bezoman Posted January 12, 2011 Report Posted January 12, 2011 I'm feeling paranoid about being robbed (see my latest blog).Also, I feel as though I'm subconsciously trying to push my wife away. Our relationship has been on rocky ground ever since I lost my job and I feel as though I'm somehow making it worse through both my actions and inactions. There are a number of things I'm supposed to be doing, which I'm not. Instead I find myself either buried in hopeless thought or spending countless hours in self-distraction. I have accomplished nothing since I got fired. I have applied for jobs and even had a handful of interviews, but nothing has come of it.My mother told me at Christmas that when I go to interviews that I need to believe in myself and think positive. Like it's just that easy. I could not believe less in myself if I actively tried. I'm a man who needs to see the reasons behind things and I cannot see any reason why I should believe in myself.
michmomof1 Posted January 12, 2011 Report Posted January 12, 2011 I know its hard to think positive and believe in yourself when youre feeling depressed. youre not alone. you came to the right place though. I dont have much advice to give because im struggling with the same thing myself. I am here to listen though. Im sure others are too
Waiting Posted January 13, 2011 Report Posted January 13, 2011 Hi Bezoman,You are depressed. I understand that, so am I. Talk to your wife. You can't blame yourself for a lack of motivation. That does not mean you don't try, but it does not mean you create more stress and negative thoughts by beating yourself up about it.DO you get nervous in interviews? Another approach you could take is assume you will not get the job and just relax. Pretend it is only for practice. Don't try to impress, simply answer questions honestly. Since it is practice you do need to work on technique though. Always answer Yes, and ... or No, but ... Never drag your answers out too long.
bezoman Posted January 13, 2011 Author Report Posted January 13, 2011 I woke up today to the sound of my wife sobbing in the washroom. I asked her what's wrong and she didn't want to tell me because she's afraid I'll spiral into deep depression again. She's so stressed out and there's nothing I can do.Well, that's not exactly true. There are a number of things I can do and I'm going to do all of them today. I just hope it helps.
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