A big penis looks so much fun.

[Wastedlife]

I choose that because I don't assume that every woman tht says otherwise is a liar or that all men with small members who say that they have satisfying sex lives are liars.

Man saying that they have satisfying sex lives is meaningless, man with 1 inch penis can be satisfied by a women just fine…doesn’t mean the reverse is true.

Show me a post or a quote anywhere that says a women who had two exactly same lovers, rich, good looking ,caring but one has 3 inch penis the other had 7+. And only on the basis of penis alone all other things being equal she chooses the guy with 3 inches because it simply has zero meaning on her decision making and he was standing closer to her or some dumb reason….I dare any women here to step up and be truthful to say that penis size has ABSOLUTLY zero meaning to them and has no baring on the quality of sex for women.

[Damo71]

Man saying that they have satisfying sex lives is meaningless, man with 1 inch penis can be satisfied by a women just fine…doesn’t mean the reverse is true.

Show me a post or a quote anywhere that says a women who had two exactly same lovers, rich, good looking ,caring but one has 3 inch penis the other had 7+. And only on the basis of penis alone all other things being equal she chooses the guy with 3 inches because it simply has zero meaning on her decision making and he was standing closer to her or some dumb reason….I dare any women here to step up and be truthful to say that penis size has ABSOLUTLY zero meaning to them and has no baring on the quality of sex for women.

show me two exactly same lovers, rich, good looking ,caring.

And as you wilfully ignore any comment on here that expresses a notion different to yours, what would be the point?

Edited May 8, 2012 by Damo71

[IrmaJean]

I've been saying that it has zero meaning to me for years. If it's part of the body of the man I love, I'm naturally going to love it. The sharing of oneself with another is a gift and I would feel honored that he shared himself with me. My interest would be in recognizing him just as he is. Yes, I have strong idealistic tendencies, but this is how I truly feel.

Take care.

[Bundy]

WastedLife, what I often read from you are sentences in the mindset of a "If you would put all guys in a row" situation or your hypothetical identical lovers scenario, which is an odd and ineffective way of thinking.

I'm well aware that in such situations, we would fall short, but how does this really matter, since these situations are just, well, hypothetical scenarios that in no way will ever happen? Of course your potential spouse/lover or One-night stand may be thinking about how he/she might have gotten someone better than you, but to be honest, that is how I experienced most relationships anyway (except if you are young, but fuck young people anyway)

A bunch of low/middle-class losers bored out of their mind and just finally settling to find someone, to at least not succumb to loneliness, even if it means to be with someone they don't even like that much. Only very few people are so lucky to find someone they might actually enjoy spending their life with, the other 90% are just as miserable as everyone. That's just how life is.

I'm just saying, that is no reason to be severely depressed about stuff like this. I mean, my whole childhood was dominated by a very nationalistic atmosphere, people beating the shit out of me for simply being what I am, should I sulk now because certain people in my life think I deserve to be killed, just like some people think I'm not able to lead a working relationship because of my small penis?

In the end, I think one of the most important facts of living is that you need to realize that things will not always play out as you want them to, and that life is full of disappointments that make us grow as a person, I guess.

Of course, it's shit, but I'm at least a little content with the fact that it's just as shitty, in fact, more shitty for most people on earth.

Edited May 9, 2012 by Bundy

[toulouse_lautrec]

Serisously though, why watch a porn flick knowing it's going to trigger negative feelings:confused:

AP... I like watching porn occasionally. I couldn't get a date in my teens and 20's, didn't visit prostitutes, was a social outcast, and needed some reason for my sexual feelings. Even the more average sized guys in a few porn videos are bigger than me, not just the 7 inch guys. Some older porn videos I used to watch on BETA or VHS had more average sized guys and I never saw one that was as small as mine. The smallest I guess was Ed Powers, but he's probably around 5 inches or a bit more and that's bigger than mine too.

[toulouse_lautrec]

Distancing yourself from intercourse won't help matters. Quit asking yourself negative questions. You need to ask yourself what can be done to make your problem better and there's solutions. I've NEVER seen a problem that didn't have a solution to it.

It's like swimming in a large river against a fast moving current. You won't get out of the river alive by swimming against the current.

What about terminal cancer? Do you see a solution that fits?

[toulouse_lautrec]

Of course women have more fun with bigger penises, just look up any discussions online and see that they think. Women don’t only care about penetration when it comes to big penis, they also love the way it looks and feels. Women get turned on a lot just by knowing you might have a big penis (someone even have orgasms just thinking about it), and if you pull out a little worm…big disappointment. Plus most man with little worms cant even perform well since there so depressed about their handicap. (put me in this category)

But all that said that’s just life…we cant have what man with big penis can have…just like a ugly person cant be a CK model no matter how much he wants to…

Hey, I not only have a small penis, but I'm short (5'5") and I'm ugly too! 3 for 3. Do you think that's why I've been an outcast all my life and have struggled to get women interested in me?

[toulouse_lautrec]

Irma, I'm just making deductions based on fact and experience. If a woman was presented with a pool of men of equal passion, care, and love but different endowment, the smaller of the group would be weeded out of the competition. The gray would be the small percentage of women that prefer smaller or do not have any sensation in their vagina or clitoris and thus do not feel anything from penetration regardless of size. So for the few women that are unable to enjoy penetrative sex, than penis size would be a non issue. The posters in this board (including myself) simply want to have the luxury that the majority of people on Earth have. Although several of the posters here have shallow or illogical reasons for wanting a larger penis, I don't blame them. It's best to accept that sex will not happen according to your fantasies. I've distanced myself from sex temporarily because I need to filter out the years of distorted views and fantasies my brain has absorbed thanks to the Internet and overall media. If I had a caring partner, I would have sex as often as mutually needed so it's not like I am telling people to be asexual.

The problem with most of us on this board is that we have distorted views of ourselves and do not consider ourselves normal. I've only recently begun to consider myself normal and I feel that this is a start. Unlike T/L I do not feel handicapped by my length because I still can enjoy sex and feel the same sensations as any larger man would. And to repeat this, I am 1 inch taller than the OP and 1/2 inch longer in length. I bet hardly any women would sense the difference..Luckily enough, most of us on this board are still within the normal range and shouldn't feel as handicapped as we do.

My ex could tell the difference, she told me one or two guys were a half inch or more bigger. I'd give away one of my fingers for an extra half inch.

[toulouse_lautrec]

Exactly, this is what people don’t understand. I don’t want to fall in love and have a nice family unit from day one with 1.5 kids a little white house and all the “feelings“…I want to go pick up a hot confident women in a bar and have wild crazy night with her. You cant have that life with less then 5 inches….because that’s not what women who are interested in one night stands are looking for.

I want to live my life before I settle down…but guys with small worms are denied that pleasure completely, we have to settle in most cases for someone who will “accept” us. As I agree that women who are done with their “wild experimenting years” and just want to have kids and “normal” family unit are more accepting of out short comings…

I've had a lot of one night stands in my life. I couldn't meet women in reality so I met them online, back in the late 90s and early 00s. Once I met them, I could convince them to hang with me for a bit and could get some action from them and have a decent time. BUT... nothing great ever came from it. After one or two times they wouldn't want to see me, or would make comments that I wasn't really their type so don't get used to this, or would leave me shortly thereafter for someone taller. Being short, ugly, and having a small penis, I tried everything I possibly could to meet someone in any way I could. The only ones interested in seeing me more were those women who had more problems than me -- grossly obese, uglier than me. I could never really convince any half decent looking woman or a woman with a semi decent life to stick around.

[AmericanPsycho]

I want to go pick up a hot confident women in a bar and have wild crazy night with her. You cant have that life with less then 5 inches….because that’s not what women who are interested in one night stands are looking for.

You know what the wise Confucius says don't you? The difference between a Dog and a Fox is about 5 drinks. So picking up a hot and confident woman for a wild night is possible. Just be sure to kick her to the curb BEFORE you fall asleep.

[Ernold Same]

I've been saying that it has zero meaning to me for years. If it's part of the body of the man I love, I'm naturally going to love it. The sharing of oneself with another is a gift and I would feel honored that he shared himself with me. My interest would be in recognizing him just as he is. Yes, I have strong idealistic tendencies, but this is how I truly feel.

Take care.

Sometimes I feel that my small penis will prevent any woman from falling in love with me. It's just such a dealbreaker that there won't be any "if I love the man, I'll love his small penis"... it's just going to be "oh, he has a small penis, I'm no longer in love with him".

I've heard girls saying to each other stuff like "before you go any further with this guy, check his package".

Also, type the words boyfriend and small penis on Google and you'll see for yourself. Thousands of posts from girls who ask if they should dump their boyfriends who happen to have small dicks.

Anyway, I'm having weird feelings these days. I feel glad I'm still a virgin. I think it saved me from a great deal of humiliation and painful rejection. But I feel depressed that I have to feel this way. It shouldn't be this way. I don't deserve this. I don't deserve a small penis. Why couldn't I just have a normal penis and have a normal sex (and also sentimental) life. It got to the point where suicide seems like the only viable option now. I shouldn't be thinking about ending my life at 29, it's disgusting. It's so unfair it makes sick and angry. More angry actually. I feel like a time bomb about to explode. The next fucker who'll bump into my car at a red light will wish he was never born.

[AmericanPsycho]

Sometimes I feel that my small penis will prevent any woman from falling in love with me. It's just such a dealbreaker that there won't be any "if I love the man, I'll love his small penis"... it's just going to be "oh, he has a small penis, I'm no longer in love with him".

I've heard girls saying to each other stuff like "before you go any further with this guy, check his package".

Also, type the words boyfriend and small penis on Google and you'll see for yourself. Thousands of posts from girls who ask if they should dump their boyfriends who happen to have small dicks.

Anyway, I'm having weird feelings these days. I feel glad I'm still a virgin. I think it saved me from a great deal of humiliation and painful rejection. But I feel depressed that I have to feel this way. It shouldn't be this way. I don't deserve this. I don't deserve a small penis. Why couldn't I just have a normal penis and have a normal sex (and also sentimental) life. It got to the point where suicide seems like the only viable option now. I shouldn't be thinking about ending my life at 29, it's disgusting. It's so unfair it makes sick and angry. More angry actually. I feel like a time bomb about to explode. The next fucker who'll bump into my car at a red light will wish he was never born.

I personally know a few women that have screwed guys with HUGE DONGS. All of them told me the same thing. That it wasn't comfortable at all. As I've said several times, you need to work with your handicap. If you continue to work against it then you're just going to be more and more depressed.

There's devices available at Adult Retailers out there that will help you.

[Ernold Same]

I'm sorry AmericanPsycho, but what devices am I exactly supposed to look for?! I'm lost.

[AmericanPsycho]

I'm sorry AmericanPsycho, but what devices am I exactly supposed to look for?! I'm lost.

Cyberskin Penis Extenders. Similar in design in that they slip over your junk to increase length and girth. Not expensive and reusable. The plus side is that it'll take a bit longer to reach an orgasm. This is a good thing because it takes a female longer to reach an orgasm than a male.

There's also Specialty Condoms that cannot be purschased at stores like Wal-Mart.

If you have an Adult XXX Store near you, go shop around some. You'll be amazed by what you find.

[malign]

AP, I know you're trying to help. I'm just not sure you're seeing this problem from their point of view.

If it were a matter of where to find equipment to satisfy a lover, I'm sure they could find it. I'd bet most of them could tell you about places to find it.

The problem is how the situation makes these guys feel. That's not going to be improved by finding the right piece of equipment to use. In all likelihood, it would just make them feel worse, having to use something.

In the end, the issue is about what manhood is, and how a guy knows he's got it.

And to Ernold: I don't know, if I found a woman who would even consider letting Google tell her who to sleep with, I'm pretty sure I'd pass ...

[IrmaJean]

Sometimes I feel that my small penis will prevent any woman from falling in love with me. It's just such a dealbreaker that there won't be any "if I love the man, I'll love his small penis"... it's just going to be "oh, he has a small penis, I'm no longer in love with him".

I'm wondering, what do you think loving someone is about?

Anyway' date=' I'm having weird feelings these days. I feel glad I'm still a virgin. I think it saved me from a great deal of humiliation and painful rejection. But I feel depressed that I have to feel this way. It shouldn't be this way. I don't deserve this. I don't deserve a small penis. Why couldn't I just have a normal penis and have a normal sex (and also sentimental) life. It got to the point where suicide seems like the only viable option now. I shouldn't be thinking about ending my life at 29, it's disgusting. It's so unfair it makes sick and angry. More angry actually. I feel like a time bomb about to explode. The next fucker who'll bump into my car at a red light will wish he was never born.[/quote']

I'm listening, Ernold. I'm sorry you are struggling with feelings of depression and anger. I hope it is helpful to express yourself here.

What else is happening in your life? Do you socialize with friends? What brings you joy? Any hobbies you enjoy?

[Ernold Same]

Cyberskin Penis Extenders. Similar in design in that they slip over your junk to increase length and girth. Not expensive and reusable. The plus side is that it'll take a bit longer to reach an orgasm. This is a good thing because it takes a female longer to reach an orgasm than a male.

There's also Specialty Condoms that cannot be purschased at stores like Wal-Mart.

If you have an Adult XXX Store near you, go shop around some. You'll be amazed by what you find.

Yeah please read post #40 by Malign.

There's no way in hell I'm gonna wear one of those cyberskin penis extender. I'd rather die actually.

[Ernold Same]

I'm wondering, what do you think loving someone is about?

I'm listening, Ernold. I'm sorry you are struggling with feelings of depression and anger. I hope it is helpful to express yourself here.

What else is happening in your life? Do you socialize with friends? What brings you joy? Any hobbies you enjoy?

I don't know what loving someone is about. I never been in any relationship or loved anyone. I used to be a romantic and had high regards toward love but not anymore. It faded away when I realized that women nowadays just want a great sex life above all things and it doesn't really happen with a partner who has a small/average penis.

Nothing else is happening in my life. I stopped going out with my friends. I stopped because they were going on with their lives (career, girlfriends, wives, babies) and I was just stuck being an underachieving virgin. I just didn't feel like I belonged with them. So I just work, watch TV, and sleep. I no longer have any hobbies and absolutely nothing brings me joy anymore.

[toulouse_lautrec]

I might try a penis extender. Or I just might kill myself first. It's getting worse now in 2012, men are getting bigger and whenever I'm with a woman it's a definite she's had much bigger than 4.25 inches. 95% of men have a penis 5 to 8 inches in length. There are more men with a 7.5 inch penis than with a 4.5 inch one.

[AmericanPsycho]

There's no way in hell I'm gonna wear one of those cyberskin penis extender. I'd rather die actually.

Then keep sitting on your Pitty Pot and feeling sorry for yourself.

You're not the only person that wishes there was a magic pill to fix their issues overnight.

[malign]

But the interesting thing, AP, is that their plight inspires you to keep responding.

What would happen if we reversed the situation? Would you be likely to change your own life, based on advice from random people? Or would it be likely that whatever they suggest you try, you've already thought of it and have what seems like an obvious reason to you for why it won't work?

That's really why we try to do more support here (on the site as a whole) than advice-giving. It's because advice usually doesn't work. Real changes come from inside a person, not outside.

We could go into more detail about what does work to help another person change. Mostly, it's acceptance of who they are now, and what they're feeling. It's listening to them rather than talking. It's giving another point of view, but without invalidating theirs. There are all sorts of points of view, and no possible way of deciding which are "right", or even what "right" means.

Maybe there is a "magic pill", in a way. Not out in the world, not a drug or a supplement, but on the inside. We have to experiment with different recipes, patiently extract the ingredients from our own personalities, get the dosage just right, and then keep giving ourselves just the right amount for the rest of our lives. I do believe it's possible to change, and I do believe that it comes from inside ourselves.

[toulouse_lautrec]

All I know is that there isn't anything good about having a small penis. Now that women are taller, some bigger as well, you need all the length you can get to enjoy every position and have room to spread out. That's my opinion based on observations and my own sexual history.

[Notdoneyet]

All I know is that there isn't anything good about having a small penis. Now that women are taller, some bigger as well, you need all the length you can get to enjoy every position and have room to spread out. That's my opinion based on observations and my own sexual history.

I've bee trying to tell you but you don't get the message.

You need to make any sex you have with a woman all about YOU.

In this way, she can either find a way to make whatever you offer her

work for her, or let her find somebody else.

While we are at it, If you are five feet and a few inches tall, what the hell are you doing trying to score women who are six feet tall with huge cooters?

:eek:

[AmericanPsycho]

But the interesting thing, AP, is that their plight inspires you to keep responding.

What would happen if we reversed the situation? Would you be likely to change your own life, based on advice from random people? Or would it be likely that whatever they suggest you try, you've already thought of it and have what seems like an obvious reason to you for why it won't work?

Depends on how desperate I am. I wouldn't have a problem trying out devices like those I've mentioned. I've learned to work with my neurological and psychological handicaps.

[Thermonuclear Warrior]

AP: Recommending a phony penis to peple that have huge problems with their penis, what was going through your head when you thought that would be a good idea?

TL and others:

Why does sex have to be so much fun? It's unfortunate that most of us can't accept the fact that we can't have sex according to our fantasies. There is absolutely NO reason for any of you to contemplate suicide just because you can't have sex like a 6-8 inch penis man. It's a stupid skill and is only of great value to shallow women or porn stars.

Male porn stars are nothing to be jealous of. They're lucky to be making 20k/year and the porn industry itself is awful. Piracy is a huge problem and there is always the risk of STD's. I'd rather have a slightly below average penis with occasoinal depressing and self hating thoughts than to be a low life porn star.