karai Posted June 13, 2009 Report Share Posted June 13, 2009 Hi malign, You showed me that I had some positive in my negativity! Wow, some progress at last! I guess for now it will be 2 steps forward, one step backwards, but at least I'm moving forward, ever so slowly! Guess I gotta look at the assignment differently--something to help me be more aware of my thoughts and not as a chore that stresses me out! And, once again, thanks for making me laugh (towel reference). Thanks all! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tmays Posted June 25, 2009 Report Share Posted June 25, 2009 Thanks tmays,So far, victories-0, bad thoughts-a zillion? Sorry, I'm starting to get into one of my funky moods again and am trying to suppress it. I think I have to get back to the Lounge and read all those jokes and one-liners then listen to my sleep tape which usually helps if I concentrate really hard. Thanks again for your positivity (is that a word?). Take care...I don't know if it is a word or not but not should be:pSometimes you have to keep banging on the door to get it to fall down. Ask your T to help you come up with them. Your T just said keep trying? That's bunk. You are paying them and they need to help jumpstart you! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
karai Posted June 26, 2009 Report Share Posted June 26, 2009 Hi tmays,Actually my T said a lot more than that but the gist was to keep at it. He did give me examples but I guess I'm stubborn; if it doesn't fit me, I dismiss it! I give my T a lot of credit for not giving up on me. Sometimes I think he wants to pull his hair out because I'm so resistantly (another made-up word?) negative. Anyways, my last session w/ my T was a lot better and I actually am feeling a lot more positive now and have been since that session this past Monday--so he must be doing something right! Thanks for caring tho', and take care... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cynthia Posted July 14, 2009 Report Share Posted July 14, 2009 Karai,I am happy to hear your T is more helpful now. I was about to paraphrase what the other poster said about that's what you pay your T for but thankfully read that before answering you. Hang in there and slowly but surely you will keep making progress:) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
karai Posted July 15, 2009 Report Share Posted July 15, 2009 I hope so, Cynthia. I really need a big dose of progress, anything positive. My problem is with believing in and accepting complements others give me. I have to learn to believe in myself, I guess. I'm trying to change my perspective of things and one day, maybe, I will be successful! Thank you! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cynthia Posted July 31, 2009 Report Share Posted July 31, 2009 I certainly hope so too and believe that you will:D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tmays Posted August 9, 2009 Report Share Posted August 9, 2009 Karai it sounds like you are making strides (as well as more new words lol). Try and be patient with yourself and keep learning to catch the thinking errors you make and counter and correct them. Not being able to accept a compliment is the thinking error ignoring the positive I think. Keep in touch. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
karai Posted August 10, 2009 Report Share Posted August 10, 2009 (edited) Hi tmays,Good hearing from you again. How have you been? :cool:I do think I have been making some progress, but then bad stuff happen and I go right back to reacting the way I've always reacted, until I catch myself. Catching myself is progress in itself, right?! Sometimes I don't know what the trigger was, but I am learning to catch the pathological critic who never seems to go away. He sits on my shoulder and always has something to say (p.c.'s name is Chip!). Just kidding, there are actually 4 citics I kind of recognize: my sister, my 4th grade teacher, the bully from kindergarten and myself. Maybe there's more, but these are the 4 culprits who are very verbal and haunt me daily, probably even while I sleep! Oh well, at least I know who they are and can call them by name, except for that kindergarten kid, forgot his. And, at least I'm never alone; you know what they say--misery loves company---aaah, drinking buddies! I have been able to catch a lot of my negativity but the difficulty is in what to do w/ them (I think I'll put them in a box, wrap it up and give it to my boss!). One phrase my T has given me is to repeat to myself, even if I don't believe it: "I am a good person". "I am a good person." "I am a good person." Nope, think I have to say it a couple hundred more times! :eek:Compliments are a whole other story. Still don't feel comfortable receiving them.Thanks tmays. Take care... Edited August 10, 2009 by karai Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cynthia Posted September 3, 2009 Report Share Posted September 3, 2009 I know it is frustrating to have those setbacks but remember that progress is usually make with two steps forward and one step back. Rarely is pregress a straight line forward. I think you are doing great! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
karai Posted September 4, 2009 Report Share Posted September 4, 2009 Thanks Cynthia,I'm trying but I think it's going to take a lot more than just jumping over the fence to get to the greener pastures in my mind. I have to practice thinking glass is half full, glass is half full, half full half full yes I'm a fool.....oh, oh, critic crept in there and don't know who that prankster was! Hey, give me back my glass half full of beer! see thinking positive already! Take care! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
malign Posted September 8, 2009 Report Share Posted September 8, 2009 Kara, someone in high school taught me the full proverb that starts:"The grass is always greener on the other side of the hill (or fence)."The rest is:"But someone's still got to mow it."So, okay, that may not sound so positive. But look at it this way: that means that this field right here is just as good as any other (it's already [at least] half-full), so we might as well just get to mowing. That way, there'll be more time for having that picnic, afterwards. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cynthia Posted September 15, 2009 Report Share Posted September 15, 2009 Kara, someone in high school taught me the full proverb that starts:"The grass is always greener on the other side of the hill (or fence)."The rest is:"But someone's still got to mow it."So, okay, that may not sound so positive. But look at it this way: that means that this field right here is just as good as any other (it's already [at least] half-full), so we might as well just get to mowing. That way, there'll be more time for having that picnic, afterwards.This is great;) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cynthia Posted September 15, 2009 Report Share Posted September 15, 2009 Thanks Cynthia,I'm trying but I think it's going to take a lot more than just jumping over the fence to get to the greener pastures in my mind. I have to practice thinking glass is half full, glass is half full, half full half full yes I'm a fool.....oh, oh, critic crept in there and don't know who that prankster was! Hey, give me back my glass half full of beer! see thinking positive already! Take care!See you caught yourself and self corrected and even added some humor. GREAT JOB! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tmays Posted September 27, 2009 Report Share Posted September 27, 2009 Hi tmays,Good hearing from you again. How have you been? :cool:I have been able to catch a lot of my negativity but the difficulty is in what to do w/ them (I think I'll put them in a box, wrap it up and give it to my boss!). One phrase my T has given me is to repeat to myself, even if I don't believe it: "I am a good person". "I am a good person." "I am a good person." Nope, think I have to say it a couple hundred more times! :eek:Compliments are a whole other story. Still don't feel comfortable receiving them.Thanks tmays. Take care...My understanding is that the messages you replace the negative thoughts with need to be replaced with ones you do believe so I don't understand why your T wants you to keep telling yourself you are a good person (which btw I am sure you are) but if you don't elive it when you say it won't stick with you. I think you need to take a step back and ask yourself what is a bad person and after you list what that is see if it fits you and I'm sure it won't. This worked wonders for me. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cynthia Posted October 27, 2009 Report Share Posted October 27, 2009 My understanding is that the messages you replace the negative thoughts with need to be replaced with ones you do believe so I don't understand why your T wants you to keep telling yourself you are a good person (which btw I am sure you are) but if you don't elive it when you say it won't stick with you. I think you need to take a step back and ask yourself what is a bad person and after you list what that is see if it fits you and I'm sure it won't. This worked wonders for me.Excellent analysis tmays:) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tmays Posted November 2, 2009 Report Share Posted November 2, 2009 Thanks. I hope everyone is anxiety neutral today Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cynthia Posted December 11, 2009 Report Share Posted December 11, 2009 You're welcome and I am feeling pretty anxiety free also. Hope everyone is prepared for the holidays... always stressful, but I feel more ready for them than ever even if I may have to do a lot of thought countering in my TEA forms:rolleyes: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tmays Posted January 19, 2010 Report Share Posted January 19, 2010 Hi Cynthia,How did your holidays end up going? I handled the usual family stuff better than I ever have in the past and was able to counter my thoughts in my TEA forms whenever I felt myself about to lose it and they always calmed me down and prevented things from blowing up even more. Happy New Year and I look forward to hearing more about how you are doing:) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cynthia Posted February 3, 2010 Report Share Posted February 3, 2010 Mine were great how were yours? I didn't even have to pull out my notepad and do many TEA forms:D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tmays Posted March 3, 2010 Report Share Posted March 3, 2010 Mine were great how were yours? I didn't even have to pull out my notepad and do many TEA forms:DThat's awesome! I am doing well and so glad you are posting and sharing your knowledge again:) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cynthia Posted March 23, 2010 Report Share Posted March 23, 2010 Thx and thx for the compliment. I am by no means an expert, just try and sshare the things I have learned that have helped me a lot:) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
catsirish Posted March 31, 2010 Report Share Posted March 31, 2010 Im do all the looking for help and i co-operate......untill its time to take action.............omg, untill its time to take action, im a sick girl. :eek::eek::eek: I didnt really want to admit this, but I did anyway.:eek Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tmays Posted April 13, 2010 Report Share Posted April 13, 2010 Im do all the looking for help and i co-operate......untill its time to take action.............omg, untill its time to take action, im a sick girl. :eek::eek::eek: I didnt really want to admit this, but I did anyway.:eekAdmitting to a problem is the first step to getting well so HOORAY for you catsirish:DThe first step is always the hardest. I didn't even think countering my thoughts in the TEA forms would help me at all and had a hard time getting started on them. But now I am doing them everyday and trying to encourage others to give them a try. Even a baby step is a start so try and make a few babysteps.We're here to help encourage and offer whatever help we can. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cynthia Posted June 2, 2010 Report Share Posted June 2, 2010 Here, here. Good advice Tmays. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tmays Posted July 21, 2010 Report Share Posted July 21, 2010 Thank you Cynthia:)How's it goin catsirish?I hope you have begun to take some action:p Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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