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So I was asking myself some questions. I've always had this "phantom" feeling in my penis. Not sure that's the right way to explain it, but I'm guessing you know what I mean. Like, there should be something more there. And that's why I'm always trying to erect as much as I can, to loose that feeling you know..

Can any of you guys relate with this feeling?

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  • 4 months later...

It's really bad when I'm sitting because I feel like there is not the pressure against my legs of a proper bulge like most men. I'm very, very self conscious about this.

This was always a burden on my mind. Even though I am apparently big enough for the few women I've had sex with, my flaccid penis is usually very small. I would say that my scrotum is close enough to average - but not big either. I could always tell that I looked sort of bulge-less when seated. Ironically, I feel more comfortable now that my girlfriend has convinced me to wear tighter pants instead of the baggy ones I used to wear. The feeling of at least some modest bulging is very good. I'm not sure if any women see me and snicker, but I no longer try to hide my stuff when I sit. I don't try to flaunt it, but I don't always obsessively cover it. This seemingly silly thing has taken a lot of stress away from me.

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Could this be an ancestral or collective memory or possible "proof" of large dicks being inherent in our species? Very strange phenomena, but certainly exists.

Maybe it could be something like a DNA stamped feeling. I'm not really sure on how this theory could fit together, because the body does two different things (giving us a tiny penis vs. telling us it should be massive (JRPS;))). There is a research going on that could maybe tell us more on what is going on..: http://clinicaltrials.gov/show/NCT01462448

In my experience it has more to do with the tight underwear/pants that pushes the penis further inwards, which give a very unpleasant feeling. That feeling gets a hold on my entire body (a bit like trying to get a piece of yarn through a needle without succeeding..) and there is not really anything to do to prevent that without harming myself. It is THE most fucked up feeling I can get and those are the moments I would really want to kill myself.

Ironically, I feel more comfortable now that my girlfriend has convinced me to wear tighter pants instead of the baggy ones I used to wear. The feeling of at least some modest bulging is very good.

You said it already, but that is a bit ironical (glad it works for you though). I'm too much ashamed to wear tight pants, because there is not enough to show, there is almost no bulge and only a very little push against my pants (depending on what underwear I wear), which in my opinion is even more shaming then wearing some baggy jeans where nothing is to be seen.

Talking about it gave me the feeling again. lol <_<

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You said it already, but that is a bit ironical (glad it works for you though). I'm too much ashamed to wear tight pants, because there is not enough to show...

I am not sure exactly how I look to others when I dress in the tighter jeans, but I know I don't have a massive bulge. I do have enough, though, thanks to balls more than to penis, where I think I can get away with it and not worry. I probably don't impress anyone, but I just feel more relaxed than I ever used to.

It also helps that I've been keeping my weight down lately, otherwise my smallish bulge gets lost.

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Guys that have big dicks just tell girls. All tight pants do is lower sperm count.

My gf encouraged me to wear tighter pants because of my overall shape - not for accentuating the front. She really likes my butt and legs and she couldn't see them in the baggy stuff I used to wear. I'm not squashing myself now...just wearing slimmer "younger" looking cuts.

She might have no idea that I've ever truly had SPS. I have told her how I used to think porn guys were the norm but I never mentioned that it caused me the anguish that it did. She does know that I used to be very shy around women, so maybe she has made the correlation.

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Marry that girl!

Glad it's going well Mr. Zappa ha ha. Thanks for sharing that a guy doesn't have to be John Holmes in order to find companionship.

Thanks, I appreciate your sentiment. I'm recently divorced and in no rush to re-marry, but she has made me feel like a man in a way I never knew. Lucky as hell, I am.

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Most of us aren't so lucky. 5 inches is supposedly just shy of average, but not according to most women.

sps is not a mental syndrome, but a physical handicap, it's only a "perceived" flaw if you're the only one who sees

it as such. If a woman leaves a guy directly because she is not satisfied with the size of his member, anyone who calls it a mental disorder is

brainless.

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Most of us aren't so lucky. 5 inches is supposedly just shy of average

Yes I have come to realize this, mainly through this forum. I am usually very small when flaccid, but I had a notion in my head that I was among the very smallest in the world whether flaccid or erect. I was very deluded.

...it's only a "perceived" flaw if you're the only one who sees it as such.

This applies to me. I have never suffered rejection, nor even taciturn acceptance. I've been utterly shocked (in a positive way) to have good sex with the few I allowed myself to get that close with. I was also surprised to learn that I was close in size to many of their other partners. I'm about 5 1/4" x 5" when maxed. Either that's enough for a lot of women or I'm just lucky as you say. I'm curious to hear the perspective of other guys who are about this size. I suspect many of them think they are way too small.

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Wow, did you get ridiculed by the guys in the locker room and by women in the bedroom? I never exposed myself to guys changing clothes until I was old enough that I wouldn't be ridiculed, even though I am always still somewhat nervous in those situations.

As stated a few times before, I haven't been with many women so that necessarily lowers my chances for rejection. But an enthusiastic sexual partner can undo the effect of many years of SPS.

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