rex Posted January 5, 2013 Author Report Share Posted January 5, 2013 i cant tell anybody about this problem and this is the major problem because of which i cant take any help from anybody Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
finding my way Posted January 5, 2013 Report Share Posted January 5, 2013 You can take help from you.Rex, you have got to lead you out of this problem. You've been given some good suggestions... choose something you think you can do and go for it. Pretend you are the parent helping out a young child... can you see yourself struggling and having such a tough time? Give yourself some help. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rex Posted January 5, 2013 Author Report Share Posted January 5, 2013 I can overcome this but its like i cannot change what i have done .Its like i have to face this always . I wonder if i can go back in time and could change this . Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
finding my way Posted January 5, 2013 Report Share Posted January 5, 2013 If you had a son, would you tell him that the most important thing in life is how others think of you? Would you want him to think day and night about this? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rex Posted January 6, 2013 Author Report Share Posted January 6, 2013 some of my friends tell me that you mastruburate so much you will have problems during your married life .Now i am afraid if there is a problem whenever i will meet them they will discuss and laugh that becasue he was a prevert and mastruburated so much this has happened . Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
finding my way Posted January 6, 2013 Report Share Posted January 6, 2013 Too much of anything can cause trouble with relationships to others and with yourself. Including too much obsessing.Is anything going right in your life? Do you have things you are thankful for? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rex Posted January 6, 2013 Author Report Share Posted January 6, 2013 Yeah apart from this i dont have much stress !! i have IBS which is a stomach disease !! but this thing is making me sad . i am afraid of what people are thinking about me Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IrmaJean Posted January 6, 2013 Report Share Posted January 6, 2013 What do you think of you, rex? How you feel about yourself is what matters most, don't you think? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rex Posted January 7, 2013 Author Report Share Posted January 7, 2013 i think so but what people thinks about you is also very important suppose i make a new friend and if somebody tells him about me he will get negative impression . THE MAIN REASON OF MY STRESS IS WHAT IF IN FUTURE WHEREVER I GO THIS NEWS SPREADS (that i mastruburates) AS IT HAPPENED WHEN I MOVED FROM SCHOOL TO COLLEGE . If i am assured that this news will end with college i will be very very very happy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rex Posted January 10, 2013 Author Report Share Posted January 10, 2013 please reply someone Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IrmaJean Posted January 10, 2013 Report Share Posted January 10, 2013 What is it that you need right now, Rex? We're here. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
malign Posted January 10, 2013 Report Share Posted January 10, 2013 Rex, the problem is that there's very little useful that we have left to say. No one's going to hit on the magical phrase that ends your fears forever because such a phrase doesn't exist. In fact, if you've been getting little periods of relief from our reassurances, our attempts to support you may have actually made things worse, by temporarily reducing your need to go get help for yourself, which is the only way you'll find lasting relief for your problem.Now, we'll be happy to support and encourage you in trying to find help, but there's no way anyone can reassure you enough to beat this obsession, simply because that's not how obsession works. You will always be able to think up new "what-if" situations to torment yourself with ... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rex Posted January 11, 2013 Author Report Share Posted January 11, 2013 i just want that this news should not spread with me wherever i go . this should be dissolved here only (college) . Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
malign Posted January 11, 2013 Report Share Posted January 11, 2013 I want that too, Rex. And I'm just as powerless to make it happen.Maybe it would help not to think of it as "news". I don't think people care about this particular fact; they're just looking for some reason to make fun of someone. So, maybe the best idea would be to find people who don't have that need? The staggering majority of people in the world couldn't care less what you do in private. That doesn't mean that you're not important; it means that masturbation isn't that important.Which makes me wonder what else is going on in your life, particularly when you're with other people ... But really, that's material for a therapist, and I'm not one. Please try to find a therapist; you'll feel better. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rex Posted January 11, 2013 Author Report Share Posted January 11, 2013 actually they never bully me and they dont care whether i am taking it seriously or not they just want to enjoy within themselves so they say about this and laugh among them but they never ignore me or something like that but i feel exposed that is the problem . Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
finding my way Posted January 11, 2013 Report Share Posted January 11, 2013 You can change this feeling of being exposed by learning how to calm yourself.Have you tried any of the things people have suggested here?A therapist is also a good idea. He or she could walk you through how to do it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rex Posted January 13, 2013 Author Report Share Posted January 13, 2013 I also want someone to guide me but as i mentioned earlier this kind of problem which i have i cant discuss it with anybody here . That is why i am taking help on web. I am taking a medicine due to which my fear is reduced . But this guilt feeling and feeling of being exposed is not diminishing . I need suggestions ? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IrmaJean Posted January 14, 2013 Report Share Posted January 14, 2013 I also want someone to guide me but as i mentioned earlier this kind of problem which i have i cant discuss it with anybody here.Rex, do you mean you can't discuss this with friends or family or do you also mean you can't talk with a counselor? Many people feel anxiety talking with a therapist about their struggles. Anxiety is something that you would be working with the therapist to try to reduce, though. You could also discuss and work with your feelings of guilt and being exposed.Have you tried any of the relaxation techniques that have been suggested? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rex Posted January 14, 2013 Author Report Share Posted January 14, 2013 yes had it been some other problem related to studies career i would have easily shared but this problem of mine i cant discuss it with anybody (Its like a crime here) can you suggest me any free online therapy . Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rex Posted January 18, 2013 Author Report Share Posted January 18, 2013 I am again feeling very bad . I am fearing too much about future how can i get out of this.. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
malign Posted January 18, 2013 Report Share Posted January 18, 2013 There's no magic "get out of fear free" card, Rex. I still think your best chance is to bring up your fears with a mental health professional, and seek their help, if that's at all possible. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rex Posted January 20, 2013 Author Report Share Posted January 20, 2013 ok and is there any other option except this . I am feeling that this will also spread when i grew up .My reputation will be destroyed and most imp my family's pride . I have this fear . Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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