I had my eyes opened a bit last night

[Fedup]

I was talking to a guy on another forum who has a 5 inch penis. He said women don't care about the penis and if they do care they were not into you anyway at which point who cares? Now I know we have heard this a million times before but this guy actually showed me video evidence. It was amazing, it was like these girls would jump through hoops for him. His conquests included somebodys wife (not that I condone this), 2 women making out with each other and a woman letting him urinate on her while she was in bath. They willingly let him film all this. I noticed in the videos he was mainly running around giggling and having fun. He said if the subject of sex ever came up before they got down to it (which it often did) he would tell them his penis size. E.G. If they said something like "I can't wait to feel you all inside me." He would reply "well there isn't that much to get inside." It would get them more curious than anything. He told me he gets them off so much with words, kisses and fingers etc that it was almost a given they would orgasm as soon as he entered.

I thought I would share my newly found information and hopefully can help some people. It has definitely given me a new perspective.

[Recluse]

5 inches is average length. As long as the girth is not below average, most women would not have a problem with that.

[flander]

I'm guessing he paid those women to be in the video.

[Vinwalt]

I wish I was at least average I have long known that an attitude of confidence can detract from the small problem that some of us suffer. However when I draw from my experiences it is often difficult to portray an attitude of confidence.

[IrmaJean]

Vinwalt, it's good to see you again. How are things going for you? How have you been feeling?

[Vinwalt]

Hi IrmaJean, life has been hectic. I have been busy rebuilding my house and dealing with a terrible bout of bronchitis the last few weeks. I still feel all the anger and sadness, but at least I don't cry as much anymore. I am hoping to soon get phalloplasty(penis enlargement) surgery done. I know it wont make me as big as I wish I could be, but to be "average" would be an improvement.

[Fedup]

I don't think he paid the women. I can tell from watching them. I felt quite good after watching the video but I think I might need actually therapy to get over my problem. I think I've been ashamed of my penis for too long to for any quick fix.

I had a dream last night where I was back in school or some place and had to use communal showers. Sometimes we had to walk past women naked to get to shower and whilst I was proud of my body I was ashamed of my penis and covered it at all costs even if it meant washing myself was made more awkward. I've only recently started to become proud of my body after making changes but the covering my penis part has been a recurring theme down the years. I'm not sure I can afford the therapy and would feel embarrassed to even ask for it. If I can learn to gain the confidence my life would be much happier.

[Guest ASchwartz]

Hi Fedup,

That is a fascinating dream. Usually, men look at women and are aroused. The dream seems to reverse that where you are naked and walking past women. What do you make of that?

Allan

[Fedup]

Sorry didn't explain myself properly. It was a male only shower and was another male in the shower with me but for some reason a bunch of women could see us who were all fully clothed. I was hiding my penis from the other guy as well as the women. I've been hiding my penis from everyone all my life and the dream is just a reflection of that. I actually think I may have erection problems when sober and without a viagra although not experienced enough to know for sure. E.G. Once when I did have sex the morning after the night before I could not get it up properly.

[curtailed]

Hello People.

Someone was considering therapy earlier in this thread. I can highly recommend it if you're committed to it, and ready to face anything (and everything) that comes along. It WILL help you with your problems, including insecurities about your sexual performance.

I, myself, have started psychodynamic therapy in the last 3 months, and although I can't say it would have changed any of my logical thinking, it has altered emotions regarding my own capability and worthiness as a man. The problem I have faced is that I can't (simply said: am too afraid to) delve into the process and let the healing really take place... It has been nevertheless very exhilarating and I feel a bit more hopeful day by day

I'll gladly take any questions regarding my experiences in the last months.

-- Curtailed

[Fedup]

Yeah that was me who mentioned therapy. I don't know if I could let it all out in person like I can do on the internet, maybe I'll consider it in future if I see no other way out.

I'm actually on a date tomorrow with a girl who doesn't believe in sex before marriage. Feels like such a relief to have a date with no sexual pressure at all. I'll be trying my best to make this work.

[Fedup]

I went on my date and it seems it has went well overall. She said she enjoyed it in a text she sent me today. I still felt shy at the beginning of the date and when I mentioned I am a little shy at the end of the date she said she recognised that. She's a beautiful person inside and out and hoping she will have more patience than previous women regarding that issue.

[Guest ASchwartz]

Hi Fedup,

Believe it or not, there are women who find shyness in a man very attractive. I wonder if some of our female members could talk about it?

Allan:)

[Lindamomof7]

For me, shyness or the "feminine" side of a man is actually what I am attracted to it seems. It makes me comfortable and more at ease and I never realized this until I was diagnosed with PTSD. The strong , aggressive men actually are a trigger for me.

[Fedup]

Not too sure if she was attracted to it or not but I'll see how it plays out. I won't put a downer on things and I won't get too excited either and see what becomes of it.

[flander]

Hi Fedup,

Believe it or not, there are women who find shyness in a man very attractive. I wonder if some of our female members could talk about it?

Allan:)

it's too bad that I've never run across any yet.

[Fedup]

Well this one did not find shyness attractive it seems as she never text me again after that initial text when she said she enjoyed it. C'est la vie. I've took myself of all dating sites now. I'll just concentrate on making my life better and being happy with myself. Try and learn some new skills like driving for example.