Bindy Posted June 23, 2013 Report Share Posted June 23, 2013 I am a indian guy who has only been with one woman and have now divorced and she said that i was small. i now have no confidence and want a woman's view please gabriellopuyhovsciq and OccavyLurrera 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
u.r.what.u.is Posted June 24, 2013 Report Share Posted June 24, 2013 Bindy, believe me (sorry, I'm not a woman), five inches is plenty. I have the same dimension, and the two women I have had sex with were both satisfied. In fact, the one who was the most impressed with my abilities in bed was the one who had many partners in her life. Your ex wife probably told you that you were too small specifically to manipulate you. I say, BULLSHIT! Move on and find a real woman. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
malign Posted June 24, 2013 Report Share Posted June 24, 2013 I'm not a woman either, but I am a divorced man, and if I listened to everything my ex ever said about me, I'd be dead by now.I mean that quite literally; it wasn't until I stopped listening that I stopped being suicidal.It might be fun to ask her how she knows ... :-) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wastedlife Posted June 24, 2013 Report Share Posted June 24, 2013 Most good looking confident women who like wild sex don't like anything that's 6 inches or less. Few will accept you with less then 5 inches, usually ones who got problems themselves (ie: severely obese...)...imho Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Victimorthecrime Posted June 25, 2013 Report Share Posted June 25, 2013 Bindy, if your penis gets good and hard & you can rub it under her clitoris during intercourse she will enjoy it if she likes you. Also there is a lot more to sex than penetration - touching & oral so go for it, live your life. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Notdoneyet Posted June 25, 2013 Report Share Posted June 25, 2013 All ex wives insist that the sex with their ex wasn't good and he always was too small for them.that is until they are on their own and trying to land another meal ticket.Then the guy with 4.5" is plenty. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
siddiqui Posted June 26, 2013 Report Share Posted June 26, 2013 See just the fact that you jokingly implied that she'll land with a man with a smaller penis disgusts me. It's a joke to you too. Why is that a fucking joke? A smaller penis. Get out of this forum Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
malign Posted June 26, 2013 Report Share Posted June 26, 2013 Um, that's not actually how it works around here, people telling one another to get out.Instead, it might be worthwhile considering where the person you have a problem with is coming from. Humor may be his way of coping, for instance; I'm sure it wasn't meant to mock anyone, or at least not the man.This is a hard enough problem to deal with without chasing off opinions just because they're different from yours. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
u.r.what.u.is Posted June 26, 2013 Report Share Posted June 26, 2013 See just the fact that you jokingly implied that she'll land with a man with a smaller penis disgusts me. It's a joke to you too. Why is that a fucking joke? A smaller penis. Get out of this forumThe way I read it, he's only saying that the ex wife will use a double standard. She might tell her ex that five is too small, knowing how it will embarrass him, but the next guy with four and a half would be fine for her. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
siddiqui Posted June 26, 2013 Report Share Posted June 26, 2013 I apologize. I may have been rash in interpreting that post in some way. I take that back. It hurt nonetheless that the punchline was that she ended up with a smaller penis and that was worse than before. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
u.r.what.u.is Posted June 26, 2013 Report Share Posted June 26, 2013 I know where you're coming from. Lately I'm doing better, but the same defense instinct has been seared into my mind since I was a teen. It's actually a serious form of stress. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
malign Posted June 26, 2013 Report Share Posted June 26, 2013 I understand, siddiqui, and I don't hold it against you.To me, though, the punchline was that she would probably accept anyone who'd pay the bills, regardless of size. And that's a very different message from the one you heard. The interesting question is, why do you and I hear different messages in the same words? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
siddiqui Posted June 26, 2013 Report Share Posted June 26, 2013 No. Sorry. Read it again. If what you're purporting was the intended punchline then there was no need to mention 4.5 inches. And then that smug emoticon with the sunglasses. I'm reading what's written Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IrmaJean Posted June 26, 2013 Report Share Posted June 26, 2013 I am a indian guy who has only been with one woman and have now divorced and she said that i was small. i now have no confidence and want a woman's view pleaseI am a woman who appreciates and values a man for his mind and his heart. His body would then naturally be attractive to me exactly as it is.You use the words "I am..." Can you use those words to describe other aspects of yourself? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
malign Posted June 26, 2013 Report Share Posted June 26, 2013 How much do you know about 'Notdoneyet', siddiqui?Here's his first post on our site, in a topic about penis enlargement sites:I believe that in cases where this appears to work the guys who show improvement weren't really finished with puberty for some reason and it finally occurred.I tried all sorts of manipulations manually and it never resulted in anything other than the 4.5 inches that I ended up with after puberty ceased at the age of thirteen or so. You have what you have and you need to learn to live with it. The very first thing you have to come to grips with is that it really doesn't matter what some potential relationship partner thinks about your stuff cause it's there for YOUR pleasure. Not his or hers.In other words, the size he gave is his own. I doubt that he did that in order to make fun of someone. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
siddiqui Posted June 26, 2013 Report Share Posted June 26, 2013 I apologize again. I take back whatever I've said. I'll be more careful from now on Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
malign Posted June 26, 2013 Report Share Posted June 26, 2013 Well, I just want to make sure you don't misinterpret my meaning ...I'm not making this point to punish or humiliate you. I have an obvious interest in reducing hostility on the site, because it interferes with people hearing and supporting each other, but I'm a very reluctant censor.I'm making the point because it's important to this forum. Everyone filters the opinions they receive through the opinions they already hold; undoubtedly, _I_ interpreted Notdoneyet's post through my own opinions and experiences. I'm not saying mine are right and yours are wrong, just that this situation demonstrates just how much this effect matters to different people's interpretation of the same words. The effect is accentuated when the words are typed, and there is no auditory or visual feedback to help. Even then, the results are quite different from person to person. Definitely, the smiley you saw as "smug" could have been chosen for a vast number of different reasons.I'm harping on it, too, because you've talked about quality of evidence, that anecdotes of the experiences of individual other people mean less than controlled studies of large groups. I would submit that there's a quality of evidence that's even higher than that: one's own experience. If you can say about some particular experience, "I've felt that," you're never going to question its existence again.So, if in the end you agree that your filters and mine produced two widely different readings of the same material, it might be interesting to wonder in what other ways your interpretations might be different from other people's. I can't direct that inquiry; that's your job, and your life. But I am suggesting it's an inquiry worth doing. siddiqui 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
siddiqui Posted July 2, 2013 Report Share Posted July 2, 2013 I agree. Part of the CBT therapy is to change the way I think. You're right Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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