Worries about pedophilia

[TerrifiedUser]

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[ThePetPerson]

You havent done anything wrong. It is natural for someone your age to be... curious. You looked at porn. So many people do, and its just unfortunate that you came across this picture. Im sure theres alot of people who have and dont give it a second thought. Your reaction shows that you are a good person, that you care and that you are considerate. There is no need to upset yourself so much, just think, you havent harmed anyone and you certainly shouldnt be as ashamed as the person who put it up

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Edited July 11, 2013 by TerrifiedUser

[shye1]

Terrified I really think you need to speak to a doctor about your anxiety. It doesnt matter what any of us say about this pedophilia stuff, we've repeatedly told you you've done nothing wrong but you keep backtracking to your worries. Doesn't that tell you theres a deeper issue you need to tackle here? Do yourself a favour, get some help. You deserve to be happy too! But you're investing too much energy into your fear and not enough into getting better.

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Edited July 11, 2013 by TerrifiedUser

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[malign]

So you're punishing yourself before you even try to find out if you're guilty.

Seriously, Terrified, go talk to a professional about how terrified you are, even if you don't tell them what you're terrified about. They can help.

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Edited July 11, 2013 by TerrifiedUser

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[ThePetPerson]

Nudism often has nothing to do with porn, for some people it is a way of life, so yes, it is just "playing"

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[malign]

Terri:

1. There is nothing about the internet that you can trust, including this statement.

2. Take it up with a counselor of some sort, please.

Not that I don't hope you'll find a resolution for this, but that it's clear that you're not getting it here.

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Edited July 11, 2013 by TerrifiedUser

[malign]

None of us are angry at you, Terri, especially not me.

What I am is concerned, not about any of the "facts" that you're worried about, but because you can't break the cycle of worrying.

I understand that you "like trying" to solve this yourself. There comes a time when a person has to realistically evaluate whether that's happening, though.

Let me ask you, do you feel like you're making progress?

You don't have to go into specifics about what you worry about, to discuss this with someone. Another thing: unless the person you talk to lies to you, if they "tell you what you don't want to hear", how is it better to be trying to solve this on your own? You'd eventually get the same answer by either method, wouldn't you? So, which is faster, so that you get help sooner?

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[ThePetPerson]

So heres what you need to do. Stop looking at the porn! If it is making you so upset then you clearly need to stop. You cant be sure with any of it so there is no use trying to find any 'safe' stuff. Just stop and move on. Just "turn over a new leaf", start fresh. I have a question if you dont mind me asking. Is there anything else that makes you this anxious?

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[Mrs. Wife]

Terrified: I am really very torn by your posts and feel for you deeply while trying to understand how you are feeling, and I am so sorry that you are going through all of this.

But, the thing that I am torn about is that I think you may not be looking at pre-teens after all in most cases, and if you are an adult and looking at an adult (even though it is labled as something else) then you are not doing anything illegal. I'm not saying it is okay to look at such things, or fantasize that they are younger than legal age, I am just saying that they probably are legal in many cases.

I wasn't sure that I even wanted to post this and it took me a few days to decide, but after reading your last few posts I can see how terrified you really are about this and, while yes, you may need help with your urges, you probably shouldn't be too concerned about the law if you don't actively go looking for child porn on the web.

I searched for news stories to back up my thoughts because I didn't want to post this at all without some kind of validation. Here are a few quotes I found about it...

Quoted from an interview with a woman who found her husband looking at porn on the net and researched it.

"Usually girls, but sometimes boys, who are just over 18, but who are marketable because they look like they're under 18..."

Regarding a company taken to court for putting underage porn on the net (but they really weren't)

"Why does the industry need to simulate child pornography by depicting 18-year-olds, or even 25-year-olds, as underage? ...the United States Supreme Court ruled this past April that depictions of people under the age of 18 having explicit sex, as long as they actually are not minors, are not child porn"

This is certainly not to say that there is not preteen porn on the net, I'm quite sure there is and it is probably easier to find than I think. The only reason for this post is to hopefully ease your mind that you cannot be prosecuted for a pop-up or for memories that excite you because they probably weren't illegal in the first place. The feds have a pretty good handle on finding the actual illegal sites very quickly and shutting them down, according to news reports.

Now, the fact that you are feeling the way you do about younger girls may be another problem altogether that I certainly am not qualified to address. You really should talk with someone who is. But I venture to say that if it was okay to like a girl four years your junior when you were 17, your feelings aren't likely to change just because you turned 18, so why beat yourself up so much about it just because you are a year older? As difficult as it may be, turn off the computer and open your phone book and find a therapist who is willing to help you work out your problem. Many work on a sliding fee scale, so don't worry that you cannot afford it. You should ge the help you need before it does become a legal issue as well.

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Edited July 11, 2013 by TerrifiedUser