Need help with my life

[ironybear]

(I NEED YOUR HELP,LITTLE LONG BUT READ THE WHOLE THING, it's intriguing) My life is miserable. I am diagnosed with ADHD and ODD, and mood disorder when I was 14, Now I'm 15. I have every single last symptom. My parents (foreigners) refuse to believe it's real due to how they to deal with kids back in Africa, since they're cheapskates because we do not qualify for any type of goverment assistance and only pay for the medication so they won't get blamed for negligence in case for the police comes to our house and ask if I'm taking medication when for another domestic dispute between me and my mother. My mom and ARGUE at least twice a day EVERYDAY literally. She treats me bad, and I naturally verbally retaliate. She is widely known to have anger management issues with us, people at work, at church, and at my school teachers and she refuses to admit it. In her mind. she's right and you're wrong She and my father has been violently disciplining me, since I was little not knowing that I had ADHD, despite getting in trouble for talking at school, numerous complaints by almost every teacher in every grade about wandering around, almost never being on task, and low grades. Finally, my mom had enough and vented out to the doctor. The doctor suggested I may have ADHD. And suggested to us a pyschiatrist who was her friend to see her as soon a possible and told me that it may vastly improve my live. My mom brushed it off. After 2 months, I had enough, after she once again for the 3rd time cancelled our meeting to pyschiatrist, because she wanted to go to the mall with her friend. We went to pyschiatrist's office where she unexpectedly cancelled the visit.. I had enough and confronted her about this on our way back home. I wanted help, I wanted to change and stop arguing everyday. She was ashamed about the possibility of having a kid with a mental illness. We started to argue intensely on our way back home then she stopped the car in the middle of the road and yelled at me to get out. I refused because we were a mile and a half away from home. She got out the front seat, opened the back door and yanked me out. I argued and argued. She grabbed a stick and threw it at me. I ran away and dodged it. I ran back to the car but I was too far away as she started to drive a way. I was so mad, I grabbed my shoe and threw it her bumper. I walked home, and about 20 minutes after being home alone. My mom called the police and said she was tired of me and I need to go somewhere else. We explained to the police what happened and he asked if I wanted to leave and handcuffed me just for safety. Where I was taken to a pyschiatric emergency room. Later called my Mom and they questioned. I was giving a blanket and some food while she was in the other room getting questioned. After a few hours, next thing I know. I'm being taken in a van to a mental hospital. I stay there for 2 weeks, I was loaded on Seroquel and Depakote. Had an allegric reaction, with in which my tongue felt like it was 20 pounds. I met some people with mental illnesses, my life was a schedule. My relationship with my mother temporarily mended during visitation hour. I later find out, That my mother stated that in the car incident that I tried to kill her.. I was so confused, I told them all I did was throw a shoe at her bumper as she drove away. And in fact that she that she was more violent and struck me with a her fist multiple times to my back and she threw a stick at me. The next day, I'm released. My Mom requested to take me out after being asked if it was true and told about my allergic reaction. The next day, My mom took the ADHD evaluation test for me, and I had all the symptoms. The doctor criticized my mom for barely seeing a doctor about this when it was going on my whole life. I was taking Vyvanse Seroquel and Depakote, and I was a miracle, I was more happy, focused and I had mostly A's and B's. Our mended relationship was temporary as it lasted a month, and we started arguing everyday again. She decided to leave pyschiatrist as when it was almost time for a refill. When the medication was finished, she told me she quit and that she didn't want to waste her money on nothing. After 5 months without meds. My grades had slipped and I was getting in trouble in school again. My Dad had decided to do my mental health, it was summer, and I had barely passed because my semester grades averaged out. We had a new pyschiatrist during that time my parents threatened to take me back to the mental hospital at least 50 times. I took adderall xr and intuniv for a 1 month but my Dad said I was arguing with my mom and I had trouble sleeping. Then I was switched to Vyvanse, with Intinituv and ABILIFY. The doctor suggested family therapy but my mom REFUSED Here we are today. My mom and I had arguement, she hit me with a chair and a pan. I suffered no injuries=no proof. But then accidently broke her door to get my phone back. She's going to call the hospital later. What do I do..?

[malign]

That's a difficult story, bear. I'm sorry it's been like that for you.

They're not likely to take you into the hospital unless you're a danger to self or others, and that doesn't seem like something your mother can prove at the moment, is it? It's not really an option to be tired of one's child and want them to go somewhere else, at least in the States (I'm guessing that's where you are.) Your parents may not realize that yet, but we would probably call that neglect, or abuse. If I were you, I would tell the social workers about being hit today, even without visible marks. You can be sure she's telling them whatever she thinks is true; it doesn't make sense not to be honest, yourself.

I went to a psychiatric emergency room myself, though that was by choice and the best thing for me at the time (I was suicidal.) I would agree it's not really ideal for a 15-year-old who's no danger to anyone. You mentioned ODD, Oppositional Defiant Disorder. Do you feel that that describes your behavior? If they get a chance to observe you, they'll at least be able to form their own opinions, separately from your mother's descriptions.

Here's the thing, and it's probably not easy to hear, at your age: no one can really change other people. Your parents may change, if they want to and try. But in the end, the only person you control is you. That said, that still means you control the most important part of the equation, the one you have to live with every day.

Take care of yourself, and I hope whatever happens, you get to come back to talk to us about it.

[Rose]

I really know how u exactly feel about this because I'm the same age as you are and have gone through some mental thingsand i have some similar incidents to yours, it was when i fought with my sister but then my mother started lecturing me and spoke to me angrily even thou my sister was the one who started and even called me an ill person i got really mad and sad hearing that from her until today even thou she apologised and things are back to normal but sometimes I remember that so i know how it feels people will still accuse you because of that mental thing and take it as an excuse to blame you so I stopped arguing with them especially my mother now she's fine and nice with me because I'm too quite and all but before she used to shout and lecture me like an angry mafia shefo but things do get better if your mother calls the hospital tell them what happened i hope that I helped I thought I was the only one facing these problems