smallnhappy Posted March 3, 2011 Report Share Posted March 3, 2011 Hi all. I was looking around the site and to much surprise found this forum. I read most of the past threads yesterday. Man, this is a depressing forum. I never realized that having a small penis would cause such severe depression and desperate isolation. I have one and my life has been fairly normal. The size of my penis is of little concern compared to many on this forum. I plan to be frank and my objective is not to cause upset, but rather try to give insight of my life experiences. Perhaps I can help some of you. I am 59, been married for 20 something years and have a fantastic sex life with my wife. Since it seems that many of you are hung up on averages and statistics, I know the next question will be "well how big are you". I have honestly never measured my penis. Have no need or desire to. When flaccid it's length is about the width of 2 fingers. When hard it is bit longer as the width of my hand, I'd guess about 4", maybe 4 1/2" on a good day with a viagra. The girth is small. The term "pencil dick is appropriate. For lack of a better word, I consider a small penis a minor disability. One that is very easy to overcome, if you are willing to make some life adjustments and use some common sense. Before I was married I had many women in my sexual life. None of them complained, ridiculed, or past rumors about the size of my penis. In fact most complimented that making love with me was the best ever and made return visits to my bed even after we parted ways. My #1 golden rule at that time was never ever go to bed with a woman until there was ultimate trust and friendship. My second rule was never to go to bed with bar whores on a one night stand who are playing the field. They are going to be the one's who ridicule and tell their friends. The third rule was to avoid women at work or in a circle of friends unless rule #1 applies. Rule 4 was to always try to part ways as friends. I learned early that in order to compete with the big boys I had to work a lot harder to win the affections of women. Facts are facts gentlemen, women just want to have orgasms and many of them at a time. Sure some women just want to have their cervix slammed by a big penis, nothing can be done about that and if you try to compete for those girls your sunk. But there are many women out there that do not want that. I have had talks with several women who have said that many men with a large penis tend to make bad lovers. One said, " they tend to be clumsy and believe that there size will take care of the situation without any thoughts of gentleness or caring." Within that statement is our "in" gentlemen. Foreplay,foreplay and more foreplay. This starts at the beginning of the evening. I don't mean grabbing her tits. Tell how nice she looks, give her a little kiss on the back of the neck, give her a sensuous back rub. Keep that up and just the thought of your little weiner will make her explode. Now keep in mind your not going to strike it rich with all women. Because of our size it is imperative to find a gal who has a tight pussy. I went out with a gal in college which became a trusting friend. We got to the point in our relationship where we decided to make love. Well to put it mildly she was cavernous. There was no way either of us were going to enjoy sex together. We just laughed about it that night. She turned out to be a great friend all though college and would visit to have clit licked and give me a bj. Fortunately my wife if nice and tight. Even though she has had 2 children, it did not stretch her out. The fact we ask her Gyno to place a couple extra sutures in her episiotomy might have helped that. When we met she had several lovers before me that had a large penis. Guess who won her. This little dick lover who worked extra hard to treat her like a lady and give her as many orgasms her heart desired. It works. We still have a great sex life. I think because we have so much fun doing it. She absolutely loves to receive oral sex, but has multiple vaginal orgasms even with my little member. Once again we need to work a little harder. Find that G spot that gets her off, find a position that hits it and you are home free. Funny but her favorite thing is for me to just put it in a couple of inches and pull it almost all the way out. Drives her nuts, kind of like a tease. See you don't need a gigantic penis to pleasure a woman. I must say at times I wish my penis was long enough to insert it while spooning or while she up against a wall. But that is just plain and simple is not going to happen. I have learned to accept that, it's no biggy. Play with different positions to make your penis seem larger. We even have a special set of triangular pillows that make all sorts of positions easier to increase the depth of insertion. One quick note if you are overweight, get skinny. That fat pad above and around your penis can rob you of inches. Ask me how I know. Sorry for the long ramble. I hope I have convinced anyone that a shorty isn't the end world. Like I said earlier it's a minor disability that can can be handled with some smarts and life change. If going to gym makes you self conscious then don't go or go when it is not crowded. Better yet work out at home and avoid the situation all together. If you don't fill out a speedo don't wear one. Put on a set of trunks instead. Solutions to these problems are easy. Stop looking at the god damned porn that feature men will abnormally large members. It just make matters worse. Believe me your not going to do anything about your penis size for the rest of your life. Stroking, pumping, and hanging barbell weights on it will not help. It doesn't have to within the "average or larger" to pleasure a woman. By all means if you find a woman that enjoys sex with you hang on to her for dear life. Learn to live with what you were born with and enjoy life to the max. Thanks for listening. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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