dev2009 Posted March 15, 2009 Report Share Posted March 15, 2009 hi,I posted my background story here.http://community.mentalhelp.net/showthread.php?t=1078I am trying to deal with my lack of desire for sex.One thing i learnt during my relationship is that my gf complained that was highly asexual.. I agree on this..Is this because of my emotional hung up past?or is it cosI have some sort of ADHD. i just suspect this. All of my friends, know me as the hyperactive guy. I always need high level stimulation to keep me entertained. I am easily bored compared to friends in college. I need some sort of other activity keep me going while watching movies sometimes...-dev Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
paula Posted March 16, 2009 Report Share Posted March 16, 2009 My thoughts are, that you could do with something to slow you down, not anything to keep you occupied? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dev2009 Posted March 16, 2009 Author Report Share Posted March 16, 2009 well, I have slowed down a quite lot recent times..somehow daily meditation has helped...started doing it about 2 years ago..what else can i do slow down?hmm, I was bought up in culture where sex was taboo...no talking..people are not supposed to have sexual life.I have been masturbating since I was 18 years....only started experimenting further about two years ago... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
paula Posted March 16, 2009 Report Share Posted March 16, 2009 Dev, you have had a lot going on in your life recently! It is understandable that you are having problems slowing down!It surprises me really! Usually, guys find it hard to get an erection, when they've got so much going on in their life, not to mention all the Stress & Worry you've had to cope with? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dev2009 Posted March 17, 2009 Author Report Share Posted March 17, 2009 maybe i shouldnt worry about this too much right now...even before recent times, I have been very hyperactive person and had trouble slowing down.. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
paula Posted March 17, 2009 Report Share Posted March 17, 2009 You never know, it might be your body trying to tell you something! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest ASchwartz Posted March 18, 2009 Report Share Posted March 18, 2009 Hi Dev,In the service of slowing down, have you thought about learning meditation. In fact, there are very inexpensive meditation classes in most communities.Allan Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
finding my way Posted March 18, 2009 Report Share Posted March 18, 2009 Hi Dev, I saw that you mentioned earlier "well, I have slowed down a quite lot recent times...somehow daily meditation has helped...started doing it about 2 years ago.."That's great! If you don't mind sharing, what kind of meditation is it? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dev2009 Posted March 19, 2009 Author Report Share Posted March 19, 2009 it's very basic meditation...it's about focusing on your breath inhaling and exhaling using a mantra...slowing down and focusing inwardsand trying to control the mind from wandering...i try and do it for about 10 mins daily.. started about 2 years ago...but i haven't been doing too regularlybut it has definitely helped in many ways..slowing down...becoming more aware of myself...definitely feel refreshed most of the time after it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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