karig Posted March 14, 2009 Report Share Posted March 14, 2009 well guys, I'm back. my husband passed away on Feb. 28. the service was march 7. it was wonderful, so nice to see people cared about him. my mother was with me for a little over a week and in some ways it was very helpful and I really appreciate her. but I never got a minute to myself, never had the opportunity to process it all. so she left on wednesday and its all come down full force. I feel like I'm lost, just floating through the days,waiting for someone to tell me what I'm supposed to do next. on a brighter note, I've finally figured out how to make drinkable coffee again!I looked into hospice society weeks ago. somehow a once a week meeting just didnt seem to cut the mustard. I realize this is a process I have to go through but some days are really hard. there are days I feel dead inside and if I feel, its pain. my mother's remedy is do until you drop, that way you dont have time to think or feel. its great it works for her but its not for me. although I dont think its working that well for her because she still gets teary when she talks about my step-dad and its been two years!anyway, I'm happy that his suffering is finally over. as a christian I know he's having a ball and that's wonderful, he deserves it. till next time! (which may be tomorrow!) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
paula Posted March 16, 2009 Report Share Posted March 16, 2009 Hi KariI'd like to offer my deepest sympathy!Thing are going to be hard for a while, till you get into a routine! The hardest part will be the loneliness. Try to find a hobbie of some kind. Something to try and busy your mind a little.We are always here for you, anytime?Take care & thinking of you in this dreadful time! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pokets Posted March 16, 2009 Report Share Posted March 16, 2009 Hi Kari...Sorry to hear of your loss, but like u said at least he is not suffering anymore.Grief is so hard to go thru and no one can tell u the process as we all cope in so many different ways.My thoughts are with youJo Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest ASchwartz Posted March 18, 2009 Report Share Posted March 18, 2009 Hi Karig,So very sorry to learn of your loss. You know that, in my experience in my presonal life, the opportunity to grieve begins after everyone leaves and goes home. That grieving is so very, very important, even though it is painful. Just know that it is normal and necessary to feel sadness, to cry, to feel awful and to mourn. Don't let anyone tell you different. We are here for you and please know that.Allan Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
karig Posted March 19, 2009 Author Report Share Posted March 19, 2009 Thank you so much for your thoughts!It really is a roller coaster of emtions! There is so much to process sometimes it feels like my brain is going to explode! But it's so helpful to come here and share it, knowing people will understand. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
paula Posted March 23, 2009 Report Share Posted March 23, 2009 We are all here for you Kari, just reach out! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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