true-hope Posted January 15, 2011 Report Share Posted January 15, 2011 My dad passed away recently and I wish I had been more aware of elder abuse before this happened.Elder abuse can come from anywhere, by anyone.My dad used to have a group of "friends" that would pop by from time to time.These people were not his friends, but he did not realize that until it was too late.They would trade him a small pail of potatoes for a pack of his smokes. Potatoes are around $4.00 a bag and smokes are $10.00 a pack. They always came around when they needed things but would pretend that they were there for him.When one of the men would come around he would try to convince my dad to do stupid things...like give him the farm because my brother and I didn't deserve it...Thankfully, near the end,I watched my dad's face as this man pulled into the driveway...my dad cringed. I asked him if he was ok and he said he didn't like the guy. I told my dad that I thought he was a friend, and my dad replied that the guy never was a friend...that he used him.Had I known this ages ago I would have told the guy to go away and not to come back.So I did it that day...and we never saw him again until 2 days after dad died when he came to the farm yelling at us and saying that my dad had hated us and never wanted us to have the farm and that we should do the right thing and give it to him!His doctor abused him by not giving him the help he asked for. If the doctor had run a few simple tests he would have known that dad's bowels had exploded and that it was poisoning him. But because dad was over 60 (66 to be exact) the doctor assumed that dad soiling himself was no big deal and to buy depends...We later heard from several other people that this doctor has a long history of having his older patients die for no real reason other than not running tests on them when they complain.So please, if you think your parents/grandparents are afraid or sick have them checked out, there could be a very good reason for it.Most elderly people are abused and bullied by their families and care givers. That is a fact.Does dad hide when your brother walks in the door? Does grandma cry or hide her face when you visit her in the nursing home?I feel for these people...and you will be one yourself some day...keep that in mind. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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