis, but I'm pretty sure people think I do. My flaccid size makes my life a living hell sometimes. I don't dress well either, so my bulge is a constant worry. Erect I'm 5.5 length and 5.5 girth. The Earth average? Tell that to the Earthlings. I know it could be worse, but like every human, I think the sun shines out my arse and world revolves around me, so it's, you know...a drag. 

Kinda similar here. We are similar erect size, I am maybe not sooooo much of a grower (but I do get demon shrinkage factor sometimes though!!)

Erect size = not impressive but no real problem

Flaccid size = some psychological issue

Sigh. The fucking mind.

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Yes, this is my issue as well.  I used to be anxious about erect size,  too, when I was younger,  but that proved to be a false demon.  My flaccid size is usually pretty dinky, so I obviously don't want to expose that to a room full of people...but who's making  me?...so it's really not much of an issue, is it?

Yaweh mentioned the bulge issue.  I'll always have some envy of dudes who really bulge (seems like a lot of them do), but for some reason,  I still prefer to dress on the tighter side.  As long as I'm not getting flabby, I feel like I look best when whatever bulge I do have is visible. My balls are average, at best, but I dunno, I'm comfortable dressed that way.  I think the fact that I know I can please women gives me confidence even without the big bulge.  It's all in the mind, for sure. 

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Regarding the bulge... I don't know, I've seen people that have large (or at least average) flaccid that with certain clothes they have no bulge at all and they don't even think about it, so I don't know if this is an issue we create because we know we have a very small flaccid. I honestly think it's too dependant on many factors that you can't know what is under it.

It also happened to me to think, entering the toilet and seeing myself on the mirror "OMG I have nothing there", then unpack, and be in that magic moment (:D) when I'm partially erect because the need to pee and my penis is like 4", and from outside wasn't different that when I'm 1.5" or 2" which is 99% of the time.

I think a big part of the problem is we know, and we feel insecure for it.

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It really is in the mind. I've found peace with a lot of my issues, but I'm a guy, so like everyone else my insecurities flare up from time to time. It was also tied to self worth and having pretty ruthless friends growing up. But they were all hurting in their own way. I forgive a lot of shortcomings, because they're but actually that short, but it does still bug me from time to time. Have to keep forgiving the issues and looking at them without an insane mind. I blamed the world for my problems, turns out all the problems were my head. People can still be insensitive, but so can I from time to time, mostly due to not thinking. It's all good, unless you're convinced it's not. Then it'll be hell, and I think we've all put up with that scenario to last a life time. 

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3 hours ago, RonaldU said:

Regarding the bulge... I don't know, I've seen people that have large (or at least average) flaccid that with certain clothes they have no bulge at all and they don't even think about it, so I don't know if this is an issue we create because we know we have a very small flaccid. I honestly think it's too dependant on many factors that you can't know what is under it.

Honestly dont get this bulge thing. Just dont get it. A bulge (if there is such thing) is just fucking cloths!!

3 hours ago, RonaldU said:

It also happened to me to think, entering the toilet and seeing myself on the mirror "OMG I have nothing there",

Urrrr.....they putting mirrors in the Johns where you live so that fellers can see each others love muscle???? Damn!!!

(Just kidding lol - I know what you mean)

3 hours ago, RonaldU said:

then unpack, and be in that magic moment (:D) when I'm partially erect because the need to pee and my penis is like 4", and from outside wasn't different that when I'm 1.5" or 2" which is 99% of the time.

That is original thinking. But now you say it, yeah, taking a slash is pretty damn cool cos you get to pull it out of your pants and go max flaccid!!

3 hours ago, RonaldU said:

I think a big part of the problem is we know, and we feel insecure for it.

SPS in a damn nutshell.

Wish I could roll this psycho fuckery into a ball and kick the shit out of it. If that sounds aggressive its cos I feel aggressive!!

Just to think there are millions of bastards out there exactly like me - and they never had a day or hour of pain.

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38 minutes ago, ReduxRestored said:

Honestly dont get this bulge thing. Just dont get it. A bulge (if there is such thing) is just fucking cloths!!

Urrrr.....they putting mirrors in the Johns where you live so that fellers can see each others love muscle???? Damn!!!

(Just kidding lol - I know what you mean)

That is original thinking. But now you say it, yeah, taking a slash is pretty damn cool cos you get to pull it out of your pants and go max flaccid!!

SPS in a damn nutshell.

Wish I could roll this psycho fuckery into a ball and kick the shit out of it. If that sounds aggressive its cos I feel aggressive!!

Just to think there are millions of bastards out there exactly like me - and they never had a day or hour of pain.

You're lucky. It was either something that didn't ever crop up for you, or you dress well enough for it to not be an issue. Hand on heart, if this wasn't an issue for me, I wouldn't even come in here. My issues are all psychological and bulge related. But we're men, so we'd just flip through the Rolodex of issues until we found another one to chip away at our sanity. If it was an issue to you, you'd know about it, believe me. 

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3 hours ago, YahwehOrTheHighway said:

You're lucky. It was either something that didn't ever crop up for you, or you dress well enough for it to not be an issue. Hand on heart, if this wasn't an issue for me, I wouldn't even come in here. My issues are all psychological and bulge related. But we're men, so we'd just flip through the Rolodex of issues until we found another one to chip away at our sanity. If it was an issue to you, you'd know about it, believe me. 

Oh I aint downplaying it or anything!!

I know that anything (literally any fucking thing!!) can play hell with the mind. I knew someone quite close who was mentally fucked because of their hair. And I mean mentally fucked. You would look at them and say like huh?! What is the freaking problem??

(Just in my case this bulge gizmo was never a thing. Very happy to say.)

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5 hours ago, ReduxRestored said:

I gotta agree with Ronald though. Aside from SPS mental fuckery, I dont see any difference at all between clothed men in the crotch department, unless we're talking about people wearing tight running gear and whatnot. Even then...dunno...is there really any difference??! Dunno.

It doesn't matter, were all just muddling through. Bulge/cock/balls/hair. We're all perfect. Perfectly fucked in the head XD

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On 11/28/2016 at 11:06 PM, YahwehOrTheHighway said:

Yeh, in a nutshell, this is me. I don't have a micro penis, but I'm pretty sure people think I do. My flaccid size makes my life a living hell sometimes. I don't dress well either, so my bulge is a constant worry. Erect I'm 5.5 length and 5.5 girth. The Earth average? Tell that to the Earthlings. I know it could be worse, but like every human, I think the sun shines out my arse and world revolves around me, so it's, you know...a drag. 

Many woman would be very happy with your Girth, that is above average and would stretch most vaginas quite well.

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Ok, two things to tell today that in fact are the same thing in different situations.

This short film I've just seen:

It made me feel bad. I know the intentions are good, but for me, that suffer from the idea that everybody that sees my flaccid thinks I have a micropenis, it reinforced that fear.

They talk almost all the time about flaccid size, they show their flaccid size, and they establish an absolute correlation between flaccid size and erect size. I know it can be an artistic license, but that same thing happens in society, no matter how many times you can hear "oh yes I know there are growers and not always small flaccid means small erect" or "flaccid size doesn't matter at all, why should it?" it does. 

And I feel terribly bad for it, I have FEAR that somebody sees me naked and not erect. At least I don't have problems when going to have sex if I can manage the situation until I'm erect, but that doesn't always happen:

Last weekend I was in a disco. This girl I didn't know came directly to me and tried to grab my penis. Just like that, looking me in the eyes. So sexy? Not really. I was probably like 1 and a half inches at the moment and she was really surprised, said "oh my god, I'm sorry", and went away. She was meeting an average guy, but she thought she was meeting a guy with a micropenis or a transsexual man.

I was having a great night, but went home immediately, and now feel even more worthless.

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@RonaldU Disco? Did you time travel back to the 70's? Lol, just kidding. That same thing happened to me a few times, a girl just grabbing my flaccid cock and then sheepishly backing off giggling or something as embarrassing, it's actually happened a few times over the years. I even started saying "I don't like to be touched, I'll do the touching". Like it was a domination thing (which was ok because I prefer to dominate anyway). Even now I don't like my missus touching me like that, I kind of wish it didn't bother me, but it does. I don't even like to get blowjobs because I'll start out flaccid. I'll only get then once I'm hard. But it hits hard when shit like that happens, it's the epitome of a low blow and leaves us reeling. I must admit though, the ball stretching is great. Gives me a bit of extra confidence to get on with life. But tbh, imho, if she's grabbing at your cock like an orphan rips chunks out of a stolen loaf, she's probably gonna be more hassle than its worth. But what the fuck do I know, she might be lovely, just very sexual. It's us with the hang ups at the end of the day. But on the plus side, you didn't know her, so fuck it and move on ☮??

 

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@TimmyStan1967 It's a boggle. It kind of breaks down into 'perceived' & 'actual' size and both are equally as destructive in society. Having an actual small cock obviously limits what you can do sexually. But being perceived as having a small cock is no fucking picnic. Most people think 5.5 is small anyway. In my whole life, not once, not one single time have I ever heard any guy ever admit to having a cock smaller than 6 inches. Who the fuck admits to being statistically average? And it's not average is it? It's small. It's not tiny, but it is small. It's not in my head for fucks sake, the thing is small. There are only 4 real measurements anyway. Tiny, small, normal and big. For the flaccid (bulge) it's look small, look normal, look big and that's all people care about. And what difference does that make to small flaccid size? The average for that is 3 inches, but I can shrink to nothing, so what's that about? Even if I'm not tiny erect, I'm tiny flaccid, so what the fuck!?! Is it so wrong to want to be judged on how much of a dickhead I am rather than my cock? And the fact that women have the audacity to look down on small men when they don't have a cock is laughable. It's nature ffs! They don't like being called ugly whores, they damn near have a breakdown if you call them fat. It's like we're stuck out in a sea of shit pointing at each others boats. Sink them next, they deserve to sink before me, have you seen his one inch stump? Why can't we hold each other up and support each other? Why do we insist on being cruel and nasty? Like that makes us tough and down to earth and hardcore. Don't take shit from anyone, tell it like it is, cry ourselves to sleep because we spend all day making others feel like shit because WE feel like shit. And I'm fed up of small guys being looked at and pitied too, the world is run by small men, you think every CEO hangs dong? We rule the roost, run the businesses, run the foundations, run the countries.

Judge one man by the size of his cock and condemn every man to be nothing but a dick. ☮

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It's a boggle. It kind of breaks down into 'perceived' & 'actual' size and both are equally as destructive in society. Having an actual small cock obviously limits what you can do sexually. But being perceived as having a small cock is no fucking picnic. Most people think 5.5 is small anyway. In my whole life, not once, not one single time have I ever heard any guy ever admit to having a cock smaller than 6 inches. Who the fuck admits to being statistically average? 

Almost nobody admits having a cock smaller than 6" because for years that was the average in the sole study that was available (Kingsley), so in popular culture around the world, 6" is average. And they don't even know what Bone Pressed was when reading the results, so the "popular average penis" it's almost one inch bigger than the real one in that study.

Now, thanks to internet, we know much more studies and we know that the average penis is not the usual one in porn and movies. Nobody wants to show a penis that is not impressive, that's the truth, and regarding erect size we are habituated to see big ones, not average ones.

I don't think you can say with 5.5" you are small. Aprox half men are smaller than you and the other half are bigger than you. That's it. Average is not a number, it's a range, and you are in it (it's not that 5.9" is small and 6.1" is big). But you are not big. And what we perceive as acceptable is big, not average, for many men and women "average is too small" even if it's paradox.


Flaccid it's another story... if you are like 2", then aprox 95% of men are bigger than you, and that's the real issue because, as growing from that to 5.5" is kind of exceptional, nobody will think you are 5.5" when it sees you naked. 

We are very small flaccid, that's it. We are special (in a bad way) in that sense. That is really connected to apperance and perceived masculinity so we have serious issues with it that affect us.

I'm sure if I were 3.5" flaccid and the same erect size I am, I wouldn't have SPS.



 

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For me, it is a little bit of both. I don't like my flaccid state, even though I just measured it at around 3 inches. But I also wish I was longer, even though I am around 5.5 long when erect. But if it came down to it, I would wish for  a better flaccid bulge, I have always wanted one. 

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I usually wear no underwear with my sweatpants as I tend to "show" as much as I have. It started out cause I actually didn't have any clean underwear to wear, and then I just liked the feeling of no underwear, and now it is so uncomfortable to wear underwear with sweatpants on. 

 

Romper?? As in that new fashion thing that guys are sporting?? Like, that onesie thing?

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