am i having pedophilic behaviour?

[silentmist]

Also, most child sex offenders are not Paedophiles so being able to 'treat' people who may have a brain based motivation for such behaviour still wouldn't make much of an impact on the issue of child sexual abuse.

I remember something about the issue of homosexulaity being neurological ... was it the hippocampus being smaller in Gay men? ... something like that. There was also a debate about whether this difference was the cause of homosexual preferences or the result of them. It's the old chicken and Egg thingy.

I also think that if people were not encouraged to be so hysterical over child sexual abuse I think it would be just as damaging as other forms of child abuse. So yes, it would be damaging but the victim would probably not feel so stigmatised, which would help with recovery.

Edited December 22, 2008 by silentmist
A senior moment.

[Guest ASchwartz]

Danny,

When you compare children being held to a double standard with regard to crime and sex you are confusing two very separate issues.

A twelve year old is not capable of "choosing" to have sex with an adult. Why? They are not at the developmental stage, either psychologically or cognitively, where they can examine all the issues connected with having sex. That is why it is NOT a matter of "informed consent." Informed consent means that the individual has all the information and makes a decision. A twelve year old may be given all the information, but, is still not able to choose because they do not have the fully developed reasoning powers.

I do not advocate having children being brought to trial for adult crimes. So, on that issue, I agree.

As to the comments about the brain and homosexuality, we still do not know why some people are gay and others are not. There are lots of theories and there have even been some findings about it. One finding is that the fetus, in utero, may be subject to more of the mother's estrogen than was supposed to happen and that the brain of the male uterus becomes feminized. However, this is only one explanation, may hold true for some people but not for others. There is speculation that homosexuality may be genetic. Anyway, I could go on but you get the idea. Those who are not making a choice just like being heterosexual is not a choice.

Why do some people become pedophiles? Here, too, we do not know. Perhaps some were molested themselves as children and that is why. I am sure that there is no one explanation for everyone. However, UNLIKE homosexuality, the chosen partners of the pedophiles are children. Children are helpless and in need of protection. There simply is no choice involved when it comes to children. That is why pedophia will never be accepted.

One more issue and question is this: With plenty of adults fully capable and willing to make decisions about having sex, why choose someone who is a child? Sexual behavior is for adults with adults and not with children. One possible explanation for the sexual urges towards children felt by pedophiles is that children can be dominated in ways that adults cannot be.

Allan

[DannyLewis]

"Danny,

When you compare children being held to a double standard with regard to crime and sex you are confusing two very separate issues.

A twelve year old is not capable of "choosing" to have sex with an adult. Why? They are not at the developmental stage, either psychologically or cognitively, where they can examine all the issues connected with having sex. That is why it is NOT a matter of "informed consent." Informed consent means that the individual has all the information and makes a decision. A twelve year old may be given all the information, but, is still not able to choose because they do not have the fully developed reasoning powers."

If a child is not capable of making an informed decision about sex, then it seems to me that society would recognize that they aren't capable of making an informed decision about anything else either. At least not on their own. We as a society "teach" our children everything they know. A child doesn't come into this world knowing what is good for them and what is harmful to them. They must be taught these things. "Don't touch that it's hot and will hurt you. Look both ways before crossing the street", etc. If we did not teach our children that sex is a dirty, nasty, ugly thing until they reach a certain age then I don't know that it would be harmful to them. At least we agree on the point that they should not be treated as adults in the courts since they don't have the ability to make an informed decision about harming someone else.

"Why do some people become pedophiles? Here, too, we do not know. Perhaps some were molested themselves as children and that is why. I am sure that there is no one explanation for everyone. However, UNLIKE homosexuality, the chosen partners of the pedophiles are children. Children are helpless and in need of protection. There simply is no choice involved when it comes to children. That is why pedophia will never be accepted."

I'm not saying that harming a child is necessary for society to accept pedophilia. I'm saying that perhaps, if it was discovered that it is NOT a choice, but is the way a person is born, that maybe society would better understand and not be so quick to jump to conclusions. There are plenty of non-practicing pedophiles just as there are many non-practicing homosexuals. Yet as a society, a non-practicing homosexual would be MUCH more accepted than a pedophile who expressed his/her desires, but did not act on them.

"One more issue and question is this: With plenty of adults fully capable and willing to make decisions about having sex, why choose someone who is a child?"

For the same reason a heterosexual chooses the opposite sex and a homosexual chooses the same sex. That is what a pedosexual is attracted to.

Edited December 29, 2008 by DannyLewis
cuz i dunt kno how 2 spell lol

[sunnybabu]

i am glad to receive ur valueble information. but i feel sad day by day. i cant able to control my fantasies followed mastuberation. because i was adicted to that. i have other habits like mastuberating in the internet cafes while seeing the pornography. such type of habits i had and still.

one day, four years before at late night

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it burst out in the college .

i made suicide attempts too. that much of urges are going in my mind.

i need help. can castration would help me?

Edited December 31, 2008 by Mark
Too Graphic!

[Mark]

Sunny,

This is the second time you have offered us too graphic of a description of your behavior, and I have already warned you one time to not be so graphic. Do not describe your activities or fantasies! If it happens again, I will ban you from participating in this community. For the moment, however, you remain welcome here.

Use this forum to discuss your efforts to change your behavior; not to describe what your behavior is.

You would need to seek the counsel of a qualified psychiatrist to know whether castration would make sense for you. I am not familiar with research that speaks to the question of whether having an orchiectomy (testicle removal) would reduce your sexual drive, and if that would help you become less likely to act out. It is a serious thing to contemplate, and it is very likely that there are drugs one could take to suppress sexual impulses in the event tha the general strategy is sound. Talk to a psychiatrist.

Mark