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Yo, new here, ya'll can call me Haven.

Usually I just lurk, but this topic hits home for me, so I made an account just to post in it. Reading some of your posts I found myself in tears nodding my head. I would love to start with my story, because it's not something one can often share, a brother struggling with this shit knows that. But instead I think there is something more important I need to do. Lets talk about success.

I have a hot fuckbuddy on the pill I'm doing raw daily, and she wants to fuck just as much as I do, sometimes more.

Around a week ago I had a week long sex streak with her. Around two weeks before that I had another week long streak; banging at least once everyday, sometimes more. The latter was allowed for by two girls, of which one stopped because she was getting attached(she said I fucked her better than anyone else). The other one keeps coming back for more (she said I was the first to make her finish with just my dick).

I know yet another girl that intends to bang me as often as possible over this summer, so being away from campus won't end my spree eithier.

Uk what else? The friends of those two girls probably think my dick is huge, because they don't say shit that could get me hurt behind my back. Instead, they hype me up.

Also with some courage I began to talk to girls more and more often, and this lead to more and more successes. Sure there were failures, but they can't beat me getting texts on daily basis from more one girl asking me to come spank her and another begging me to chain her up and rail her.

My friends think I'm "that guy", and uk what, to a lot of people I am. I fuck with kinky girls on a regular basis. You know what else is awesome? I don't have to be a douchebag to get it. No lies, no bs, just sex, cuddling, and friendship!

Ah man if only I knew this was waiting for me after highschool I would have been a much happier kid. And no I'm not just with girls everyone is or has been fucking, I'm thier number 2, 2, and 3 respectively and they aren't doing anyone other than me atm. Ain't bad eh?

Here's the punchline. I have a small dick! If I can do it, you can too brother. Be ashamed, of fuckin what? You struggled with discrimnation for something you couldn't change! That makes you TOUGH. The greatest men are forged in the hottest of fires. You're a brother, and you better get ready, because we're gonna take back what was ours. Our PRIDE, our SANITY, and our SELF RESPECT. Step up brother. Today is your day. The last part of this topic is what I believe makes it most important.

In spite of all this success, I still struggle to keep myself on the right path. It's easy to waste away the early and late hours of the day thinking about inadequacy, it's hard to keep sph out of my mind during sex, and even I still struggle to accept myself for who I am. The fact that I'm still this successful in spite of all that is amazing though, and I'm starting to wonder just what I could do if I stopped worrying so much about something I can't change. And then I realize, I could do w/e the fuck I wanted. We could do, w/e the fuck we wanted!

A small dick doesn't hold you back from being the best of lovers. It doesn't stop you from getting sex or a good relationship if that's what you want. What holds us back are hateful and spiteful pieces of shit, and we let em! How does one feel good about his dick if it's small? Easy! Go out, work hard. study up. It won't happen right away or too easily, but after a while with w/e techniques and style you'll pick up you'll be able to make her eyes roll into the back of her head as she moans and leave her knees wobbly well after her orgasm. Ask me how I know. Small or big, you can still use your dick to please who you're with, sometimes you need be creative though. Most importantly, not only can you be please her in various ways with it, you're dick will give her a chance to please you as much as you pleased her. So isn't it something to be happy about? It helps (some people think you should use only it to please her, not just as something that helps, that's vanilla as fuck) you please her, and it lets her please you. Fucking love your dick for the gift it is brother.

Here is the second part of the post, the daily commitment.

I hereby commit to not shame myself for a whole day.

I hereby accept myself, knowing I am fully capable of succeeding in everything I devote myself too.

If there is not a way through an obstacle there is a way over or around it and I will make to my goals regardless!

I hereby will recognize the manliness in my struggle, and will fight today to become my own hero, and an example for those who come after me.

- Haven;Commited.

Copy paste it and put in your name if you wanna commit. Feel free to add in any daily goals afterwards or adjust the lines and tweak them or tailor a different one to your own tastes, as long as it's about progress it has a place here brother. I'm going to try to commit everyday. Lets go!

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"how small is your dick" - Like previously stated, smaller than average. "The validity..." I can see where you're coming from. However my size doesn't change the fact that size should be irrelevant if your sole purpose is to please yourself and your partner to the greatest extent possible.

"I guarantee I'm smaller then the op, watch. I don't know why I have not committed suicide? I think it's about time" - Even if your dick is incompatible with a girls vagina you can fuck her in the ass while her other hole is filled with something else. Do that from behind and stroke her clit in slow circular strokes with light pressure. Once you get the clit stroke how she wants it she'll finish everytime. Not to mention that anal helps give girls better orgasms AND feels amazing for us too.

Right now I'm working on the idea of putting in a bullet vibrator of some sort in the girl before I put my dick in and fucking while it's in. May sound stupid or impossible but I'm gonna try to find a way to make that work, and if it does, cheers, we're one step further towards more frequent and better vaginal, not clitoral, orgasms from dicks of smaller size.

"Sounds like more butterfly turds and unicorn farts to me...But whatever works for you. Been there done that." - It's smart to be skeptical. I was skeptical yesterday when the girl said she'd finished three times. Skeptcisim is all about trying to find the truth from evidence though right? I'll keep working on my technique and trying new ideas, and I'll start posting about how some of them go. And then if you wanted evidence, you could try these various things yourself. Maybe you'll improve upon them and teach us all something new. The positive mentality isn't the only thing I am experiementing with, if it was, you're right, unicorn farts about sums it up.

I hereby commit to not shame myself for a whole day.

I hereby accept myself, knowing I am fully capable of succeeding in everything I devote myself too.

If there is not a way through an obstacle there is a way over or around it and I will make to my goals regardless!

I hereby will recognize the manliness in my struggle, and will fight today to become my own hero, and an example for those who come after me.

- Haven;Commited.

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I'm afraid they are right…. you skipping the question of your size simply undermines your message.

being 'under average' is not an answer as that covers a broad spectrum of sizes.

I have seen countless women talk about small differences in girth rendering intercourse completely pointless so its a critical issue- sorry

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yeah dude, smaller than average can mean anything from 6" - 5" depending on ignorance/semantics. 5.5 is essentially average, if you're 5 then you're basically average. If you're 4.25" like me you're now in small territory, even though I'll tell anyone I'm "smaller than average" because i'm embarrased by simply "small". The reluctance in telling us makes me think you are either big enough to where your point is invalidated for us small folk or you are embarrassed like me. if it's the latter, I'll remind you that this is all anonymous.

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" "how small is your dick" - Like previously stated, smaller than average. "The validity..." I can see where you're coming from. However my size doesn't change the fact that size should be irrelevant if your sole purpose is to please yourself and your partner to the greatest extent possible. "

Size is not a determining factor(definitely still relevant, though, I have a mental disorder due to it) for my happiness and the happiness of my partner. Greatest pleasure possible? Well there's considerable evidence supporting that and saying that we are physically incapable of providing maximum pleasure without sex toys aiding the experience. If you're to believed, the exact size of your penis changes every freaking fact.

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Jessie:

No need to apologize, I've heard the same bs. But that's what it is man, bs.

For most girths that just isn't true and the girls that say it are simply ignorant. My fuckbuddy was really really turned on last night, I was pounding it home, and so her vagina explanded a lot. You know what? My dick wasn't touching both sides of her vagina. One side or the other bro. Girth? Feeling full? I don't doubt she felt that, but she finished way before I did and almost got her to her second orgasm. Some really good days I've gotten her to finish five or more times. Good foreplay probably played a major role this time in her finishing way before me, but I guess my point is that there was a huge girth gap and I still made her finish with my dick and only my dick. It's not all about my size, it's about the size gap between the vagina and the dick, and there was signifcant one and the sex was still awesome.

And if it is true for the girth someone has, then no worries man. Their dick can still play a beneficial role in her butt while they let something else take her vagina while they stroke her clit. In this way they are just as capable as pleasing her with their dick as a guy with an average dick doing the same exact thing, and perhaps better than a guy with a much larger dick. And this isn't even getting into eating girls out or all the other possiblities that toys bring into the equation.

ba51th:

Lets talk about cheating. My first gf cheated on me. She also told me I had the smallest dick she'd been with, and she'd been with well over 10 guys sexually and actually fucked at least 6 people in total at the time. Sounds grim right? It's all coming true eh? Then she tries to cheat on her bf (who had a bigger dick than me). The person she tried and tried to cheat on him with until it happened was me. (not proud of it but that's another story) She then tried to do this with me again when she had yet another bf, who was, yet again bigger. Hell, right after she broke up with the biggest guy she'd been with she tried to get a whole week of sex from me, and the only reason she didn't try to cheat on him with me is probably because he was my friend and she knew I'd tell him if she tried something. Cheating isn't always a result of dissatisfaction with your partners sexual ability, it often occurs due to personal problems.

Idk why that lady didn't reply, maybe she didn't take u seriously or hasn't logged in since u sent the message, who knows. The worse casescenario here isn't that guys with really small dicks are going to be cheated on, it's that she's ignorant of how well a guy with a small dick can please a girl.

ShameOnThem:

I'm sorry you've suffered so much, that's an unfortunate byproduct of heinous discrimination in our society. I don't think my size would invalidate my point because of everything I've stated above, particularly what was in my response to Jessie.

As for toys, well honestly I haven't used any other than handcuffs, rope, and makeshift gags so far and I have done well. In spite of that, I don't think they wouldn't benefit my experience. I acutally think toys (dildos, vibrators, cock rings) are a boost regardless of whether or not you are able to please a woman as much as a woman can be pleased with your dick alone. I intend to bring them into the equation this summer with my other fuck buddy. I understand that it feels important to satisfy a girl equally with your dick and not just with your dick and toys, but if your both being pleased at the same time and ur dick is just as capable as anothers or more using the method I mentioned to jessie, does it really matter that you are using toys?

On a side note I hope you can feel more confident with your body, the gap between your size and mine is less than what was between mine and several of the guys that came before me, which I'm told I beat in bed. Enough to make her feel the maximum amount of pleasure on it's own or not you're dick is yours and it's perfect. It may able to provide her that maximum pleasure on it's own, but when it comes to finding that out , or what sex ideas make your size a benefit, that's really up to you. Don't take any one persons word on it, look for the signs, keep trying, rework your game, check the signs again. Keep pushing brother.

You may be far more knowledgeable than I in this department but if you are going to try without toys I have some advice. Missionary with her legs up and your upper body fairly straight or her on her stomach with a 1-3 pillows under her where her crotch meets her abdomen. Time. Make sure you can go and keep going and going and going, no time restraints (no pressure, relaxation = more orgasms). At my low points I would often not make any sex noises in spite of the girls liking them because I was to busy thinking about my "inadequacy" etc. Forget about that bs, it's not even true. Make sure u let your sex noises out. I would also get really really cuddly during sex and instead of going hard I would go slow and or get softer than usual because I wasn't confident. Fuck that bs. Focus your mentality on the idea that you are going to dominate and ravage her. Focus on the idea that you are going to make her finish and her eyes roll into the back of her head, not that you're going to try to, just that it will simply happen. This may help with getting the speed, hardness, and ass smacking mentality that a lot of girls like. If you're worried about finishing before her don't worry, just play with her a a lot first (but don't let her finish), then stick your dick in. Enjoy the full girth of her vagina, it doesn't mean your small. It means she's horny, because you're going to dominate her and she loves it.

I'm glad you and your partner are happy together :), and I'm sure you''ll make her finish one way another, because that's what men do, and you sound like a tough one. Toys or no toys she's happiest with you, and technically your hands and mouth are better than any toys. I'm sure there is a position you could use them in place of a toy in the same method I described to Jessie earlier. Rock her world brother :)!

I hereby commit to not shame myself for a whole day.

I hereby accept myself, knowing I am fully capable of succeeding in everything I devote myself too.

If there is not a way through an obstacle there is a way over or around it and I will make to my goals regardless!

I hereby will recognize the manliness in my struggle, and will fight today to become my own hero, and an example for those who come after me.

- Haven;Commited.

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You yourself said smaller than average can mean 5-6, so no. A woman told me it was small? I've had women (plural) tell me that, some through omission, others through slips. My first gf was just one example. I went back and edited some typos and poor wordings out of my earlier post, they were misleading.

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so you're 5 to 6? If so, it's cool that you're bucking the trend in that women thinking your penis is small is not limiting your ability to sexually pleasure them to the fullest. This is great, and every one of us can learn something from the fact that women don't require porn cocks to enjoy sex, but 5" to 6" is not small. IMO, small, or even smaller than average starts at 5 and below, not taking in to account girth which is important but far less impactful of a number in terms of our psyche and others' perception. It sounds like you're actually just average, not small. A woman telling you that you're small, or letting it slip, or not telling you you';re not, or you just feeling like you are small does not equal having a small penis, as most of the people on this board are dealing with. So it's tough to just jump on board of your positivity bandwagon if you're not a success story for our kind, if anything it's disheartening that so many women have perceived you as small even though you're likely average, aka bigger than us. If you've read what some of these topics, you'll know that actual sexual competence/ability to pleasure women is far less disconcerting to us than the perception that females have about our bodies. Lesbians can have awesome sex, so there is no reason even the smallest guy can be good in bed, but none of us look forward to all of our significant other's friends knowing we're the smallest guy they've ever been with. Pride is a huge factor, and not that we should be ashamed at all, I don't think anybody should be ashamed of their bodies, everyone has the right to feel good about themselves despite what other think, but the 10,000 pound gorilla in the room whenever penis size comes up is that I'm/we're comfortably below average and nobody wants me/us, Your post misses this point. All of this makes me uncomfortable when you won't share you dick size. You haven't given any reason for not telling us like you're embarrassed in sharing or you have never measured it. Maybe you're actually small and just trying to prove some point, but I'm reluctant to just believe that I should stop feeling bad about my dick because you dish out mad orgasms. Maybe if I knew what you were working with, until then I'm assuming this is mostly irrelevant to me.

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My guess is if he properly pressed to the bone he is 5.5 in length and he's at least 5in in girth.

Many girls do think thats small but with skill that may be ok with some women in bed.

You only need a small deviation from those numbers to effectively ruin the sex for both partners.

ps if my guess if correct he is double my volume…

so … how can I say….I doubt his girls would view me in the same way ….

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