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36hrs. to say goodby


Leo1954
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I am now waiting for the passing of my mother. Been getting calls since last night. Today I have been told to call family. I knew it was going to happen but, just getting her back in this area after 2 yrs. in 1 week I have been told maybe 36hrs. There is no more family maybe some cousins, a sister who has not talked to my mother in 21yrs. they never got along[long story] the only thing she said was what is she getting? When I told her $10.00 She said in the state of Va. the children come first, no.1 I told her that's child support ------- She said her husband that nobody in my family could stand said she is suppose to get 50.00% well mom has a valid will signed sealed and is going to be put in probate, she is one selfish ----- she has never cared who she hurts,how she hurts it's all mememe she will steal for what she wants. She has always been like this her & husband both. He is 64yrs.s old & has lived off of mommy and they are sue happy! He even shows up to the viewing he will be escorted off. I don't care what she says cause I already know what she'll say. Then I will let all hell break loose and she don't want me to! My mother would be very proud she doesn't want him or her really there but, I'm well prepared! Am not thinking on anything yet guess not really dealing. Not worried about the time I have left. The next step I pray will be my daughter to live because I will have nobody and anything left in this world and I will not care!

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Im so sorry all this happening. Try to remember to take care of yourself, to, I know thats easier said then done. But if you can try not to take on more then you need to and add more stress to yourself then is already there. I hope you can find some strength in yourself and can spend some moments with your mom the way you want to. Im sorry im not more of help.

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  • 2 months later...

I, unlike many am one of the many few in the world, who can truly emphathize with people, from all walks of life. My powers of imagination are unparallel to any one else's. How much did you love her? If a great deal, yes tears shall come, however you must immediately seek LOVE. Not fake love, but real LOVE. You will do things you usually don't do to try to fill the void or ease the pain, but the ONLY medicine, for emotional trauma is LOVE. Talk to me more about it if that is your will. I will help as much as I can.

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Hi leo,

Im sorry that this is happening :)

My mum in law (to be) but I called her mum, coz she was like the first true mum, I had ever known, she treated me like a daughter. Well she died two months ago. She had terminal cancer, It took only a few months for her to die, after diagnoses. The final couple of weeks of her life, she went into a hospice, it was meant to ba a like a little holiday for her, and only for a few days. But once she was there, she never managed to get out of bed again. We were told many times during that week, that she wouldnt have long to live, it was heartbreaking - totally soul wrenching. We were with her as she took her final breaths.

Sorry, you didnt need to hear that - guess things are still, too fresh for me.

My heart goes out to you and your daughter, please try to remember that we are here for you, that we care and are listening :)

Take care

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Hi Leo,

I feel badly that you have been going through so much lately. This is very difficult to have to see a parent dying . My father passed away some years ago, and it was my first experience having to take care of the arangements. Nobody else could do it, and yes, this was difficult . Their are so many feelings about this and it is so hard , hopefully I do not have to go through it again.

Do u have any support? I remember being in a fog and just going through the actions of all of it, but sooner or later it all catches up and I did have a few eposoide of mourning.

Stay strong!~ I see u in that light, a very strong person . REmeber you r daughter , and keep your head up. A lot of times I have had to do things , and the only way to get through those times is always to remember my son. If it were not for him then probably I would not be here/dead.

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