Popular Post Tsunami Posted October 15, 2013 Popular Post Report Share Posted October 15, 2013 ....................... JalfGuanura, Glubarasteess, tectSeltela and 204 others 207 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LaLa Posted October 16, 2013 Report Share Posted October 16, 2013 It's interesting that you suppose that you got angry because you had to feel his anger. Can you describe what made you feel and think that way? It would make sense to me in case if you got angry at the same people/company/... he was, not at him. But who knows; maybe it works this way in your case (?)... However; it obviously happened for the first time, so... in any case, I wouldn't make conclusions that "other's anger affect you like this" (you wrote it with "can" - so it's fine ).When I imagine the situation just from the point of view of an observer, I'd say that you got angry at him because his anger made you feel uncomfortable, because you didn't want to deal with such emotion at the moment and so you reproached him (just unconsciously and emotionally) that he was "bothering"/"disturbing"/... you.How does this sound to you? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LaLa Posted October 16, 2013 Report Share Posted October 16, 2013 I also realized that you might have had your own reason to be angry before you met your husband and he triggered it in you, just the emotion, the reason didn't enter your conscious mind.Oh, well; there may be probably many speculations... but it's up to you to "sort them out" and figure out what makes sense. Or maybe just let it go and if something similar happens again, you might be more observant from the beginning, possibly also regulating more the outcomes... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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IrmaJean Posted October 16, 2013 Report Share Posted October 16, 2013 A few questions come to mind, Tsu. Are you typically very sensitive to the emotions of others? Also, is it possible that your husband's anger reminds you of your own? Are you able to put up a boundary and get some space from his emotions? I find this to be very helpful when my own H is angry. Tsunami 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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