nathan Posted May 22, 2013 Report Share Posted May 22, 2013 I think sometimes I bully people because I am insecure. I am often anxious. And when I happen to be anxious when someone vastly subordinate or a better word might be inexperienced in comparison to me, when this person is around me, the chances are that I will push him around to avoid the humility of the fact that I am anxious. And I don't do this around people with more experience than me, not because I am afraid of a fair fight or a challenge necessarily, but because I find it permissible to show humility in front of some one above me. Constance 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
malign Posted May 22, 2013 Report Share Posted May 22, 2013 I have a similar problem, but with professional peers, people who are approximately equal to me in skills and experience. There's more competition in that situation, for me, so I find myself less tolerant of their opinions and more likely to disagree strongly. The underlying issue is that I want to be right, otherwise I'm afraid I'll seem less competent. Maybe what that's saying is that I am "afraid of a fair fight", at least until it starts. And as you say, it's more difficult to express humility in that context. For me, it's harder there than anywhere else I go ... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rose Posted May 24, 2013 Report Share Posted May 24, 2013 Maybe you have something in you that wants to make you shine out brightly between people wanting to feel rare or unique or special Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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