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So some of you might have seen my other post: http://www.mentalsup...possible-at-14/

but i got a burning question which means ALOT to me.

i just talked to a online chat service [deleted]

and he/she said i should go and see my local doctor or my school nurse, about my pedophilia, which will be a HUGE step for me, to ask a person about my paedophilia face to face.

but i dont know if it is a huge step in the right or wrong direction. i mean the nurse should do everything to make the students in the school to feel well, so she could go and tell my parents which i defintly dont want,

so what do you guys think?

should i go and see her about my attractions?

i never told anybody about my attractions! im (f)ucking scared.

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It would be helpful to see a professional, I don't doubt it. But a school nurse, I'm not sure... A school counsellor (psychologist) would be much better, I can only agree with sedsed. I would certainly go and see him/her, talk about some issues, about the policies of such counselling, perhaps about some of your other problems, mentioning only that you also have a much bigger problem you're so far reluctant to talk about ... and then see how you like and trust the person and consider also telling him/her about the main issue. There's no guaranty that this particular person will really react and help you appropriately, but that doesn't mean that it would be impossible to find somebody else, another professional, who would be able to really help you (so don't let anybody to discourage you from seeking help!!). But starting with the person who's most available (=at school) is a logical and practical step, so I would leave looking for somebody more competent for a possible future - in case if you needed it.

Good luck! (I know it's scary. But sometimes we must face some scary things and take appropriate action...)

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sedsed and LaLa thanks for responding ;)

so i should see the school counsellor...

i dont even think we have a school counsellor, maybe im wrong but i translated it to my language and i had never heard the word before, but noone does talk our language 100% right, we use a more modern version of our language xD.

think thats why the person i talked to said school nurse (just in my language)

talk about some issues, about the policies of such counselling,

sry for my bad english, but i dont really get what you mean there, the policies?

perhaps about some of your other problems,

so i should first talk about someother questions before i talk about my pedophilia?

mentioning only that you also have a much bigger problem you're so far reluctant to talk about

guess you mean about the story i wrote? ()

sry if i ask alot of questions, guess i am just to afraid, so i want to be 100% sure that i understand what you mean :P

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Polices are the rule the nurse or concealer has to follow concerning peoples personal information. You want to talk to more of a mental doctor not a doctor that checks you out physically. She is not talking about the story you wrote she is saying more like don't just outright say your a pedophile it will make them react poorly. Asking questions is never a bad thing.

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Polices are the rule the nurse or concealer has to follow concerning peoples personal information. You want to talk to more of a mental doctor not a doctor that checks you out physically. She is not talking about the story you wrote she is saying more like don't just outright say your a pedophile it will make them react poorly. Asking questions is never a bad thing.

ah ok :)

I will still need to carefully think about this, I know that i should go to him/her, but that's just not "me", i never asked anybody about any "personal" problems in a long long long time.

And also that i dont know anybody IRL who has gone to a psychologist

And how will it work out if I dont go and see her/him?

i dont know, maybe i'm just finding exuses not to go because im scared. but no matter what I will think about it, and maybe find more about the school counsellor (asuming we have one :( )

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If you don't have a concealer your next best bet if you have not commented a crime would be getting into therapy.

hi.

going to give you guys an update ;)

i went back, and looked at the conversation i had with the online chat service thingy

and I think he might have misunderstood me, in that he may have thought i had problems about sex not directly with me, dont know how to explain it better. (the school nurses teach us about sex in our country)

so i went back to the same site, and he (preety sure it is someone else) said i should email, a... something (have no idea what that kind of thing is called) whitch help children who have sexual attractions to younger kids, and kids who have been abused.

so i just sent them a mail about 3 minutes ago ;)

so now i atleast know of a thing :P witch helps children/teens like me :D

only problem is if they think I need to go to their place and get treated, wich will cost alot of money :(

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I don't know what country you're in or how pedophilia is typically dealt with there, but my absolute sincerest advice would be to NOT tell anyone at school. This is all very specialized, and they will not be able to understand or offer help. Rather, they will likely cause a lot more damage for you. I think there is a very high chance that it could come back to bite you in the ass.

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I don't know what country you're in or how pedophilia is typically dealt with there, but my absolute sincerest advice would be to NOT tell anyone at school. This is all very specialized, and they will not be able to understand or offer help. Rather, they will likely cause a lot more damage for you. I think there is a very high chance that it could come back to bite you in the ass.

well... ok.

how pedophilia is typically dealt with there

well i dont know either, all i know is that the students/ pupils make fun of pedophilia, you know if someone is with someone who is maybe one year younger :P or if some old man had a baby with a 15 year old girl (it is legal to have sexual intercourse with teens at the age of 15 or above) so they do atleast not now what pedophilia really is.

my absolute sincerest advice would be to NOT tell anyone at school.

yeah I already got the school out of the way after we do not have a school counselor, only school nurses.

but i contacted (anonymously) a more "pro"... company? :huh: (dont know what to really call it,) which specializes in kids who have sexual fantasyes about children, look at inappropiate images, abused a child and for kids who have been abused.

(same thing as above, just forgot i wrote it above, and im to lazy to delete this :P )

and they said that it would be a good idea to contact the local doctor.

is that better Musicman? or would you suggest just living without any experts help?

oh and should i ask my biology teacher if she could take the topic of porn up.

as nobody ever told me about sex, and HAVE been addicted to it.

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I use to advise that all pedophiles receive professional help. However, after experiencing the negative possibilities first-hand and knowing many people who had it much worse than I did, I would only recommend doing so if this is an issue you honestly feel you can't live with or control.

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I use to advise that all pedophiles receive professional help. However, after experiencing the negative possibilities first-hand and knowing many people who had it much worse than I did, I would only recommend doing so if this is an issue you honestly feel you can't live with or control.

(Edited because i changed my opinion)

ok...

I asked the professional what the pros and cons were of going to the doctor. (she hasn't responded yet)

and now i will ask you the same. (I believe you more than her FYI)

What are the pros of GOING to the doctor?

And what are the cons of GOING to the doctor?

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