Question

[ycaljo]

I have a question for anyone who feels comfortable answering.

If you can think back to when you originally starting feeling anxious/insecure/etc about your penis size, can you remember what FIRST triggered those feelings?

For example, seeing other guys in locker rooms or restrooms who were larger endowed?

Watching porn where people are ridiculously large?

Offhanded jokes in movies or by ignorant people?

Any other reason?

[nytaiji]

It was first brought to my attention that size mattered when my first serious girlfriend made comment. I was always confident. In fact, to this day, women are shocked when they find out how insecure I am with this issue. When we first got together we had a discussion about our best past lovers. She had, somewhat recently, broken up with a guy she had been dating for awhile. So when she told me that he was her best lover it didn't bother me, even though we were already having sex. I assumed that was the case anyway sine we hadn't had enough time to build strong feelings for each other. Instead of just leaving it at that, she immediately followed up by saying, "it's only because he was bigger". Right then, I knew that no matter what I did or how much she ever loved me sex would never be as good with me as it was with him. She continued to make the situation worse too. She must have said something to her friends about it, just like you are (this was before the internet). But instead of asking a man, she clearly spoke to a female (which makes no sense why you'd ask a female). It's no surprise that she got the wrong advice. So the next couple times we had sex she thought it would be a good idea to scream at the top of her lungs to make me feel better. Well, my dick didn't grow overnight and the sex wasn't any different than before. Not only did I know she was putting on a fake show, but then I started to think that that was how she was with her big dicked ex. So anyway, that's what started it for me. That's when I really started paying attention to women's reactions. And when I started to hear that I was actually smaller than average I just gave up on ever getting married or having a family. Yes, this issue is that serious to some people.

[CNL]

Reading numerous women on the internet state that thicker penises give sensations that are several times more pleasurable than average ones, and not being naive enough to think that this is only true for duck lipping shallow club girls.

[ycaljo]

Thanks for the answers, I actually expected Porn to be a bigger issue because of how it distorts real sex so much but I guess I was wrong. It's really frustrating how much power women have to make or break a man.

[ycaljo]

Yes, I agree. I do, however, believe in karma. Not that it really helps in this instance.

[u.r.what.u.is]

...when I started to hear that I was actually smaller than average I just gave up on ever getting married or having a family.

I don't get this reaction.

As for me, there were a lot of experiences that accumulated during my youth to make me think I had almost no chance with women. Pornography was a key factor.

[Victimorthecrime]

Yeah I agree w the above comments. I think anytime you care too much it trips you up. If you ever played sports you know that if you try too hard you throw off your game or a job interview where you want it so much you come off nervous & say stupid things.

Ever been on a date w a girl that just did not turn you on at all and she totally digs you? Even I have & it's because I was able to relax and be in the moment and just have fun.

[Senior penor]

[dvnJ22]

Reading Internet comments started it.

[retsuud]

I have a question for anyone who feels comfortable answering.

If you can think back to when you originally starting feeling anxious/insecure/etc about your penis size, can you remember what FIRST triggered those feelings?

For example, seeing other guys in locker rooms or restrooms who were larger endowed?

Watching porn where people are ridiculously large?

Offhanded jokes in movies or by ignorant people?

Any other reason?

Showering after football (soccer...) practise and starting to notice that everyone was still growing where I had already stopped.

[Jessie]

most guys notice early.

its called the double whammy effect.

the in-uterine issue (be it genetics or hormone disrupters) causes lack of growth in the 2nd and 3rd trimester.

so the child is born small to start with.

then the tissues fail to respond to hormones during puberty too

So the 'double block' causes the sufferer to be 2, 3, 4 or even 5 times smaller by volume than normal males.

So most guys notice around 7 to 8 deposing on whether they have brothers, cousins or shared showers etc

[ShameOnThem]

I don't think my size ever really bothered me until recently when I read an article on a "feminist" website that was very body shaming. I pm'd you the link, because I really don't want people on these boards to read it. It's deplorable, imo.

The first time I even thought about it was around 8th grade when I was around a church group of older highschool/college guys and girls. The guys were joking among themselves about going skinny dipping with the girls after the chaperones had fallen asleep. One of them said they didn't blame the guys my age for not coming because "...my dick hadn't grown by then." That's the first moment when I thought about the size of my penis, but it never really hit me until some point in college when I realized that it wasn't going to get any bigger than it already was. I always avoided intimacy partly because of my size/inexperience, but mostly because I was shy and didn't know how to act around women. This made it so I didn't have to feel to bad about it, because I didn't really have to think about it, but after I started reading some things like that article and other shaming size queen comments, it really started to get to me. I've had a girlfriend who seemed to enjoy sex, but I've also had one who never called me back after the first time. So I'm not willing to admit that it's a "problem" for sexual competency, but mentally, it's definitely a problem unless I remind myself that #notallwomen are mean, and that most of them are actually very compassionate and caring.

[Victimorthecrime]

I remind myself that #notallwomen are mean, and that most of them are actually very compassionate and caring.

Hey man God love you if that's been your experience. It has not been mine, no way no how

[Jessie]

I HAVE found women to be compassionate and caring…. though who wants to inspire pity ?

And anyways I have always been left by my GFs…. being dumped in a compassionate caring way isn't THAT much better than being dumped in a cold and heartless way…

ps well maybe thats not quite true- had they been mean about it and told my friends about my size I might have gone properly insane and killed myself and someone else- dunno…

pps I guess I should remind you all that I am way smaller than normal- if you are 5 NBP you wont suffer like me I hope….

[modestman]

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[Jessie]

Some of my friends at school had huge ones- thick and long - even when flaccid- they used to get them out all the time.

They had LOTS of girlfriends- it was like cat nip ….

Always used to amaze me how powerful an impact it had on both genders….

[Victimorthecrime]

Life ain't fair Jessie.

[LouisZ]

For me it started with my own family. Specifically, my older sisters and cousins. They are 5 to 10 years older than me. They took care of me during the days when our parents were out or travelling. They fed, bathed and dressed me starting from before I could remember. So it seemed to me that it was forever.

I do clearly remember the time I was taking an afternoon nap. I guess I was just wearing only a t-shirt and must of had an erection when 2 older sisters saw me and started laughing. I laughed too, thinking it was a fun game. I didn't know anything was wrong. The teasing never ended. Sometimes they still remind me today.

[Lukaz]

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[u.r.what.u.is]

I am glad I was never called out in the changing rooms. It happened to another kid once while I was in the room...and his penis looked a lot like mine.