malign Posted March 7, 2013 Report Share Posted March 7, 2013 "I'm scouring the Internet for things to assure myself I'm ok."Perse: what does the internet know about you, that it can tell whether or not you're okay?In the end, the only person who can assure you of anything is you, because the only person any of us really believes is ourselves.There's a reason it's a cliché that you can't love someone else until you love yourself.Luckily, that's something you can work on; it's not like "falling in love" with yourself. It's more like getting to know what you have to offer. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IrmaJean Posted March 7, 2013 Report Share Posted March 7, 2013 (edited) I'm scouring the Internet for things to assure myself I'm ok.This comment caught my eye as well.Ever heard about locus of control? External sources might feed your need for reassurance briefly, but ultimately you’d want to feel okay with yourself from within. I understand how difficult it can be to create that kind of change. What happens if you assure yourself that you’re okay? Edited March 7, 2013 by IrmaJean types poorly Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Perseverance Posted March 7, 2013 Report Share Posted March 7, 2013 Malign did you watch that shitty video? My GF bought me some new jeans by the way. Tighter jeans than I normally wear. Now I have to worry about women checking out my nonexistent package wherever I go. Scouring the Internet? You know I really don't know what I'm doing. I can't even imagine myself being into sex even if it happens this weekend I'm going to feel like such a joke. Ugh this mood I'm so unbelievably pissed off. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
malign Posted March 7, 2013 Report Share Posted March 7, 2013 Hell no, I don't watch stuff that's calculated to make people feel bad, if I can help it.The girl who made it doesn't know anything about you either. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jessie Posted March 7, 2013 Report Share Posted March 7, 2013 but you are not a joke to your GF!!!she bought you the jeans!! shes seen your dick!!if you wanna impress other women then buy padded underwear!though I suspect your GF will not WANT you trying to impress other girls.you WILL be into sex at the w/e- you have a great girl that you fancy- let things take their course- it will be fine.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Perseverance Posted March 7, 2013 Report Share Posted March 7, 2013 I don't think it was calculated. Seemed very legit. Bill Clinton "I didn't inhale"Women "you're fine"Really? Seems like its something you have to say regardless because if anything is admitted you'll lose what you have. That's how I feel this is. Took me weeks to a good spot. Regardless of what is said I have to start all over and most of you know it. Pat me on the back say its going to be fine and of a sudden it's all better. Yea ok. Deep down I feel the truth is she won't leave me over my penis. But I do believe it would feel better for her if my penis was average or a little above average. She's missing out on that experience. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IrmaJean Posted March 7, 2013 Report Share Posted March 7, 2013 She has chosen to be with you of her own free will. Maybe allow that? I understand how difficult it can be to feel secure with oneself. The space you describe when you feel good about yourself is something to build further on. You may be vulnerable in the beginning and old feelings may come back up, but it's possible to feel better and better about yourself. Maybe try using kind and encouraging self-talk? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jessie Posted March 7, 2013 Report Share Posted March 7, 2013 mate- you said she was good looking?so she has options?she's CHOSEN you...thats gotta count for a helluva lot.you dont have to tell me about the 'missing out' guilt and the "if only it was a little bit..." self torture.... jeez, I have the copyrightBUT look at you!!! a hot GF who wants to spend the w/e with you!! HELLO!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Karezza Posted March 8, 2013 Report Share Posted March 8, 2013 Hi Perseverance,SPS is the luxury of us guys who are alone. Don't let this ruin another relationship for you, you got a girl that wants to love you, sending you sweet '<3' texts. Put some trust in her, she's still with you after all. Think of it this way, if you being a bit bigger really mattered, it would be cruel of her to keep going out with you. So in other words, if she doesn't enjoy sex with you for that reason, it's entirely her fault!Take her out somewhere a picnic or something romantic, a walk in forest, along river at night, in city, or something exciting, something she can have good memories of. I know that stuff seems obvious but in hindsight you will WISH you focused harder on those things that you can control instead of worrying over things you can't. I know this so well my friend because I've been where you are now.The more she falls in love with you the better sex will feel for her. The mind can give the body whatever feeling it desires, I am sure of that. If she really falls in love with you just a slightest touch will drive her crazy.Just my thoughts. Take care. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
iinside56 Posted March 8, 2013 Report Share Posted March 8, 2013 Go out there and explore! She wants you, NO ONE ELSE but you! Every girl out there has options, she dropped those options because she sees value in a relationship with you Good Luck! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CantGiveItAway Posted March 8, 2013 Report Share Posted March 8, 2013 Can you imagine being in a place for yourself mentally, where youre not thinking of body parts(critically) when having sex? Even if you dont think or feel that way right "now". Just being there, having a certain connection with someone. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Perseverance Posted March 11, 2013 Report Share Posted March 11, 2013 Had sex twice this weekend. Was good for me as usual. I'm not really impressed with myself though but I guess it's good enough for her. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jessie Posted March 11, 2013 Report Share Posted March 11, 2013 glad to hear it P Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
infrared_radiation Posted March 12, 2013 Report Share Posted March 12, 2013 I got laid like a week and a half ago, and the girl described my cock as 'big'. That is at least the third time I have had a girl make similar comments about my penis size.Now, that should be a good thing for me. And in a way it is, but that doesn't really count for all that much. It doesn't make me a happy person. It doesn't make all those nights I spend alone any less lonely. It doesn't stop me from having a plethora of other personal problems....In porn there is this recurring theme that seems to be pretty ubiquitous nowadays:"Black men have massive cocks, and all the white women are gagging for them"Sometimes it is accompanied by the following claim:"White men have small cocks"Porn isn't a totally accurate portrayal of normal or typical human sexual behaviour, of course. But it's still something that has influence and importance to some degree in our society, and it also consists of real, actual sexual acts that genuinely took place. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
infrared_radiation Posted March 12, 2013 Report Share Posted March 12, 2013 For you guys who perceive yourself to have a small penis, how small is it actually?This is an interesting map - not sure how accurate it is though:http://todayilearned.co.uk/wp-content/uploads/2011/03/Penis-Size-Distribution.jpg Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dvnJ22 Posted March 12, 2013 Report Share Posted March 12, 2013 I should move to South Korea. There average size is 3.7, I'm 3 1/2 . It sounds like a good fit. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
infrared_radiation Posted March 12, 2013 Report Share Posted March 12, 2013 I have personally measured my own penis at 8 inches erect but it's difficult to get it to stay erect for long and get a good measurement with a tape measure. I have measured it as being that long or even longer, but it needs to be fully erect, and it's hard (no pun intended) to get it to stay fully erect and stay still whilst trying to use a tape measure on it!By comparison, the largest average size of any country is 7.1 inches.A point worth noting though is that I have found normal condoms to be too small and tight. As in, they are difficult to get on my penis and when I do get them on, they can be quite painfully tight. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Perseverance Posted March 12, 2013 Report Share Posted March 12, 2013 Oh boy that must be awful Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jessie Posted March 12, 2013 Report Share Posted March 12, 2013 yes IR, you poor thing, being admired and complimented on for having a large unit.I don't know how you cope. The sex and female companionship must be so awfully tiresome.Thanks for sharing though... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
malign Posted March 12, 2013 Report Share Posted March 12, 2013 I hope you guys will give infrared a chance. Granted that his post clearly indicates that he doesn't understand this forum and the problems of those in it, he does have some problems of his own that may not be completely unrelated. It might be worth reading some of his posts, elsewhere; maybe some of the similarities will be useful. He too is convinced of his inferiority based on less than conclusive evidence ...Maybe in turn there's stuff he can learn from you guys; who knows? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jessie Posted March 12, 2013 Report Share Posted March 12, 2013 Malign - your patience is endless, nay legendary- I kind of suspect IR is a sophisticated troll but maybe I'm simply jealous and grumpy.Or maybe he didn't realise that mentioning his 8 incher maybe upsetting on a SMALL penis site. Hmmm.In the meantime I find it hard to shed tears for handsome/rich/well endowed fellow men. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dvnJ22 Posted March 12, 2013 Report Share Posted March 12, 2013 Thanks Malign, you have been very helpful and comforting. I've always thought that are universe is just as amazing and magical as Star Wars, or lord of the rings. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
malign Posted March 12, 2013 Report Share Posted March 12, 2013 I'm finally a legend in my own mind! :-)If you read his post #67, his point is that size may not be enough for a guy to feel like a man, and that's precisely what SPS (for guys who aren't really small) is. Size is clearly not enough for him to feel confident. Now, I might have wondered about some other motive if I hadn't read his thread under the Sexuality forum. As it is, I think he's suffering too, just from something different.Being somewhat autistic, by his own description, it's possible that infrared doesn't completely understand that what he wrote before might be hurtful. If I thought he did mean harm, you can be sure I would already have put a stop to it. Jessie 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Thermonuclear Warrior Posted March 13, 2013 Report Share Posted March 13, 2013 I feel the same way as the other guys. Why mention his size? He clearly won't get approval here that way. My first instinct was to ignore the remainder of his posts because he does not relate to this problem. However, I'd rather not regress to my former self. If he wants to relate to the people here, he'd be better off debunking the stereotypes associated with a large penis. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
infrared_radiation Posted March 13, 2013 Report Share Posted March 13, 2013 I'm not trying to be insensitive. I'm not a troll.It's just that even having a larger sized penis DOES NOT in itself make a guy happy.Having a decent size penis is not going to get you laid. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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