Perspective from a guy with a huge penis.

[leavemealone]

Having spent some time reading this forum I just wanted to offer my perspective.

To be frank, I have a huge penis; On a good day it is over 9 inches long and almost 8 inches around.

I am 26 years old and have had 4 sexual partner; One was a casual fuck buddy, one was a one night stand, one was a girl who used me for sex and the last is my current girlfriend who I have been with for almost 2 years.

Every person I've been with has been with someone (and other than my current girlfriend, IS with someone) who is smaller than I am, based on everything I can know about this. My current girlfriend has been with men smaller than me. I have been passed up on by 3 other people who I know beyond reasonable doubt had lovers who were smaller (and probably less capable) than me.

What I'm getting at is that sex is such a small part of a relationship for women, and I think that's the problem most guys face. As soon as you encounter a sexual roadblock with a woman you naturally want to extend it to every part of your life, because really if we're honest, on an animal level that's what this means. If you can't get laid, there's something wrong with you as an animal.

My current girlfriend has dated better educated men who make more money than I do. At times this knowledge has literally the same effect on me as thinking she has screwed guys bigger than me. It makes you feel worthless. It makes you feel you can't provide. It makes you feel as though you're not worthy to reproduce. It is physically and emotionally crippling.

My current girlfriend as well as others have dated white men. As a black man who has dated only white women this causes insecurity for me because I know how little value, relatively speaking, black men have compared to white men in society. I see the way their parents and friends react to me and it makes me second guess every single thing I do.

Actually, I'm half black. This is even worse because everyone in general society perceives me as a member of the lowest racial group, and black people view me as a mutt. None of the parents of any girl I dated (3 have been white, 1 asian) have accepted me. Two have been blatantly disrespectful and were in large part the cause of our break up.

I guess I wanted to offer this post to say that you guys aren't alone in feeling f*cking pissed off and disgusted by how fickle and harsh the world is; other people are living through this same bullshit every single day, big dick or not.

[Wutty3]

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[someone555]

i realize a perceived or real underacheivement of any sort can have ill effects

for us it is always "she has been with guys better that have satisfied her more, and i can never do that as well as them" and as a result, sexual performance becomes our only important trait

for you, it seems "she has been with smarter (and perhaps better communicators) guys and I can never give her that level of intillectual stimulation" and as a result, you place that mental connection as your only important trait

this provides some good perspective. as a smaller guy, we always worry our girlfriends will stick with us because of our looks, loyalty, and emotional bond, but cheat on us to get their sexual fulfillment

for you it is possible it is the reverse, she stays with you because of the great sex, but may "emotionally" cheat on you buy becoming best friends with a guy and always discuss important things with him, rather than you

of course, for us on this forum, we would trade places in a heart beat. I wont even get into the race card, as us on here can be many different races, and skin colour doesnt affect any of our problems here

just remember, dont care what the parents think. if a girl likes you enough, she will get her parents on board eventually.

for me, id rather have the big dick regardless. as sex can have such an emotional impact on women, you can still win any of them over even if you lack in other areas (not that I'm saying you do)

youre 9x8, so your volume is is almost 3 times that as mine. care sharing a bit?

[modestman]

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[retsuud]

@Modestman. Having a small penis affects every part of my life, not only the sex. I think many here will agree.

That said, the struggle you go through sounds very familiar and like you said, will play part in many peoples life. Don't know what it's like being black, but I can imagine that society is not even close in the acceptence proces.

Your words are kind, but I'm quite curious how you ended up on the small penis forum?

[Victimorthecrime]

I love it when the sad story goes something like this: my 1st girlfriend, then my 2nd girlfriend, then the next one, now my current girlfriend....

[modestman]

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[IrmaJean]

I feel this (wanting and needing validation from others) is a human struggle that may affect either gender. It is something I have struggled with myself at times. Just my personal opinion.

[Resolute]

i gotta say that wanting and needing "some" validation is natural and might not be "totally" avoidable (complete psychopaths aside), however, beyond a certain point, it's unhealthy. it seems that most people fall into the unhealthy category though.

[ShameOnThem]

I love it when the sad story goes something like this: my 1st girlfriend, then my 2nd girlfriend, then the next one, now my current girlfriend....

#bigdickprivilege

in all seriousness though, I actually feel bad for this guy reading his story. It's important to be compassionate towards other people, and doubly so for people we may not understand. Yeah, any of us would likely trade places without a second thought, but that doesn't mean that the problems he is talking about are not valid and even relevant to us. Just like the speech from Three Amigos, we all have our own personal El Guapo, and being a black man, or being objectified as a walking big dick who is(very wrongly so) viewed as a subpar father/provider/emotional companion, is a struggle that we shouldn't dismiss outright because it may not apply to us.

[Resolute]

@ modestman, this "leavemealone" guy seems right up your wife's alley. i don't know what city he or you are in, but maybe you guys could make it work somehow.

[Wutty3]

>>> I have been passed up on by 3 other people who I know beyond reasonable doubt had lovers who were smaller (and probably less capable) than me.<<<

I stopped reading right there. If you're 9x8 of course the vast majority of men are going to be smaller than you. At 4x4 inches the vast majority of men are going to be bigger than me. By mere odds alone, that vast majority, the AVERAGE guys...those bigger than me and smaller than you are as capable if not more so than you. Quit stealth-bragging about your big dick!.

I try to keep an open mind...but not so open that my brain falls out!

[gone]

>>> I have been passed up on by 3 other people who I know beyond reasonable doubt had lovers who were smaller (and probably less capable) than me.<<<

I stopped reading right there. If you're 9x8 of course the vast majority of men are going to be smaller than you. At 4x4 inches the vast majority of men are going to be bigger than me. By mere odds alone, that vast majority, the AVERAGE guys...those bigger than me and smaller than you are as capable if not more so than you. Quit stealth-bragging about your big dick!.

I try to keep an open mind...but not so open that my brain falls out!

Doesn't this kind of sh*t just wear you out? Just a thread to spew numbers. One post and he's gone.

[Resolute]

I'm saying he's a troll based on his comments. Also 8 inches girth is bullshit. I've never seen anything like that on porn.

not just that, but easily finding woman after woman who can accommodate such girth comfortably is very farfetched.

[Guest Klingsor]

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[modestman]

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[ShameOnThem]

if this guy never posts again I'm gonna feel like an idiot for getting trolled

8" girth is ridiculous

[leavemealone]

I'm sorry if my initial post seemed trolly; I understand how it could have come off that way.

I was really just trying to offer my sexual experience, which has been mostly negative. To put it this way, my skin color has impacted my dating life more than the size of my penis. Some of you must be able to take heart in this. I don't mean to equate my experience to yours, but believe me there is heart break involved in being turned down based on a families expectations when you loved a person otherwise.

[someone555]

I'm sorry if my initial post seemed trolly; I understand how it could have come off that way.

I was really just trying to offer my sexual experience, which has been mostly negative. To put it this way, my skin color has impacted my dating life more than the size of my penis. Some of you must be able to take heart in this. I don't mean to equate my experience to yours, but believe me there is heart break involved in being turned down based on a families expectations when you loved a person otherwise.

my best friend/female roommate only fucks/dates black guys

that should help you

[Bundy]

yes, because I'm sure that what he wants to hear; "Just find someone who fetishizes you based on your race." That's some brilliant advice there, that one person that you know existing somewhere, still doesn't fix the "My gf parents hate me because of who I am." But hey, at long as you can pull size queens into bed everything's fucking fine and dandy

That's like when people tell me to look 'for asian girls' only or to choose an 'alternative' way of sex (which always means using some sort of replacement for your baby dick or indulging in cuckolding)

Personally I don't care about the sex thing anymore. My sorrow doesn't from the fact that I'll eventually be dumped or something, it's the social implications. It sickens me that I can only find like max 100 vids with 'small' guys in them (who are usually average) and seeing people of my size exclusively in piece of shit humiliation porn. When you realize that society just thinks of you as a fucking joke. It's this sort of stuff that makes people like me and Klingsor desire to see the world burn.

But for what it's worth, even though being black/arab/slavic/whatever in certain parts of the world is certainly worse than a small dick, at least you still know that there are people who genuinely don't hate you for what you are. There are tons of people who show genuine empathy, and outright hateful groups like the Klan are more or less hated by everyone. That means that even though you are still stuck in a though position, there is at least some sort of social movement, you aren't truly alone

not us though, we can fuck ourselves. There is no civic rights groups for us, not a single march for us, just endless punchlines, humiliation and people on the internet telling us it's not really that bad and flat out denying our troubles, trials and tribulations.

[dvnJ22]

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[Wastedlife]

Well almost all of us got a lot of those problems you mentioned...and on top of that we got tiny penises...I would give my left arm right now and bet that if you woke up tomorrow with 2-4 inch penis you would be suicidal within 1 week. Ill give you benefit of doubt and say you are a good person who's just trying to help but dam dude...most man here can only dream of being used for sex by someone. A lot of man here don't even have sex...

[dvnJ22]

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