IrmaJean Posted August 31, 2014 Report Share Posted August 31, 2014 I wanted to repost my thoughts here from the locked thread so everyone can respond.I really hope we can get back to supporting one another. The site is here so we can potentialy help, not hurt one another. I understand that many of you are hurting and pain can sometimes lead to angry outbursts, but personal attacks on others are not acceptable here. Can we keep things in the future to "I" statements? Such as, I feel angry....Please let's remember, everyone here is struggling with something.I hope that everyone is okay. AAFrancesrari and LaLa 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Resolute Posted August 31, 2014 Report Share Posted August 31, 2014 "I feel" that you shouldn't go around locking threads and "I also feel" that to ask people to stick to "I feel" statements is counterproductive and limiting. So no thank you IrmaJean.you're in big trouble now,lol.albeit you did say "i feel",so you should be safe. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IrmaJean Posted August 31, 2014 Author Report Share Posted August 31, 2014 I wouldn't lock a thread without careful consideration. I was honestly concerned about members' safety and so made that choice, which is always a judgment call. In truth, I don't always know the best action to take and so do what I feel is best at the moment.The idea behind "I" statements is to hopefully help with communication. LaLa 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Resolute Posted August 31, 2014 Report Share Posted August 31, 2014 The idea behind "I" statements is to hopefully help with communication.the thing is irma,that men don't use "i" statements,or "feel" statements.sometimes they just need to beat the crap out of each other,then become the best of friends.of course sometimes they stay enemies,but at least they get it out of their system.for the time being however,"i feel" it might be best that klingsor/victim not address skynight and vice versa;at least temporarily. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Resolute Posted August 31, 2014 Report Share Posted August 31, 2014 I would like to respond here to a post made by Victimofbullyingno1cared on the locked thread - about this crazy TV show where people do nude dating.I feel that nude dating is a very bad idea.I feel that there could be a serious problem, if I and my date were both nude. If I really liked the nude lady in question, I feel there is a significant risk that my five star general would stand to attention and salute the flag.I feel that I would be very embarrassed about that - especially if I were being filmed for network TV.that's nothing roger,if it were me,there would be a significant risk of much more than just saluting the slut (playing with letters),there's a huge risk of it turning into a porno. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IrmaJean Posted August 31, 2014 Author Report Share Posted August 31, 2014 I understand that communication can be different between men, but maybe too a little balance might be helpful? I know I also need to work more on balancing with my rational side too.I didn't mean to always start with "I feel" but maybe think about starting with that if you are feeling very angry rather than saying something like "You %$$$### " Does that make more sense? It think it can help us to get in touch with what is happening with ourselves that way. LaLa 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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Resolute Posted August 31, 2014 Report Share Posted August 31, 2014 sky,you forgot to say "i feel". Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Resolute Posted August 31, 2014 Report Share Posted August 31, 2014 Did you do that on purpose? Lolno,he probably didn't,but don't expect him to answer now,he's watching the nude dating thing. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Resolute Posted August 31, 2014 Report Share Posted August 31, 2014 i think there's one thing all men can agree on,and makes them forget their differences;one word:"women,eh!?" Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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Resolute Posted August 31, 2014 Report Share Posted August 31, 2014 Yes of course.I mean I suppose that's benefit of not mentioning someone's name, you can twist it to however you want. I'm not falling for it.skynight,just let it go man,even i was probably included in that statement of his,but i turned a blind eye to it,it's not worth it,and we're not enemies here. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dvnJ22 Posted August 31, 2014 Report Share Posted August 31, 2014 When has this sub ever been about supporting anyone? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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Jessie Posted August 31, 2014 Report Share Posted August 31, 2014 As soon as the c-word emerged I knew they were gonna have to lock it.Blokes can be a bit full on at times- it can be theraputetic but maybe it was all getting a bit much… Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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LouisZ Posted September 1, 2014 Report Share Posted September 1, 2014 I feel as if I have been looking for some help here and more often than not, I feel despondent and sexually hopeless.I confided my depression and taking antidepressant medicines to an older family member (not about my penis) and his reply:"You don't need antidepressants, stop taking them because it's all in your head!"No shit.It never ends. This spiral is draining me. And I'm supposed to be happy when told that I'm so young and have my whole life ahead of me.???? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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IrmaJean Posted September 1, 2014 Author Report Share Posted September 1, 2014 How can I help? I really want everyone to feel safe and welcome here. Resolute and Victimorthecrime 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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Resolute Posted September 2, 2014 Report Share Posted September 2, 2014 Okay, this comparison is for people that enjoy numbers and statistics. I suck at math but it's hardly rocket science. I will be comparing penis length to height.The average height of the British male is about 5"9. The average penis size of the British male is around 5.5 inches (I know there's debate amongst this but let's continue.)Height: 172.5cmPenis length: 13.75cmPenis to height ratio p1:h12.5 (cm)Subsequently, a man with a penis of 4.5 inches or 11.25 cm is as deficient in length as a man who stands 4"8 and 1/4 inches(140.6 cm) compared to a man that's 5"9 inches (172.5 cm)Seeing as height and penis size are both important size measurements is determining the selection of partners, I see the comparison as fair. Although most women say that penis size is second to height, I think we can agree that it's important is ranked very high.I also understand that the p:h ratio is not without fault, and the degree to which the latter fluctuates in relation to the former is significantly high. The purpose here is to draw a relationship between the two in order to stress the importance of penis size.Now try telling a man of that height that his stature is a trivial aspect of his being and has no bearing on his attractiveness.actually,5'9" is 175.26 cm,so you might wanna adjust the ratios. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Resolute Posted September 2, 2014 Report Share Posted September 2, 2014 (edited) Okay, this comparison is for people that enjoy numbers and statistics. I suck at math but it's hardly rocket science. I will be comparing penis length to height.The average height of the British male is about 5"9. The average penis size of the British male is around 5.5 inches (I know there's debate amongst this but let's continue.)Height: 172.5cmPenis length: 13.75cmPenis to height ratio p1:h12.5 (cm)Subsequently, a man with a penis of 4.5 inches or 11.25 cm is as deficient in length as a man who stands 4"8 and 1/4 inches(140.6 cm) compared to a man that's 5"9 inches (172.5 cm)Seeing as height and penis size are both important size measurements is determining the selection of partners, I see the comparison as fair. Although most women say that penis size is second to height, I think we can agree that it's important is ranked very high.I also understand that the p:h ratio is not without fault, and the degree to which the latter fluctuates in relation to the former is significantly high. The purpose here is to draw a relationship between the two in order to stress the importance of penis size.Now try telling a man of that height that his stature is a trivial aspect of his being and has no bearing on his attractiveness.without trying to trivialize anything (specially penises)you gotta admit that a man with a height of under 5 feet,would have a much worse quality of life compared with a man who has a 4 inch penis.the height affects everything in life,like job,marriage,social status,confidence,self image,strength,health (physical and psychological),and...,whereas penis size affects less things.p.si am height challenged (not below 5 feet),so i know a thing or two about the matter. Edited September 2, 2014 by resolute Jessie 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Resolute Posted September 2, 2014 Report Share Posted September 2, 2014 You have consistently said that the inferiority felt due to having a small penis is a cognitive phenomena which can be altered through a change in perspective. This is only true when the sps is a misconception of the mind and not down to physical shortcomings.That's my point. If you're unwilling to acknowledge that then there's nothing left to discuss. You obviously aren't differentiating between the two which is why you're crossover coping mechanisms are inaccurate.i suggest you reread his post a few more times.Grrrrr why do you people drive me so mad? You haven't even read any of my posts if you think this. I never said anything about "getting over a small penis" what I meant was guys with a small, average or big penis all have one things in common. Many of them are pussy whipped and it's due to societal conditioning.A lot of guys here have the women worshipping mentality in the brain like most of men in society. The small penis thing is partly to do with this because if you're not so into what a woman thinks about you or thinking you're a loser, then it won't affect you as much. But I never said "just meditate and get over having a small penis". These are the lies that are being told. It will affect you regardless but it will affect you less. Another thing I mentioned was that although penis size may matter to women, I believe it's being over exaggerated by the media and this get's put in men and woman's brains as something bigger an issue then it should be.Why are you people twisting what I say? I never said be a Buddhist celibate monk, live in a cave, meditate and forget about having a small penis. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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