jps3m Posted May 2, 2008 Report Share Posted May 2, 2008 I am twenty years old, have been dating my boyfriend for two and a half years and we have been good friends since 2002. I'm not exactly sure when our troubles began, but they've grown so bad, I'm afraid our relationship won't be able to pull through. We both plan to spend the rest of our lives with each other, so I'm really attempting to make an effort to fix what's wrong with our relationship (or maybe just me?).The main problem is this: My boyfriend and I will start to fight, and it will begin about little things. It's usually not even something to fight about, but either one of us is tired or in a bad mood and we'll just start bickering. I know every couple and even best friends go through this all the time, but our fights always escalate to out-of-control proportions. Neither one of us has enough sense to step in and interfere, but I'm afraid there is something wrong with me because when we fight I get so angry. I don't want to cause him any physical harm, but I yell and throw fits and even while I'm doing it I'm aware of my behavior and ashamed of myself. Most of the time, I'll actually tell him to break up with me or I try to break up with him because I'm such a terrible person. Afterwards, I'll cry and be so devastated I've acted that way, but he accepts me and takes me back.It has just gotten to the point that every little fight goes through these steps:1. Me being unnecessarily angry2. Me trying to break up with my boyfriend because I love him and I'm tired of getting so angry3. Me crying and apologizing for trying to break up with himWe have wondered if we take a break from each other if this might help, but neither of us want to, and we're both in this relationship for the long run. I care about him very much and I'm trying to do all I can to fix this problem.I recently went to see a counselor, but my session proved less than productive, and neither one of us could really figure anything out. I've been researching websites, and reading up on conflict resolutions and even depression, but I eventually thought an online community may help. Any help is appreciated and apologies for the long rant! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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