My story

[finding my way]

What do you imagine true intimacy to be like? Or what would a balance between reason and emotion be like? Metaphors can be helpful here; go ahead and try some out for yourself.... you might catch a feeling unawares and make it aware:p

[dev2009]

so far, nothing...

couldn't think of any metaphors...

:-(

I have realize that my problem is that now, I cant identify feelings..

[finding my way]

do you like ice cream?

do you have a favorite type of exercise?

Would you prefer chocolate or a steak?

These kinds of questions are what I started with for learning about feelings. My therapist had me make lists of the things I liked and things I didn't like. After some practice, my discoveries got a little deeper as to what I was feeling.

Try it!

[dev2009]

still working on it..

wanted to share two poems that bring inspiration by Kahlil Gibran.

1. Children

And a woman who held a babe against her bosom said, "Speak to us of Children."

And he said:

Your children are not your children.

They are the sons and daughters of Life's longing for itself.

They come through you but not from you,

And though they are with you, yet they belong not to you.

You may give them your love but not your thoughts.

For they have their own thoughts.

You may house their bodies but not their souls,

For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow, which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.

You may strive to be like them, but seek not to make them like you.

For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.

You are the bows from which your children as living arrows are sent forth.

The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite, and He bends you with His might that His arrows may go swift and far.

Let your bending in the archer's hand be for gladness;

For even as he loves the arrow that flies, so He loves also the bow that is stable.

2. marriage & intimacy

Then Almitra spoke again and said, "And what of Marriage, master?"

And he answered saying:

You were born together, and together you shall be forevermore.

You shall be together when white wings of death scatter your days.

Aye, you shall be together even in the silent memory of God.

But let there be spaces in your togetherness,

And let the winds of the heavens dance between you.

Love one another but make not a bond of love:

Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.

Fill each other's cup but drink not from one cup.

Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf.

Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone,

Even as the strings of a lute are alone though they quiver with the same music.

Give your hearts, but not into each other's keeping.

For only the hand of Life can contain your hearts.

And stand together, yet not too near together:

For the pillars of the temple stand apart,

And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other's shadow.

First one, I can definitely understand poem completely, having come from toxic background, which exactly the opposite the way my parents think...

2nd one is definitely challenging i think. There is pretty much intimacy I am striving for I think.

there is more here.

http://leb.net/gibran/works/prophet/prophet.html

enjoy...

[paula]

Hi Dev2009

I have just clicked on the link that you written and find it quite interesting! All about good & evil and what makes good & evil?

Yes, I will be checking out future references like these.

Thank you!