Thermonuclear Warrior Posted November 17, 2011 Report Share Posted November 17, 2011 Hello, I am 23 years old and as you can tell by the topic, I have a small penis. In this post, I'd like to discuss sexual experiences from both the female and male end. I understand that there are more things in life to worry about other than my small penis. However, now that I am approaching my mid twenties having experienced zero sexual relationships, I desperately need to resolve my issue. First off in this post, I will describe myself physically and then I'm going to give a brief history of myself and how this problem has affected me. Second, I'd like the input of others on what they have done to alleviate this problem. In another post I'd like to discuss actual enlargement methods that are alternatives to surgery. First, I am predominantly average or slightly below average in any way. I am 5'7'' in height and average looking. My penis is slightly above 5 inches in erect length and slightly over 4.5 inches in erect girth. I do not have an accurate measurement at hand, but I measured from the fat pad to the end of the glans. For circumference I measured around the middle of the erect shaft. I do not have flaccid measurements as that is not really important to me. Based on the calculated averages, I fall well within the average or I am well within the Median size. However, I have come to the conclusion that these tests may be misleading. How can one generate such statistics from a small pool of individuals? I became skeptical of these averages after having several discussions with my close friends about the subject. I came to the realization that the average penis size may be highly underrated after discussing penis size with my personal friends. Based on my own pool of individuals, I can safely say that I'm far smaller than the average. I am not gay, but I have seen enough penises in locker rooms and I've seen my drunken friends penises.Instances such as these have greatly added to my insecurities....Anyway, about me: I've been playing guitar for several years and I am a huge fan of the heavy metal genre of music. I feel that music has and always will let me escape the harshness of reality. I also enjoy working on my car in my spare time. I am currently majoring in Engineering and I'm hoping to get my degree soon. I feel that the more I keep my brain active with my interests and hobbies, the less depressed I am. However, in my off time, I've been heavily immersed by the fact that I'm 23, still a virgin, and not doing anything to resolve my problem. My penis issue does not bother me on a regular basis, but I occasionally have these bursts of depression revolving my sexual inadequacy. I feel that at my age, I should have had at least some sexual experiences, but due to my lack of confidence, I have been perpetually inhibiting myself from engaging with women on a sexual level. My last sexual experience was when I was 19 years old, and I was given the opportunity to engage in sex, but I declined. My girlfriend at the time actually admitted to being a size queen and brought up her ex boyfriends size...which was something ridiculous like 8 inches. I doubt he was that large, just the fact that size was even brought up, completely turned me off and I broke things off with her altogether before anything happened. This was the last time I was offered sex, and I haven't tried to really pursue it afterwards. Anyway since then, I have spent my time focusing on my hobbies and school and as much as I'd love to engage in sex with a woman, I haven't been able to pursue a girl. On top of having little to no experience with women, I'm extremely insecure about my size and am hoping to do something about this. I figure my options are either A) get over it figure out a way to enlarge my penis with a PROVEN method not involving surgery. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Recluse Posted November 17, 2011 Report Share Posted November 17, 2011 Hi. Your friends might be bullshitting about size. Also in regards to the locker room situation, some people have larger flaccid lengths than others.Your measurements are average. Your girth is on the smaller side of average but 4.5 girth seems to be the minimum cutoff rate in regards to what women find acceptable. I have researched this heavily to draw my conclusions. Being someone who has a 4 inch girth who at 28 has never had a relationship, I get where you are coming from. My solution has been to bang escorts and hookers. Not a cheap solution but probably cheaper than having a kid with some chick. But anyway, at 4.5 girth you should be good, length isnt as important, most women have a hard time telling the difference between 5 or 6 inches or 6 or 7 inches. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AmericanPsycho Posted November 17, 2011 Report Share Posted November 17, 2011 I'm not posting this link with the intention of getting myself in trouble, though I'll probably get reamed out for it. I'm trying to give male members with this problem a realistic solution.www.extremerestraints.com Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CantGiveItAway Posted November 17, 2011 Report Share Posted November 17, 2011 From my perspective, I think people can place way to much emphasis on penis size. I dont know if youre looking for a relationship or just trying to date alittle, but maybe try to take some of the pressure of yourself physically when you think you might approach a girl could help. You dont have to try to jump right into sex with someone if it doesnt feel right to you. Maybe just going on a few dates without sexual pressure could make you more comfortable around women. I dont think not having experience makes you sexually inadequate, though. Try to be easier with yourself. People can change, and learn things. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Thermonuclear Warrior Posted November 18, 2011 Author Report Share Posted November 18, 2011 I feel that all the woman I tend to surround myself with are far more sexually experienced than I and I have heard on multiple occasions about penis size playing an important role in their relationships. I feel that masculinity can be heavily judged on endowment and as a result, I've been pretty depressed. Sure there have to be some women that are more tolerant, but deep inside I understand that I'd never really be able to pleasure a woman from penetration alone....and that sucks. Honestly, I'm looking to just gain some confidence and to put some less pressure off the sexual aspect of relationships. I'd like to be with someone that would accept me for my flaws basically...but it seems that all the women I'm attracted to place a lot of emphasis on the sex part..which I'm very limited in with regard to experience. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Thermonuclear Warrior Posted November 18, 2011 Author Report Share Posted November 18, 2011 Thanks for the replies. Other than seeing escorts, hookers, or getting into BDSM, what have you guys done to increase your confidence around women? I have no intentions of spending money on women as that is not real to me....and screwing my girlfriend/future wife with a massive dildo is a major tun off....so a confidence boost is more important. Surely if I could win a woman with my personality, they'd be able to overlook that I have an average yet most importantly FUNCTIONING penis. I'd like some GENUINE input from women on this board. Surely you would accept a penis on the smaller side of the average as long as the person was compatible with you? Since sex is placed so highly in a relationship, I am always in fear of being rejected or placed into the friends zone for not being equipped for ravaging intercourse. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
flander Posted November 18, 2011 Report Share Posted November 18, 2011 I have no intentions of spending money on women as that is not real to meand you want a relationship with one? good luck with that. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Thermonuclear Warrior Posted November 18, 2011 Author Report Share Posted November 18, 2011 Yeah, I'm fucked...It'd be nice for me and my pulsating steel 5.25 x 4.625 incher to be appreciated....But to be serious, there have to be women out there that are genuinely happy with their partners average or slightly smaller size. Paying for a whore is my last resort for when I'm 25 years old. I have 1.5 years to get my act together. This seems like nothing and I fear that I too will resort to hookers. I'm really disgusted by the fact that I'd be paying to penetrate an orifice that has seen hundreds of penises...if not thousands. I'm seriously trying to get over this issue and to find a relationship. if I am supposedly on the average.. or the smaller side of the average, I should be able to find a reasonably attractive woman without resorting to my plan B option. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IrmaJean Posted November 18, 2011 Report Share Posted November 18, 2011 I'd like some GENUINE input from women on this board. Surely you would accept a penis on the smaller side of the average as long as the person was compatible with you? Since sex is placed so highly in a relationship, I am always in fear of being rejected or placed into the friends zone for not being equipped for ravaging intercourse.Hi Thermonuclear Warrior. The size of a man's penis does not matter to me in one way or the other. My interest would be in a man's personality and heart. Sex, to me, is about sharing and sharing is always a gift. I would want to recognize a man for who he is...exactly as he is. I always wince when I see you guys putting down measurements and sizes. All of us are unique individuals and should be respected as such. Diversity and uniqueness is a beautiful thing.Your girth is on the smaller side of average but 4.5 girth seems to be the minimum cutoff rate in regards to what women find acceptable.I have the sense that the men in here are viewing women as being highly judgmental about this kind of thing. A man's willingness to share himself in an intimate way with me would be a gift in and of itself. No judgments in this. This is about getting to know a person and recognizing someone as they are. It's okay to be the person you are and believe in yourself.What do you think, TW? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AmericanPsycho Posted November 18, 2011 Report Share Posted November 18, 2011 screwing my girlfriend/future wife with a massive dildo is a major tun off....so a confidence boost is more important.Aint no dildo dude. It's really a reusable thick latex condom with a solid extension on the tip.You can always go see this chick:www.maresimone.com Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Thermonuclear Warrior Posted November 18, 2011 Author Report Share Posted November 18, 2011 I think the problem we all have stems from the emphasis on penis size in the media. It's nice to hear that some women can appreciate a man beyond his endowment (or lack thereof) I honestly would not have this problem if it was not for the media. What's heard in the media then transfers to the general population and as a result, penile measurements are an issue. I personally would accept a woman with a cave sized vagina if her personality matched mine...which is why I feel that I still have hope. I really do not want to resort to escorts, hookers, or weird play things in order to enjoy sex like a normal fucking person.....For the past year, I did not even worry about this problem..I don't know what happened, but I guess I started seeing a chick and I pretty much regressed to my former self. After reading nearly all the posts and threads on this forum, I've come to the conclusion that several of the dudes on this board will always be perpetual complainers. However, some of you managed to work around this issue and that is awesome. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
flander Posted November 18, 2011 Report Share Posted November 18, 2011 I'd love to find a woman that wanted to be with me because she honestly enjoyed my companionship. With the exception of one blind date, so far it seems that the women I've dated were only there because I was picking up the tab. The blind date gal was on a business trip, so her company picked up the tab and she made up an excuse to bolt as soon as she could. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Thermonuclear Warrior Posted November 19, 2011 Author Report Share Posted November 19, 2011 Props to you for putting yourself out there either way...keep it up. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
flander Posted November 19, 2011 Report Share Posted November 19, 2011 Unfortunately, the time between dates is getting longer. The time between that one and the previous one was about 3 years. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Thermonuclear Warrior Posted November 21, 2011 Author Report Share Posted November 21, 2011 Earlier today I had to go to the hospital to visit a family member and it brought back an unpleasant memory pertaining to my issue.... So while I worked at a hospital, I occasionally had to be in the operating room and EVERY TIME there was a male patient that was being prepped for surgery, he was always extremely well hung..at least compared to me. It's moments like those that really depressed me. It made me feel different... and inadequate. You would think the staff in the operating room were professional too, but they all would be smirking or discussing the impressive length of the patients endowment while the patient was under anesthesia.. Seeing as the operating room nurses were exposed to these sorta things on a daily basis, their perception of what is average is different than what's in the statistics. Situations in which I was exposed to male nudity depressed me heavily..especially after seeing that 9/10 men were much better equipped. It's really unfortunate that there isn't much that can be done to resolve this issue physically. I am debating on purchasing one of those extender devices and using it daily for 6 months. I will post a log on this forum and if I see no benefit from torturing my penis for 6 hours a day every day for 6 months, then I'll at least have peace of mind knowing that I at least tried to do something about this....Sure you classy ladies may say there is more to a relationship than sex or whatever, but my testosterone levels are high and I want to enjoy sex and feel normal. Part of the enjoyment at least in my opinion, comes from pleasuring the partner through penetration. and that sort of pleasure isn't easy to give to a woman with an impressive track record when your penis falls on the bottom of the average length and width scale... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gone Posted November 21, 2011 Report Share Posted November 21, 2011 Earlier today I had to go to the hospital to visit a family member and it brought back an unpleasant memory pertaining to my issue.... So while I worked at a hospital, I occasionally had to be in the operating room and EVERY TIME there was a male patient that was being prepped for surgery, he was always extremely well hung..at least compared to me. It's moments like those that really depressed me. It made me feel different... and inadequate. You would think the staff in the operating room were professional too, but they all would be smirking or discussing the impressive length of the patients endowment while the patient was under anesthesia.. Seeing as the operating room nurses were exposed to these sorta things on a daily basis, their perception of what is average is different than what's in the statistics. Situations in which I was exposed to male nudity depressed me heavily..especially after seeing that 9/10 men were much better equipped. It's really unfortunate that there isn't much that can be done to resolve this issue physically. I am debating on purchasing one of those extender devices and using it daily for 6 months. I will post a log on this forum and if I see no benefit from torturing my penis for 6 hours a day every day for 6 months, then I'll at least have peace of mind knowing that I at least tried to do something about this....Sure you classy ladies may say there is more to a relationship than sex or whatever, but my testosterone levels are high and I want to enjoy sex and feel normal. Part of the enjoyment at least in my opinion, comes from pleasuring the partner through penetration. and that sort of pleasure isn't easy to give to a woman with an impressive track record when your penis falls on the bottom of the average length and width scale...I know exactly where you're coming from.John Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest ASchwartz Posted November 21, 2011 Report Share Posted November 21, 2011 Retro,Are you certain that you have not pleasured a woman with ease? What is ease anyway. Is sex easy?Allan Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AmericanPsycho Posted November 22, 2011 Report Share Posted November 22, 2011 May I suggest practicing Radical Acceptance:confused: It is what it is and that's it. You guys continually beat yourselves up for an issue that you have ZERO control over.We all have different attributes and that's what makes us special. I consider myself plain old average when it comes to physical features. I don't have a Peanut between my legs nor a Cucumber. There's only one guy that I seen in my life that had a Willy the size of a Horses however that's an extreme rarity. Most Willies are 2in-4in limp.You all really need quit thinking you're any less of a man because some other dude has a bigger one than you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gone Posted November 22, 2011 Report Share Posted November 22, 2011 May I suggest practicing Radical Acceptance:confused: It is what it is and that's it. You guys continually beat yourselves up for an issue that you have ZERO control over.We all have different attributes and that's what makes us special. I consider myself plain old average when it comes to physical features. I don't have a Peanut between my legs nor a Cucumber. There's only one guy that I seen in my life that had a Willy the size of a Horses however that's an extreme rarity. Most Willies are 2in-4in limp.You all really need quit thinking you're any less of a man because some other dude has a bigger one than you.AP, I had to reply to this one thing. I don't at all consider myself less of a man because of my size. In any other way I'd put myself up against any other man.I'm just less of a lover than any other man my wife's been with, not less of a man.Retro,Are you certain that you have not pleasured a woman with ease? What is ease anyway. Is sex easy?AllanAllan you picked up on something that I really didn't see or care about. It's not the 'ease' part I was responding to, it was the pleasuring your partner through penetration part I was focused on.I grow weary of hearing "hey, you've got a tongue, use it. Hey, you've got ten fingers, use any of them on her. Hey, there's all kinds of toys out there that can bring a lot of pleasure to lovemaking."I want to be like normal to well endowed men who aren't shallow, men who pleasure their partners brains out without the use of toys. I know not every well endowed guy is a shallow, arrogant lover. If a guy can mix caring and experience with a fair size, I think he could be her best lover. The one thing I wanted in life was to be one womans best lover. I'll die wondering what that would've been like.Really, I don't want to be hung like a horse, I just want a penis large enough to stand on it's own in giving pleasure during love making. Not something so small it requires extraordinary help and measures to give that pleasure.As far as the easy goes, sex was easy the first part of my marriage, much harder for me to endure the next few years, and nonexistant the past 6 years.John Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Thermonuclear Warrior Posted November 22, 2011 Author Report Share Posted November 22, 2011 Perhaps in your case it was a rarity, but having worked in a hospital taught me otherwise. The average from my perspective has been much larger than what was in the statistics. As I've stated earlier I had the "pleasure" of seeing several penises and after a while, the realization that I'm less than average became apparent. Honestly, you are still right about the radical acceptance thing. I was totally fine when i was playing guitar all day and focusing on school. All of a sudden I was hanging out with a chick and I basically regressed to this issue. My attitude used to be "if they don't lke it, fuck em and move on" and I really need that attitude again. Being depressed and complaining about the issue won't do anything. I'm thinking that I'm going to try the extender device seeing that a true increase would remedy my problem for good. If it doesn't do anything, I guess I'll have to just deal with a few bitches before I find some good ladies... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AmericanPsycho Posted November 26, 2011 Report Share Posted November 26, 2011 Read this Wikipedia article. There's guys in society a lot worse off. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/micro_penis Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
flander Posted November 27, 2011 Report Share Posted November 27, 2011 I grow weary of hearing "hey, you've got a tongue, use it. Hey, you've got ten fingers, use any of them on her. Hey, there's all kinds of toys out there that can bring a lot of pleasure to lovemaking."I want to be like normal to well endowed men who aren't shallow, men who pleasure their partners brains out without the use of toys. I know not every well endowed guy is a shallow, arrogant lover. If a guy can mix caring and experience with a fair size, I think he could be her best lover. The one thing I wanted in life was to be one womans best lover. I'll die wondering what that would've been like.Really, I don't want to be hung like a horse, I just want a penis large enough to stand on it's own in giving pleasure during love making. Not something so small it requires extraordinary help and measures to give that pleasure.I agree 100%. The guys that come on here to say that it's all technique seem to act as if these are things that only guys with small penises can do, but really any guy could do if they knew how. But the average+ guys may not bother because they don't have to, but if they did, they'd blow her damn mind. Not to mention that all of that takes practice which leads to a catch-22 situation if one also has a lack of experience paired with the lack of size to destroy one's confidence in that subject. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
toulouse_lautrec Posted November 28, 2011 Report Share Posted November 28, 2011 You've got 5.25 inches. That's in the category of "good" and maybe "very good". Seriously, if you have 5 inches or more, no woman will ever say it's small, and you'll probably never lose a relationship because you're "small". Honestly, 5.25 inches is a good size. If you don't think you'll ever have a relationship with 5.25 inches, you are truly delusional. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
flander Posted November 29, 2011 Report Share Posted November 29, 2011 Seriously, if you have 5 inches or more, no woman will ever say it's smallyeah and that's why many of my ex-wife's classmates giggled and murmured things like "gee, that's kinda small" when the sex-ed teacher told the girls 6 inches was the average penis length. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Recluse Posted November 29, 2011 Report Share Posted November 29, 2011 5 inches is really not bad. length is not nearly as important as girth. If your girth is 5 inches around or above you are in great standing. If you have between 4.5 and 5 inches girth around, you are average, if you have under 4.5 girth, you are in trouble. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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