GoodWoman Posted January 20, 2013 Report Share Posted January 20, 2013 ...in the past few days I've become weirdly obsessed with this forum (given the fact that I'm a woman). My obsession is fueled by the fact that I'm honestly shocked by the defeatist attitudes you guys express here (and, selfishly, this is helping me truly grasp what my small penis ex was feeling...even though I never believed it before).Anyways, while I can't repair that broken relationship, what I do hope I can do is offer you guys a realistic way of thinking about your situation...1) Think a girl can't have a wild fling with a guy with a small weiner? Untrue. I had the best sexual fling with a guy who had a small penis. I met him on vacation, had no feelings for him before we slept together, but the sex was amazing and I lusted after him afterwards for months.2) You're not relegated to stereotypically undesirable ladies. I'm a hot chick. I'm not a 10, but honestly, I get hit on by hot guys on a daily basis. Have since I was 14. (I'm now 32). I'm experienced sexually, and I've had my pick of guys both huge penis'd and tiny and everything in between. My best fling was a small dick guy, and the guy I wanted to marry had a small penis (but he ended up treating me like shit so I had to leave.)3) We're not all into the same types of guys, just as you guys aren't all into the same types of women. Personally, what attracted me to my small penis ex was his boyishness, his affectionate nature, his sensitivity, his cute face, his oddball tendancies... A lot of girls would want a guy who is more macho or whatever, but his nature has always been my type. So did I care that he had a small penis? No. Did he? Yeah. And he shouldn't have. In my eyes, he was what I'd been looking for. He was simply too shy in bed, too disconnected. I was convinced he wasn't attracted to me. I felt so undesirable. I've gone off on a tangent here...clearly these are fresh wounds for me...but my point is this: Find the girl who's looking for what you've got as an entire partner. When you find her, trust her. And believe she wants to be with you and will enjoy herself sexually with you when you let your guard down and figure out what you both like. modestman and Jessie 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
infrared_radiation Posted March 12, 2013 Report Share Posted March 12, 2013 I can relate to this thread.For me it's not so much penis size that's the issue. For me it's more being white, that is the problem.Black men are portrayed in porn as sex gods who get to have sex with loads of white women.So being a white male is not really desirable at all, is it? If you're part of the group that's losing... and all that... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dvnJ22 Posted March 12, 2013 Report Share Posted March 12, 2013 The biggest thing for me is, I feel ashamed, and pathetic. It's not like i'm just below average either - im basically boderline deformed. And I have no idea how to deal with it and feel good about myself. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Notdoneyet Posted March 12, 2013 Report Share Posted March 12, 2013 The biggest thing for me is, I feel ashamed, and pathetic. It's not like i'm just below average either - im basically boderline deformed. And I have no idea how to deal with it and feel good about myself.What you need to do is just go ahead and use whatever you have. If a gal asks if "that's all there is?" Lie to her and tell her it gets a lot biggerwith oral and manual manipulation. If she complains afterward, then find somebody else to play with you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
malign Posted March 12, 2013 Report Share Posted March 12, 2013 Dvn, you're exactly right: the most important think is that you feel ashamed and pathetic, and borderline deformed.Say you were actually deformed, maybe with one leg shorter than the other. Would you still be this hard on yourself? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bundy Posted March 12, 2013 Report Share Posted March 12, 2013 I can relate to this thread.For me it's not so much penis size that's the issue. For me it's more being white, that is the problem.Black men are portrayed in porn as sex gods who get to have sex with loads of white women.So being a white male is not really desirable at all, is it? If you're part of the group that's losing... and all that...Just wowThere is nothing better than being a white male, period. Not saying white people are better, but being white is cleary better, who would even argue that?Having a big dick I'm sure is nice and empowering, but it still doesn't mean jackshit when the person attached to it is being treated like dirt.At least you can visit most places of this world without having to worry that there may be some racial backlash.I'm sure getting denied a good job or realizing that your girlfriends family hates you for "some reason" isn't as bad as having a small dick Damn, I hate this "white people are losing everything" sentiment so fucking much, how wrong can you be.http://afrodaddy.com/The-AfroBlog/10-corporate-and-government-policies-unfairly-punish-black-men < all worth it when you have a big dick! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
malign Posted March 12, 2013 Report Share Posted March 12, 2013 But Bundy, people can be "wrong" about all sorts of things, and usually are.Does it help to smack them about being wrong? Now they're wrong, and they've just been smacked. Maybe, if getting smacked resulted directly in the person learning something and being "right" from now on, you could see that as beneficial. But has that been your experience of getting smacked, or put down, or "corrected"? Mine has been that the person keeps their mistake, and the only thing they learn is that people smack them.Keep in mind that to many people, the misconceptions inherent in throwing one's life away because of penis size are just as incomprehensible. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dvnJ22 Posted March 12, 2013 Report Share Posted March 12, 2013 Well under 3" is considered deformed, I'm only half a inch over - so that's what I meant about being borderline deformed. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
malign Posted March 12, 2013 Report Share Posted March 12, 2013 I know, dvn. I'm borderline bald, borderline short (5 foot 6), borderline old ... if that's the direction I choose to look at it.Or, I have a high forehead, experience, and legs that still reach the floor. And all sorts of other things about me that are more important.You're you. You're not a penis.I'm not saying life isn't hard; it's hard in all sorts of ways.But from the other point of view, it's also ... well, I know me saying "magical" will be a stretch, but honestly, we still don't know what make some things alive and other things ... not. It might as well be magic; we have no better explanation.Maybe it's enough to say it's the only life we get? I don't know, because I don't know how you define "enough".But something pulled me through the period when I was suicidal, and whatever that is still pulls me through. Something pulls you through, too, since you're still here. Maybe out of respect for whatever that is, it might be worth questioning some of your assumptions and trying different points of view. One way to say what I learned was that you can always kill yourself tomorrow; today is worth one more try. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jessie Posted March 12, 2013 Report Share Posted March 12, 2013 I always tell myself that we are all going to die anyway so why hurry the process?- there are lots of things in life to enjoy even if it turns out that sex isnt one of them.I was ill last week with an awful bug and it made me more grateful for simply being healthy.Being small matters lot less when violently vomiting! Perspective does change.We are here today- may as well make the best of it.... Lana73, bizzarecontact and modestman 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
malign Posted March 12, 2013 Report Share Posted March 12, 2013 Too, lots of guys have said they enjoy the sex just fine; it's the fear of getting hurt, or their own self-hate, that makes their lives less enjoyable.Maybe I could invent a therapy technique that includes infecting patients with that norovirus that makes people vomit so well. I mean, their perspective will surely shift. Of course, it might shift to paying me in vomit ... There's a lot of gallons to the dollar, in vomit. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jessie Posted March 13, 2013 Report Share Posted March 13, 2013 I meant more that the rejection resulting in celibacy = no sex, but I take your point.I wouldnt say that norovirus represents a genuine investment opportunity however!Though one applauds such blue sky thinking... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IrmaJean Posted March 13, 2013 Report Share Posted March 13, 2013 We are here today- may as well make the best of it....It's wonderful to see you let some light in, Jessie. :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
infrared_radiation Posted March 13, 2013 Report Share Posted March 13, 2013 Just wowThere is nothing better than being a white male, period. Not saying white people are better, but being white is cleary better, who would even argue that?Having a big dick I'm sure is nice and empowering, but it still doesn't mean jackshit when the person attached to it is being treated like dirt.At least you can visit most places of this world without having to worry that there may be some racial backlash.I'm sure getting denied a good job or realizing that your girlfriends family hates you for "some reason" isn't as bad as having a small dick Damn, I hate this "white people are losing everything" sentiment so fucking much, how wrong can you be.http://afrodaddy.com...unish-black-men < all worth it when you have a big dick!I'm not American, I live in the UK. Although I am white, I don't think I have a particularly small penis.Racial issues are different on different sides of the Atlantic. Here, black people are more likely to be direct immigrants from Africa (e.g. from Nigeria, there seems to be a lot of them around).All they have to do is walk into a nightclub, and they will have white girls all over them. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bundy Posted March 13, 2013 Report Share Posted March 13, 2013 I'm not American, I live in the UK. Although I am white, I don't think I have a particularly small penis.Racial issues are different on different sides of the Atlantic. Here, black people are more likely to be direct immigrants from Africa (e.g. from Nigeria, there seems to be a lot of them around).All they have to do is walk into a nightclub, and they will have white girls all over them.Oh, alright, appearantly racism doesn't exist in the UK, how silly of me. I'm sure all the black fellas in your country don't face social prejudice in any way and have all options open like white folks, sure. I'm sure there is no emotional stress and uncertainity when they grow up and realize that they're living in a country that brutalized his people to unimaginable degrees, sure won't affect him in any way.But hey, who gives a shit about these things If you can get chicks real easy! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
infrared_radiation Posted March 13, 2013 Report Share Posted March 13, 2013 Well, it seems like we have a white people-hating political correctness fanatic on our hands.Tell me something, did Immanuel Kant have a big dick? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
malign Posted March 13, 2013 Report Share Posted March 13, 2013 IRR, we have nobody "on our hands". This is a discussion between people with different viewpoints.If it gets to be more than that, it will have to stop, because that's not what "support community" means.Who knows how big Kant was? You've mentioned him before, but I'm not sure what you're getting at. Wouldn't it be easier to just tell us why Kant is relevant? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bundy Posted March 13, 2013 Report Share Posted March 13, 2013 Where do you see one statement that would indicate I hate white people? I just hate this idiotic "white people are losing everything, man!" sentiment that has been coming up over the last few years, because it's so incredibly wrongFor fuck sakes buddy, many things are objective, but you can't argue that being white is better, YOU FUCKING CAN'T, it's a statement that is borderline retarded.You are denying a very complex socio-cultural problem here and thinking in the dumbest way possible. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
malign Posted March 13, 2013 Report Share Posted March 13, 2013 Bundy, the statement that this won't degenerate into name-calling goes for you too. You'd be amazed at what people can believe. Hopefully, you wouldn't be surprised that you can't talk them out of it. And most importantly, that's not the point of this site; it's to support people through the troubles that their beliefs cause them.What that means is that the more misguided you think they are, the gentler you have to be with them, because you can guess just how far they had to go to get there. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bundy Posted March 13, 2013 Report Share Posted March 13, 2013 http://www.bbc.co.uk...cation-18155255http://blogs.telegra...british-racism/http://www.guardian.co.uk/commentisfree/2012/jul/13/racism-public-discourse-power-to-defineInfrared closing his eyes and yelling; "LALALALA, ALL OF THIS IS IRRELEVANT, blacks have it better becuz they got long schlongs and attract many superficial bitches, thus they still have it better than us poor whiteys who actually have wealth, power and a say in government matters! whites are losing everything man!"Edit: I hear you Malign, I'll calm down.It's just stuff like this is like my berserk button. Infrared couldn't be less sympathetic to me If he admitted that he thinks creationism is realistic and that Rush Limbaugh and O'Reilly aren't douchebags. Perseverance 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
malign Posted March 13, 2013 Report Share Posted March 13, 2013 Dude, my ex was into Fox News. If I can get through that, you can manage this. :-) siddiqui 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
malign Posted March 13, 2013 Report Share Posted March 13, 2013 It also doesn't directly follow that IRR, because he's white, actually has "wealth, power, or a say in government matters." Again, this is about individuals; no grouping of people by race (whatever that actually is) is helpful. People aren't good or bad because of race; either definition is in fact racist. We're just people, and it's our actions, individually, that define us. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bundy Posted March 13, 2013 Report Share Posted March 13, 2013 I didn't mean to address IRR specifically, it was a general statementabout the state of the world, the fact that almost all white countries (ignoring eastern europe) are still to this day the most powerful and influentual nations (germany, USA, UK, Italy, Spain, France, Switzerland, Austria etc.)It's only now that countries like india, brazil or cambodia are picking up the slack and forcing through many economical modern concepts, and that also is only going slowly and not really cutting much into white countries profits. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
malign Posted March 13, 2013 Report Share Posted March 13, 2013 Mmm, I just find the internet to be a difficult place to talk politics. Not that you can't; it's more that sometimes it's difficult to get people to stop. ;-)I try to refocus it back on individual experiences. I think we can only help one person at a time, to some extent. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
infrared_radiation Posted March 13, 2013 Report Share Posted March 13, 2013 Malign is correct to say that I personally do not possess "wealth, power, or a say in government matters" to any great extent. I do have a job at the moment but I am not a particularly big earner.I don't think I should continue to talk to this "Bundy" character. I really do find left-wing extremists to be extremely unpleasant to deal with, especially when they cannot maintain a basic level of civility.Here's how I see the logic used by leftist extremists, though:"Racism" is bad. It would be best if "racism" was eliminated from our world."White people" are the group that are responsible for "racism", therefore:"White people" are bad. It would be best if "white people" are eliminated from our world. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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