Crazy things I do

[Karezza]

Penis size is no excuse for being angry towards a loved one IMO. What is making him angry?

[Girlfriend-here]

I dunno he just has a hectic anger problem..... Enough for me to walk away. Spoke to his mum and she said he used to be a lovely teenager then just went angry. Like if something happens his anger doesn't match the situation.... Would it be a result of his penis frustration or deeper then that? He's a pretty closed book I think...

[Karezza]

I doubt it. Probably. I think you were right to walk away. Sorry it didn't work out, Girlfriend-here.

[Jessie]

almost certainly size related anger

there is something about this condition that has a profound effect on the sufferer

I have had doses of that anger,,,, but I am a very placid guy, but ever since I have been a teen, if I hear a guy or girl make a size comment, no matter how minor, I feel sick 1st, then depressed and at times burning rage.

And all of these emotions spill into other areas of life, at times.

Girlfriend here, if hes violent then RUN!.

But otherwise try and get him therapy- there may be a nicer guy under the surface who just needs love and help...

[Karezza]

Yes I am sorry, I agree with Jessie actually

[Girlfriend-here]

No not violent and sadly there is a lovely guy underneath... He's angry towards his mum like he's frustrated at her. With me he just shuts down n does mean things like will snap or make little mean comments that are stupid but he knows they'd hurt me... Hmmm at work he's boss n takes anger out on workers.

do u take it out on ur parents? Ur mum? His mum has no idea why he's angry, and he's just come out of a pretty volatile relationship well like 6 months ago, and I'm so the opposite to that. Like if I was any more laid back I'd probably fall over. I'm not one to fight or be so jealous. Tricky!

[Jessie]

Ah well... he might sub consciously resent his mum for his size.

Its not logical as such but he came from her.... he may resent his mom (or dad) for his predicament.

Or maybe he simply resents his mom because familiarity can breed contempt.

Im sorry to hear he's a bully at work- I cant stand bullying managers, my boss's boss is a bully too and I hate her

You could ask him to do therapy or have a trial separation- see how he responds?

[Girlfriend-here]

Mmm yes i think so. I'm happy I tried with him but I think his insecurities have eaten him alive. Until he wants to change I think there's not much point pushing him. But I can suggest. Thanks Jessie

Oh I also was just wondering out of curiosity wats the time frame for breaking up with a girl to picking urself up again and trying again? Dies it take a long time to recover or not really?

[Jessie]

well for normal guys it varies from 'no time' to years.

for guys like us, well, I think its a lot more difficult.

Finding a girl who can accept us isnt easy.... so not only does the guy mourn the loss of the relationship and the sudden gap in his life, he also knows it may be a long time before he finds anyone again.

When my last girl (who I only knew for weeks) left me I was devastated. And she didnt treat me very gracefully in the end. But I am over it now.

When my other previous gfs left years ago i was borderline suicide but did eventually date again.

I know its not what you wanna hear perhaps.... but you also know you cannot stay for guilt..... you have every right to be happy and content.

[Girlfriend-here]

Well he found a girl that doesn't mind , as rare as you have indicated, but it hasn't helped. Appears to go deeper. Stressing me out.

[malign]

I wanted to welcome 'firefighter38834' to the group, and apologize for us not having approved his posts very quickly. You'll have to go back a page to see them. Sometimes the activity here can get ahead of us a little, especially on weekends, and I apologize for that.

[Jessie]

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[Jessie]

I make small penis jokes with my present wife and we both laugh. My wife and I decided a few years ago after serving with the number one spec-ops group in military. I am a type-A guy to the max. So if I don't have a big cock...we changed it to a big clit...I got the biggest clit.

I told Michelle ..sweetheart I don't have affairs but the neatest asset of small penises is: we can engage in affairs and never get caught but if wife has affair...we will know instantly!

I am really ok with having a big clit...fits well in panties ..

My wife is a nurse and she is meant for me...she was at work one day and was texting and texted me for my size. I laughed to self ( she knows very well) ...4.75 and skinny. About 5 more minutes she told me to text it one more time. I did and when she got home I asked what was that about. She laughed and said she was with 2 other nurses at lunch and both were talking about thier hubby cock and pleasure ..Lisa told me about her husbands bug cock and it was ok but hurt. The other nurse said her husband was 7 and pretty thick and she orgasmed about 80% of time. Michelle told me they asked her about our sex life and I told them was rare I never multiples. They asked your size so I had you text it to me...they just couldn't understand ...back in er Lisa told me to get you to text size again so she would believe and you did...

Lisa asked me our secret I showed her a pic on phone on you in boyshorts ...she was like. Tell me more..no Michelle assured me I kept most of our secrets. Before her shift was over Lisa came over to her and said " my husband wears panties to"

We have to love our sex life...I still have a few moments of small penis syndrome but not as many!

how awful

i assume this is a sick joke?

[Jessie]

Well he found a girl that doesn't mind , as rare as you have indicated, but it hasn't helped. Appears to go deeper. Stressing me out.

often finding that 'rare' girl can make it worse

hes thinking he must be the smallest you ever had

he thinks you joke behind his back

he thinks you are cheating on him

he thinks you must be about to leave him

he thinks you must have a hidden agenda...

when i was with my last few gfs i was terrified of not satisfying them.

So although I hate being single- its kinda less stressful- I cannot disappoint anyone if Im alone.

So it may be no deeper than that really.

[malign]

Jess, is it fair to call anyone else's way of coping with this "sick"? He isn't telling you to do the same, just describing what works for him.

There may be people who wouldn't be able to do what you've chosen, abstinence, but should we let them criticize you for it?

I think we need to go back to a fairly basic old rule we call "do unto others", not as they may have done to you, but as you would wish they would. And it's not a rule because someone powerful said so, but just because it works better than the alternatives.

[Jessie]

Malign- are we talking about the same post?

the one where his wife ridicules him with her friends and makes him wear panties?

and that they call his manhood a big clitty?

[malign]

I'm not sure I heard "makes him", Jess.

And why do you care what they call it, between them?

As I said, he did not tell you all that because he thought everybody should do it that way, or so they could make fun of him. Wasn't there a thread on "cuckolding", not too long ago? None of this is a recommendation; it's people describing how they cope.

In what way do you support him by calling him some name? Even if you think he's "doing it wrong", have you often found it effective, in trying to help people to change, to call them "sick" first? Okay, maybe it seems like that's what doctors do, but here we're all just people with our own flaws, who maybe should refrain from throwing the first stone ...

[Jessie]

Malign, I honestly think he's a troll having a laugh at our expense.

He may be the same guy boasting about his 8 inch dick and all the compliments he gets.

Yeah I see the cuckolding stuff on porn sites- I really think it would be fair to call that profoundly unhealthy.

Im open minded but if thats not perverse then frankly the word 'perverse' has become redundant.

And if all this 'clitty' stuff is true (which I doubt), surely to goodness his wife (and her friends) haven't one shred of respect for him....

[Bundy]

I'm with you Jessie, after having a concealed racist here last week, now with this I absolutely don't feel like ever visiting here again. That stuff the new guy wrote is some seriously deranged stuff, I feel extremely uncomfortable reading these stories. How someone can willingly let himself be treated this badly blows my mind. I mean, he has to deal with a woman who doesn't respect him a little bit, but yet here I am, shacking with anger, almost cracking my keyboard.

People like firefighter and his woman are the reason I hate this world so fucking much, that I just want set this heap of garbage on fire. It just makes me realize how almost nobody respects us, how we small guys only roam this fucking place just to be a laughingstock to everyone, how our most realistic chances for anything are always connected to humilation, shame and and an absolute lack of dignity.

Just fuck everything, seriously, just fuck this utter and completely shit world.

[malign]

Returning to the topic of the thread, "Crazy things I do", there are days when I wonder why I try to run a mental health website ...

If I were to develop the perfect troll detector, or even a fair one, I would definitely be able to retire on the proceeds. Instead, I pretty much have to take people at face value, because it's way too easy to let fear do the thinking, instead. It's not that I don't see or understand the risks, but that the only way to eliminate the risks is to shut down completely. So far, my way has worked okay for me, despite having been tested a few times. But I'm not preaching. Every person makes their own decisions about how to live. Which may be relevant to the discussion about sex, too.

At least I've never tried to tell someone else what sex "should be", if only because then I'd have to let higher authorities (whatever they are) tell me.

If you think 'firefighter's being treated badly, you might want to pay attention to some of the rest of the site. At least he's old enough to decide what he wants, and with whom to do it.

No one says anyone else has to do the same, nor is his way the only one "the world" will allow. If it's not something you would ever do, then just don't do it. Why the rage at him because he does?

[Bundy]

I'm sorry, but the "who am I to say what kind of sex is wrong" things is just tiptoeing around the actual problem, the fact that no one should feel that way to begin with. Someone used the same argument once for a rape victim who did rape-play with her boyfriend, as her way to deal with what was done to her - It may help her cope with that incident, but I'm sure you agree with the notion that she shouldn't have been raped in the first place?

penis humilation is the same goddamn thing, a very wrong form of sexuality that shouldn't exist to begin with, because it spawned from cruel comments and actions in the past. People patronizing this shit, even if only with allowing themselves to be victim, makes me extremely mad.

Is it really so hard to understand why stories like firefighters are upsetting people, malign? Doesn't everyone of us want to just feel like he belongs to the crowd, not being a freak and not having to make up excuses like "oh well, if they laugh, they don't deserve to be my friends anyway!"

Every fucking goddamn day being reminded of this, overhearing conversation demeaning people like me even further, just the very fact that the only reason why I exist, is so that other guys can look at me and think "at least I don't have it this bad", to just serve as everyones clown in this undignified life.

And I can't even do anything about it, I can only tolerate it, because finally lashing out like it would be rightfully so would only worsen the overall situation of my life.

It's all just one sick joke, that I can't bear anymore. Maybe other people can still lead fullfilling lives while most people are just pointing their fingers at them and snicker, but I can't. Life shouldn't be this way, people constantly trampling over my feelings and belittering me, it's a life unworthy of being lived.

Maybe one day people will think about body shaming the same way I do, but until it's that day, I just can't be happy, not even remotely.

I literally feel like a black guy in the late 60s, seeing the glimmer of social progress, but still suffering from policies and laws to made life for my people pure hell.

[Jessie]

malign

I myself wouldn't presume to tell anyone what sex should be like, nor do I think the poster was preaching.

Nor do I feel rage (though I understand why Bundy does)

If the poster is true- I feel pity for him and pity for me too- because you are right- as unlike me, at least he's getting some sex, even if its the lowest, most humiliating and degrading form of sex imaginable.

If the poster is lying- he is just being mean for kicks.

I suspect its the latter and most likely a guy doing it.

Bad enough to be bad mouthed by women in society, now we have our fellow men laughing it up. Nice.

ps Im not suggesting you censor him- Im just pointing out that he's probably a troll- its up to others to decide if he's authentic

pps Irma/Gh-Here/ Cece- how would you feel about treating your partner like this?

[malign]

I hope you'll credit that I'm genuinely trying to follow you, Bundy ... If a girl who was raped came on the boards and said she enjoyed rape-play with her boyfriend, I would definitely still feel that she shouldn't have been raped in the first place.

Assuming for the moment that you don't mean that she was raped by her current boyfriend, I'm missing the connection. I probably wouldn't call her sick or perverse or deranged (all words used directly about 'firefighter'), certainly not where she could read that, just because a behavior that she has chosen as a coping mechanism might not be healthy for her (note that whatever the behavior might be, the person is still a person, which I also believe to be true of you guys, which may be why any of you still listens to me at all ...)

And whatever treatment I might recommend for dealing with the rape, I still wouldn't try to tell her directly what to do, or not to do, in bed. If the trauma itself can be addressed, she'll make her own changes in good time, or not, as the case may be. It's not my job either way to lay some kind of "should" on her. People have to change themselves, and for that they have to want to. It's not something that you do to them, from outside.

It's a rather elaborate lie, Jess, including a lot of life history that doesn't add to any "joke" and posted on several threads besides this one. It would have been more ... trollish? if he had suggested that everyone else who's small should try it, or whatever. As it is, the only person he has really opened up to humiliation is himself (and sadly, that's what he has received, it seems to me.)

[Jessie]

well I wouldnt dream of humiliating a genuine poster and if I have misjudged him I apologise.

I am truly open to non conventional ideas- I myself have considered relationships with intersex individuals even though I am straight (hoping they would be sympathetic to my issue)- I have pretty much ruled it out now (its just a step too far for me) but I hope it gives you an idea of just how willing I am to push the paradigms in order to achieve peace and/or sexual companionship.

But the degree of degradation we are talking about here - well I dunno, Im no head doctor- but it seems a step too far I would have thought- and this a SPS site- the mention of panties and clitty etc- you know- sounds like mockery.

[Bundy]

You completely missed the point malign, the rape thing was just an example for how something wrong (in this case, rape) may lead to a person developing sexual tastes that are per se not wrong, but come from something that is just that.

I didn't call firefighter sick and deranged, I called this whole "sex based upon the concept of body shaming" thing deranged, which you can't argue with me, as someone who admins a mentalhelp forum, you should now how much damage this inflicts upon people. That's like saying bullying isn't a big deal, while we all know that it's a cancer that needs to be killed.

This isn't about firefighter for me (him being a troll or not doesn't even matter), it's about the current state of world for guys like us. I never once told him what he "should" do, it's his life, but the fact that he even exists is what pisses me off this badly.

I said it in my post before, and I'm going to say it again; Living as someone who has been recognized as a clown/laughing stock is incredibly hard for me. I know that there are people who can brush these things off, I've read stories from geniunely ugly women that suffer the same kind of thing.

Nobody in society recognizes their pain and always belittles them with garbage like "looks don't matter", while they suffered years from men and women not wanting to give them a second of their times, being treated more harshly in the work environment and social life than everyone around them.

It's just not right, I can't be happy like this. I'm the same kind of person who would bite of his tongue before torture, kill himself if I was a slave, etc, because living like this and enduring injustice every goddamn day destroys my worth of life.

I'm 21y old, and I already can't lift my head against the collective shame that is forced upon me from todays oversexualized society, how utterly pathetic and not living-worthy. That's why I've been dreaming about finding all these assholes that made horrible comments about small guys (in body and penis size) and less fortunate women, and carving my message of equality into their skulls.

Look at me, I'm 21, bloodlusted, and I'm already fantasizing about revenge all the time, while not being born as a sociopath, just someone who has been warped to this heinous human being because of the mistreatment of others.

That's all the feelings that get triggered inside of me when I read posts like firefighters.