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Having gone through what I've been through, albeit to a lesser extent than some people, what could have been done to make our experience easier? Bullying is now actively discouraged in schools, but does that include small penis shaming? Is it such a private problem that even adults shy away from it? Women talk about all sorts of female problems, but have you EVER had a conversation with a man about anything even close to SPS? This seems to be suffering endured primarily in silence. There is almost literally nobody to turn to, and in some cases even family members can't be trusted with our most secret insecurities. So what CAN be done? Is there a group needed to support men struggling with anxiety and depression stemming from their bodily image? Is there already one out there that you can think of? It seems to me that there is a huge gap in mental health awareness when it comes to 'measuring up'. All men who don't suffer from extreme SPS (I say extreme because I believe all men suffer from one penis related psychosis or another) are so grateful of this fact that they laugh at anyone who is seemingly smaller, thus locking themselves in a cage of suffering in the process. They know from experience that any weakness will be pounced on by their peers, so they project on to others and in turn suffer, in silence from whatever they are experiencing, penis related or otherwise. It's just an inquiry. What would, could of or can help you and others facing this reality? ☮

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Thank you for this post and your other posts, @YahwehOrTheHighway. I have been lurking in this forum off and in for years, and this inspired me to step out of my shell and tell my truth. 

I have suffered silently since 9th grade and now i am 38. I have no one to talk to about this issue. Even as adults, there is a taboo about being small. This is insane. I wish i had the balls to just be open and unashamed and own it and eventually be proud and confident about my body, but i feel like i can't. I would rather suffer in silence and pretend like i don't feel small and worthless and emasculated. Even in the face of huge life stresses and risks, i think, i would play the loser in every other category of life, just to have a couple more inches or more girth. Like if i could just make a girl's jaw drop in amazement at the sight of my dick, just once, then i could handle all the worst of what life can throw at me, and be just fine.

But here i am, quite privileged in so many ways, but lacking in the one place that means the most to me.

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What would have helped? If my parents never met, that would've helped a lot. Sorry for such a depressing comment. I often try to keep the pain to myself but sometimes I can't handle it. I honestly honestly wish they'd never met. My mother told me she tried aborting my sister because she was too young at the time. The attempt failed. I found myself wishing she'd had tried aborting me and succeeded. There is literally nothing desirable about me. I'm short, fat, low iq, small dick. All of which leaves me wondering, why am I even here?

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12 hours ago, TinyBlackDick said:

What would have helped? If my parents never met, that would've helped a lot. Sorry for such a depressing comment. I often try to keep the pain to myself but sometimes I can't handle it. I honestly honestly wish they'd never met. My mother told me she tried aborting my sister because she was too young at the time. The attempt failed. I found myself wishing she'd had tried aborting me and succeeded. There is literally nothing desirable about me. I'm short, fat, low iq, small dick. All of which leaves me wondering, why am I even here?

It's a good question. Why are we here? Why are you here? Whatever way you slice it, you're here. I know you've been through a lot of shit and still are going though it, but what do you think would have helped as you were growing up in this judgemental world of shit? I know you don't want others to have to go through what you've gone through, so what would you say to them? So you're short, fat with a small cock, so what! You're not here by mistake and you're not some abortion afterthought, you're a good person. Apart beating yourself up from time to time, you're not a negative person either. Your posts have always been honest and helpful, and I hate that you feel like that. Nobody deserves to feel like that, not one person. I know it's a shitty vague post asking what would have helped, but people do read them, people who don't post anything themselves. If I could stop one person from buying in to suicidal thoughts and self destruction, I'd do it, and I reckon you would too. If you wanna know why you're here at all, maybe it's to own yourself and everything that's great about you, not just what you think is bad, and be a light on a dark road that you know far too well. I love you, man. Keep the faith. ❤☮❤

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The only things for me - other than what Resolute & TBD suggest - would have been complete isolation from pornography and never having attended a public university. If anything can truly be called diabolical it would be porn. It's a gateway drug that opens the door to a world of shit and filth. The media talks endlessly about terrorism and armed conflict, but how many men have had their lives destroyed because of this curse? It's a silent killer nobody discusses openly because to be "outed" is the most horrible outcome possible for a guy. In fact it's so horrible that two of the most hated men in the free world - Adolf Hitler and Donald Trump - have been suggested to have small penises. Every "bad attitude" exhibited by a man can and will ultimately be attributed to a small dick - thus the penis defines the man in our advanced first world society, a society that finds its cultural apex on the summit of animal sexuality. Flesh worship. Gay posters have readily admitted that gay men are the most obsessed over cock size and place it at an even higher premium than "empowered" women, if that's even possible, which supports my contention that women only jumped on board the cock shaming wagon that homosexuality started. Pornography addiction and compulsive masturbation destroyed my life. I'm sick of this world and ready to be dead. I hope this post will serve as a warning to young guys to stay away from porn and actually talk to women. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain. 

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44 minutes ago, Pax said:

hope this post will serve as a warning to young guys to stay away from porn and actually talk to women. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain. 

i doubt that many men would voluntarily choose porn or masturbation over women. so when they can't get pussy, there's not much else they can turn to other than porn and masturbation.

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15 hours ago, YahwehOrTheHighway said:

It's a good question. Why are we here? Why are you here? Whatever way you slice it, you're here. I know you've been through a lot of shit and still are going though it, but what do you think would have helped as you were growing up in this judgemental world of shit? I know you don't want others to have to go through what you've gone through, so what would you say to them? So you're short, fat with a small cock, so what! You're not here by mistake and you're not some abortion afterthought, you're a good person. Apart beating yourself up from time to time, you're not a negative person either. Your posts have always been honest and helpful, and I hate that you feel like that. Nobody deserves to feel like that, not one person. I know it's a shitty vague post asking what would have helped, but people do read them, people who don't post anything themselves. If I could stop one person from buying in to suicidal thoughts and self destruction, I'd do it, and I reckon you would too. If you wanna know why you're here at all, maybe it's to own yourself and everything that's great about you, not just what you think is bad, and be a light on a dark road that you know far too well. I love you, man. Keep the faith. ❤☮❤

First off  it would've helped if my sister never asked sexual favours from me before I even understood what the hell it was she was asking of me. That shit messed me up, turned me into a child sex addict and I'm still doing battle with sex addiction to this day.

 

Also would've helped had my farther taught me about life and how to be a man. Instead he beat the shit out of me whenever I made a mistake. I don't have a great relationship with him at all. We could be in the same room and say absolutely nothing at all to each other the entire time.

 

Would've helped if my mother listened to me when I told here I have certain issues I don't wish to discuss here. Instead she sought info from people that don't know me, nor do they have any background in psychology or medicine yet she believed those mother-fuckers over me. I'm the one who was going through shit not THEM. They knew bugger all and she took their word over mine.

 

TV. Fuck that thing is the Devils work It must be. This is another area I don't want to go into but TV is dangerous for a developing mind and kids should not have that crap in their rooms or watch it unmonitored. That thing, great as it can be, can mess you up badly without you even knowing. I wish I'd had books in my room instead of a television set. 

 

It would have helped if I had developed some fight in me. There are people who've gone through a lot worse yet managed to pick themselves up.

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1 hour ago, TinyBlackDick said:

First off  it would've helped if my sister never asked sexual favours from me before I even understood what the hell it was she was asking of me. That shit messed me up, turned me into a child sex addict and I'm still doing battle with sex addiction to this day.

 

Also would've helped had my farther taught me about life and how to be a man. Instead he beat the shit out of me whenever I made a mistake. I don't have a great relationship with him at all. We could be in the same room and say absolutely nothing at all to each other the entire time.

 

Would've helped if my mother listened to me when I told here I have certain issues I don't wish to discuss here. Instead she sought info from people that don't know me, nor do they have any background in psychology or medicine yet she believed those mother-fuckers over me. I'm the one who was going through shit not THEM. They knew bugger all and she took their word over mine.

 

TV. Fuck that thing is the Devils work It must be. This is another area I don't want to go into but TV is dangerous for a developing mind and kids should not have that crap in their rooms or watch it unmonitored. That thing, great as it can be, can mess you up badly without you even knowing. I wish I'd had books in my room instead of a television set. 

 

It would have helped if I had developed some fight in me. There are people who've gone through a lot worse yet managed to pick themselves up.

I know what you mean about early abuse, it fucks with your psyche long after its ended. Team up feelings of low self worth due to early 'sexual activation' with having a small cock as well and it can be a recipe for disaster. You feel like a worthless piece of shit and the world confirms that you should be treated like one. But the world's truth is a lie. Nobody can make me value myself as worthless, but they can tell me I am. They can project their heavy insecurities on to the screen that is my body, but they're only seeing their own show playing out on me. Hating this world is a task too great for any man to burden themselves with. It's inherently wrong but it'll never see itself as anything but undeniably right. Small cock bad, big cock good! It's Orwellian. Women fought for years to free themselves from this type of blatant discrimination, but men apparently just need to get over it. I love how any man who causes the world to fall to their knees has a small cock. So what makes women do heinous things, small tits, big clit? It's daft. Sex/porn is the biggest distraction humans have faced for thousands of years, and having sex regularly doesn't make us happy. Because you're only as good as your last fuck. You could have a 12" cock, but if you become impotant, you're in the same boat as a guy with a micropenis. Not able to function the way society tells you is important. Although, in the locker room, who'd know you couldn't get it up? You could make an average guy who's getting regular sex look like a bitch compared to your 12" and yet you're living the same hell as the next small guy. It's a planet of show and tell and the adults are overgrown children, making fun of anyone different and teaching our kids that it's ok. We set ourselves up to be unhappy and dissatisfied with whatever we achieve because it'll never be enough. We'll never be rich enough, we'll never be young enough, we'll never be big enough. But we HAVE to buy out of the long con and wake up to the lie. Nothing external will ever make us happy, even if it does make us feel normal for a while, it'll soon be back to unhappiness and misery as we grow older and obselete. The only thing in life that you can control is how you feel. And how you feel is where the rubber meets the road. We have to realise that there is nothing evil outside of ourselves and that all the anger and pain that we feel here comes from within. WE are angry and WE want to make the world suffer. We feel it inside and so we see it outside in many forms. This is just my experience. I've felt the anger and I've been consumed by the pain and I've relived my abusive childhood like a propaganda film on loop in my mind. But there is light at the end of the tunnel, I know that for a fact, and although it dims from time to time it never goes out. ☮❤☮

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This sounds deeply painful for you, TBD. :( I'm sorry you went through all of that. I'm sorry you didn't receive the support and help you needed growing up.

Maybe there is some fight in you now. I hear your anger. You have a voice and we are listening.

I think Yahweh has some good thoughts. I believe there is always light too even if it may be difficult to see at times. I hope it helps to express yourself. We're here, TBD.

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On 04/02/2017 at 1:33 PM, YahwehOrTheHighway said:

I know what you mean about early abuse, it fucks with your psyche long after its ended. Team up feelings of low self worth due to early 'sexual activation' with having a small cock as well and it can be a recipe for disaster. You feel like a worthless piece of shit and the world confirms that you should be treated like one. But the world's truth is a lie. Nobody can make me value myself as worthless, but they can tell me I am. They can project their heavy insecurities on to the screen that is my body, but they're only seeing their own show playing out on me. Hating this world is a task too great for any man to burden themselves with. It's inherently wrong but it'll never see itself as anything but undeniably right. Small cock bad, big cock good! It's Orwellian. Women fought for years to free themselves from this type of blatant discrimination, but men apparently just need to get over it. I love how any man who causes the world to fall to their knees has a small cock. So what makes women do heinous things, small tits, big clit? It's daft. Sex/porn is the biggest distraction humans have faced for thousands of years, and having sex regularly doesn't make us happy. Because you're only as good as your last fuck. You could have a 12" cock, but if you become impotant, you're in the same boat as a guy with a micropenis. Not able to function the way society tells you is important. Although, in the locker room, who'd know you couldn't get it up? You could make an average guy who's getting regular sex look like a bitch compared to your 12" and yet you're living the same hell as the next small guy. It's a planet of show and tell and the adults are overgrown children, making fun of anyone different and teaching our kids that it's ok. We set ourselves up to be unhappy and dissatisfied with whatever we achieve because it'll never be enough. We'll never be rich enough, we'll never be young enough, we'll never be big enough. But we HAVE to buy out of the long con and wake up to the lie. Nothing external will ever make us happy, even if it does make us feel normal for a while, it'll soon be back to unhappiness and misery as we grow older and obselete. The only thing in life that you can control is how you feel. And how you feel is where the rubber meets the road. We have to realise that there is nothing evil outside of ourselves and that all the anger and pain that we feel here comes from within. WE are angry and WE want to make the world suffer. We feel it inside and so we see it outside in many forms. This is just my experience. I've felt the anger and I've been consumed by the pain and I've relived my abusive childhood like a propaganda film on loop in my mind. But there is light at the end of the tunnel, I know that for a fact, and although it dims from time to time it never goes out. ☮❤☮

I loved this post man. Thank you. I'm working on dealing with myself. I'm planning on moving out of my parents house soon (finally). I think I can do better outside of this house since many of the abuses took place in this very house. 

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On 04/02/2017 at 6:21 PM, IrmaJean said:

This sounds deeply painful for you, TBD. :( I'm sorry you went through all of that. I'm sorry you didn't receive the support and help you needed growing up.

Maybe there is some fight in you now. I hear your anger. You have a voice and we are listening.

I think Yahweh has some good thoughts. I believe there is always light too even if it may be difficult to see at times. I hope it helps to express yourself. We're here, TBD.

:sad_huggy:

Expressing myself helps a lot. Knowing that there are people who are listening is even better. Thanks IrmaJean. 

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I think what would have helped me was if I hadn't grown up in a household where sex was a totally taboo topic. It simply was never discussed. If men with small penises weren't such a taboo topic would help. Why is it not addressed or talked about?? If we had a physical disease or mental disturbance, it would be addressed. It shouldn't be such a taboo topic. I myself have only ever revealed it to the few women I've been intimate with, and only one of them didn't abandon/laugh at me, tell others, etc...If I had cancer they wouldn't laugh at me, why should they laugh at someone over something they can't possibly help or control? It's such a cruel thing. 

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6 hours ago, jackbolin said:

I think what would have helped me was if I hadn't grown up in a household where sex was a totally taboo topic. It simply was never discussed. If men with small penises weren't such a taboo topic would help. Why is it not addressed or talked about?? If we had a physical disease or mental disturbance, it would be addressed. It shouldn't be such a taboo topic. I myself have only ever revealed it to the few women I've been intimate with, and only one of them didn't abandon/laugh at me, tell others, etc...If I had cancer they wouldn't laugh at me, why should they laugh at someone over something they can't possibly help or control? It's such a cruel thing. 

It's funny you mention that because I've just been talking to my girlfriend about it. Just wondering why it's such a hushed topic. It's almost like it can be laughed at but not talked about seriously. I personally (from experience) don't think women understand how much it affects us in our every day lives. It took years before I opened up to my gf and told her how much pain I was in because of my cock. I still go through the mill every now and again, but I'm starting to become a lot more comfortable with myself. I realise now that if I'm uncomfortable with my appearance it's because I don't accept myself on some level. But fuck me is it hard to forgive people when they're cruel. I'm not a push over and I won't be anyone's bitch, but it still hurts me deeply when people I care about disrespect me. But they're just going through different things and in some ways similar things. We all hurt, we've all hurt others, but we're all muddling through the best we know how. Most women laugh at cock size because they don't know any better, I think men do it as a preemptive strike. It's all about forgiveness, for others and for ourselves. It's a real grinder sometimes, we've just gotta keep the faith ☮

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