Confronting someone about your small penis in reality....

[Jessie]

GF-

I have had female friends insist that ALL girls talk about size and the size of their exes.

As I have witnessed girls doing this I assumed my friends were telling the truth

"How was it, was he big?" etc etc.

I know some of my ex girlfriends talked about me for a fact.

So I dunno- guess it varies.

WL-

I hated mine popping out- hated it- not much fun for her either- and you are so limited with positions- just felt that they were getting a raw deal..

P-

sorry you were cheated on- thats never happened to me as far as I know

and sorry about the porn thing- that must have hurt so bad

IJ-

Thanks- you are right- gotta pick oneself up and soldier on

All-

Because my exes DID leave over size (despite protestations from one) I have a terrible inbuilt insecurity.

Plus, I am probably a lot smaller than some of the guys here- when you are on the cusp an inch EVEN smaller can make all the difference. Alas.

[Jessie]

Its rare but I have seen guys make fun of small guys. As a kid and as an adult.

But much rarer than girls... at least in my experience

[firefighter38834]

I am not a troll and I am sure as hell ain't laughing at you or anyone else. I suffer from same stuff

[Jessie]

yeah whatever mate,

by the way, can you remind me of the title of this Forum again please.... I forget....

[malign]

Jessie!

You're entitled to your opinions, but you're also capable of keeping them to yourself if they involve insulting others.

[Jessie]

I havent insulted anyone have I? I mean I have raised a concern that he is maybe trolling

I also just asked him a question- though perhaps I shouldn't engage with him...

[malign]

Jess, how would you react if someone started to claim that your story was false, or that your way of handling them was sick or demented, or just made it all simple and boiled it down to the word "troll"?

You don't have to like his story. You don't have to like how he has solved his problems. You're allowed not to believe his story, especially if it's too painful for you to imagine it as a solution.

But you can keep any sarcasm that those conclusions inspire in you to yourself. We all have problems here, and if people can't interact civilly with each other, then someone may have to keep them apart. This site isn't here just for one set of people who all agree on what the problem is or what the solutions can be.

[firefighter38834]

I know the pain of a small penis...yes I am married now to a good lady who says size dosent matter but reality is I am pretty sure she is a non practicing bi..she admits to a long time female lover in college and loves me in panties. To her mine isnt a small penis but a over sized clit. Her best orgasms are me rubbing my clit against hers and oral and fingers. As far as stretching her pussy. I have never stretched any womans pussy. In our marital bed now I feel more like her female lover which it works I guess. Outside the bedroom we are as normal as any couple can be.

I have been to therapy and probably have tried over compensating for my size by spec-ops in military and lots of high risk stuff and present job as a firefighter. Would my life be different if I was even normal size down there. Yes!

People don't understand the small penis thing unless they got one.

yes I do understand womens insecurity about breasts but its visible and some men do judge breast size. Thats thier problem but mens penis is unique because its hid and usually some time is spent in a relationship before jeans come off.

I would rather be in a firefight than know back then date had reached the pants dropping time.

I would dread her seeing me nude.

[firefighter38834]

Jessy....I respect you attitude ...you don't have to agree with me, like me or believe my story. Life is about choices

Why would I troll on this topic?

That makes no sense

[malign]

Firefighter, I want to apologize to you for the reception you've been given so far. It's difficult sometimes for people to accept just how different people can be.

Some have expressed concern that your way of coping with the size issue may actually be compounding the problem in the long run, that accepting what seems to them to be a humiliating role might be harming you. What would you say to that?

[Perseverance]

I want people to answer this question.

What are you currently doing to better the situation? What's your game plan? Or are we going to live on this board forever complaining? I know I'm not.

I know my problems and I've actually solved a few.

You have to get over what you have. I know I can gain maybe a half inch if I get down to a very healthy low body fat percentage. And I'm currently in the gym working on it. I know reading an increased number in length will make me feel better. Even though its not girth ill still take it.

I got a GF. Even with my small dick i still managed to muster up the balls to go after an extremely attractive and smart girl. Just last night i saw her and I looked at her and was like "god damn shes beautiful" a nice reminder not to get all crazy in the head unless I want to lose her too.

Next is to work on being an amazing lover. No doubt the toughest part for me. Because I want evidence. Maybe her remaining with me over a long period time could be enough but for now I want to feel it in the bedroom

I've had alot of sex so far in my life. I have not been deprived by any means. But do I think I'm better than buying books to learn more? Of course not. I bought books to learn more about the vagina and the female body.

Last time I had sex I tried something new and my GF said "that felt really good" and it didn't involve my penis. Although I want her to say that when I am putting my penis in her because that's what my problem is all about. Ill still take it. And I got it from a recommended book.

I'm not even going to get a chance to have sex this weekend. I'm going to better myself in this relationship in other ways.

We can't keep being so down around here because its not making anything better.

It's Friday for fucks sake. You single dudes out there need to clean yourselves up and head to a coffee shop or a bar to meet someone. Let loose, be honest and see what happens. Maybe you'll get lucky with whatever your looking for.

[firefighter38834]

Sorry about the name mispell jessie

I am at work so times I got down I can text

My wife and I are a pretty normal couple ...we make love about 3-4 times a week. I have heard of a lot of kinkier stuff than what we do. On the good side sexually ; we both have orgasms. I don't have to deal with the dating scene.

I just don't understand the troll thing....why..I don't do much message room stuff at all. I goggled " small penis syndrome " and I read stuff for about a month before I commented. From what I have read my feelings and experiences aren't much different than some in here. Anyway have a good day!

[Bundy]

Its rare but I have seen guys make fun of small guys. As a kid and as an adult.

But much rarer than girls... at least in my experience

That's the thing about experience, it's an utterly worthless to gauge anything by it.

For example, your life is full of instances with women humiliating men over their size, but I can't even tell you how much I've seen and heard guys being just as horrible as well.

This reminds me when I started my apprenticeship for my first year, planned for three years. It was a year ago, and I had two days of school, sport included. Most of the people in my class were older than me, some 25y olds, some 21s etc, no teens anymore. That year, since schools apparently think humilation and shame are mandatory for your first work experience, I was denied my plead to allow myself to keep my dignity and not be forced to do sport, and thus, use the showers. I thought, "hey, these people are older than me, I'm sure they are not that immature anymore as to joke about trivial things like this!"

A week latter, everyone knew. My whole class, the teachers, everybody. Groups of guys and girls, mixed and seperated would snicker and break out in laughter when I passed them by, when driving home with the train, I could hear people who are from the same school muttering "hey, isn't that the guy with the...?!"

Only one week, being laughed at by...uhm...I don't know 200-300 people? Doesn't matter, couldn't take it anymore, nobody would help me, lost an amazing opportunity.

That's just the true nature of men. Rotten to the core, not a single drop of sympathy or empathy, just...monsters. As soon as you become a social target, the games open, you are officially sub-human.

That's why I hate people who insist that all of this is in my head...after suffering a life full of shame and no dignity, do you dare to tell me "oh, you are overreacting, it's not really like that." You don't even understand a fraction of my pain and the horror that is an average day to me.

My small penis made me curse my existence. It's like I'm destined for a shit life, no matter how much money i would make, how good my job is, I'll always be "that guy".

The core statement shouldn't be "women are more cruel/guys are more cruel towards us", the issue is "the highly sexualized western society doesn't respect or value guys like us even a little bit, the only reason why we are is to be a comic foil to EVERYONE else."

The only thing that I want now, is to watch the world burn, nothing more, nothing less.

[firefighter38834]

Malign:

It works sexually and thats just one part of marriage. I appreciate you caring and genuine concern. I don't know how it can hurt me any. I am who I am

[Thermonuclear Warrior]

Firefighter, you should stay, but understand that your experience is heavily emasculating and probably perceived as negative to the majority of the viewers here. I personally do not care. I found your method of coping with this problem amusing, but my sense of humor is twisted.

[firefighter38834]

Its only sexually I feel feminine plus my wife enjoys it. It worked when role playing and most couples role play some. We tried other ways in role play but just landed on that and it works very well. Sex is only a small part of our marriage and can feel so comfortable with my style in bed because out of bed...I am dominant and have also worked very masculine jobs.

I didnt ring the bell at Buds training...probably want in here.

I hope you do find some humor in my responses. I can't change the size and wife and I both find funny things to do. Instead of feeling down about it...enjoy it.

[firefighter38834]

Its only sexually I feel feminine plus my wife enjoys it. It worked when role playing and most couples role play some. We tried other ways in role play but just landed on that and it works very well. Sex is only a small part of our marriage and can feel so comfortable with my style in bed because out of bed...I am dominant and have also worked very masculine jobs.

I didnt ring the bell at Buds training...probably want in here.

I hope you do find some humor in my responses. I can't change the size and wife and I both find funny things to do. Instead of feeling down about it...enjoy it.

[Thermonuclear Warrior]

The humor is directly related to the overall ridiculousness of your method, not the fact that you are essentially being humiliated by your wife. I don't find humiliation funny, but I find your behavior outlandish and thus, amusing. I do not really advocate your ways, but whatever makes you happy. I'd rather be sexless than emasculated man.

[firefighter38834]

Difference between humor and humiliation

Forget it. Your right! Whatever

Im married ....we are in love...we have both professional jobs and I am not getting wrapped up in your negative bullshit

Bye [edited out]

Edited March 23, 2013 by IrmaJean
removed profanity directed at another member

[Thermonuclear Warrior]

I'm the only one that supported your post and told you to stay here and keep posting, yet I'm the asshole. I'd understand being angry with the others here for calling you a troll, but what the hell makes me an asshole? I basically said that I"d rather find another way to be happy. I find your methods ridiculous, but I'm not criticizing you as a person, I just am questioning your way of coping. And as I said above "whatever makes you happy"

Generally, this is a pretty negative place where people vent their frustrations, and one of the major issues we have is fear of being emasculated. Your method promotes emasculation and thus invoked angry responses out of the members here. I encourage you to stay here regardless of what you may think of me. I am sure that a lot of people that are not active on here genuinely appreciate your posts and feel hopeful by your situation. However, expect for the active posters to disagree with your methods. There is nothing wrong with what you are doing and you seem happy. Many people are surely envious of your situation. However, others are not particularly open to such a relationship with their girlfriend, wife, or loved one.

[Perseverance]

If it works for firefirighter power to him.

I feel like I'm talking to a brick wall with the rest of you.

[firefighter38834]

I am anti emasculating. I am all male. Damn I work as firefighter ..water rescue ..I have been in navy s***. For maybe 6 out of all the hours in a week...I prefer lovemaking with a gentler approach. It works for us. I am not a sissy in bed. I am my wifes lover. We both have orgasms. I still have what I was born with. I am 6-0 190 and athletic ....no one can emasculate me. My wife dosent want that. I am her husband but yes in bed we can role play whatever we want. I am not pushing our style of romance but whatever your size....be flexible and allow romance to happen and if happens don't let the past drag you down.

[firefighter38834]

I got to go play firefighter an.l

[Jessie]

mmm

Malign et al,

a question was posed.... whats the point in trolling?

I would pose another question... anyone heard of vicarious thrills, amusement at others misfortune/discomfort?

Trolling is a well known internet hazard.

Now we have a some recent posters who

1. on a small penis forum has boasted about sex and compliments with his big dick

2. on a small penis forum has boasted about sex with his bi-sexual wife whilst wearing panties and using his over sized 'clitty' and open humiliation from her friends, and furthemore using lurid descriptions of being 'soooo smooth and sooo clean" 'down there'.

Now some may suggest a link and a clear sub text here.

In the spirit of convivial forum conduct I don't wish to throw around any aspersions- I leave it to others to exercise their common sense and judgment on the plausibility and authenticity of those posters.

[Jessie]

That's the thing about experience, it's an utterly worthless to gauge anything by it.

For example, your life is full of instances with women humiliating men over their size, but I can't even tell you how much I've seen and heard guys being just as horrible as well.

This reminds me when I started my apprenticeship for my first year, planned for three years. It was a year ago, and I had two days of school, sport included. Most of the people in my class were older than me, some 25y olds, some 21s etc, no teens anymore. That year, since schools apparently think humilation and shame are mandatory for your first work experience, I was denied my plead to allow myself to keep my dignity and not be forced to do sport, and thus, use the showers. I thought, "hey, these people are older than me, I'm sure they are not that immature anymore as to joke about trivial things like this!"

A week latter, everyone knew. My whole class, the teachers, everybody. Groups of guys and girls, mixed and seperated would snicker and break out in laughter when I passed them by, when driving home with the train, I could hear people who are from the same school muttering "hey, isn't that the guy with the...?!"

Only one week, being laughed at by...uhm...I don't know 200-300 people? Doesn't matter, couldn't take it anymore, nobody would help me, lost an amazing opportunity.

That's just the true nature of men. Rotten to the core, not a single drop of sympathy or empathy, just...monsters. As soon as you become a social target, the games open, you are officially sub-human.

That's why I hate people who insist that all of this is in my head...after suffering a life full of shame and no dignity, do you dare to tell me "oh, you are overreacting, it's not really like that." You don't even understand a fraction of my pain and the horror that is an average day to me.

My small penis made me curse my existence. It's like I'm destined for a shit life, no matter how much money i would make, how good my job is, I'll always be "that guy".

The core statement shouldn't be "women are more cruel/guys are more cruel towards us", the issue is "the highly sexualized western society doesn't respect or value guys like us even a little bit, the only reason why we are is to be a comic foil to EVERYONE else."

The only thing that I want now, is to watch the world burn, nothing more, nothing less.

Jeez, Bundy- Im so sorry you went through that. Humans suck sometimes.

I recall now last year we may have had a debate on who was worst for comments- male or female- I seem to recall mentioning that as Im not a macho man and don't hang out with sporty guys I may have avoided a lot of size comments from males.

And because in my life, family, friends and work have lots of females in maybe thats why most size comments I have observed have come from girls.

Maybe my London location is a factor

But having all those people insult you is NOT acceptable.

I wouldnt have done so mate- I can assure you of that- and Im pretty sure my male friends would not do that either.

I guess young folk go through a thoughtless nasty phase- thankfully its temporary.

But don't let them beat you Bundy...especially not all these years later