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reitso you really need to get this stuff that is fogging up your mind out of your head. You won't say what country you are from but I seriously doubt the average guy there is much bigger than they are around the world. There are some differences in some cultures but the differences are small. Besides even if guys are bigger that doesn't mean women are. A vagina can only take so much penis comfortably. 7" is plenty for most women.

You say you have never had a girlfriend so that probably means you never had sex. So you are fretting over something that has not happened.

Why don't you make the jump and experience it first hand before you right off all women. You are 19 and you say girls hit on you so you have an opening. Pluck up the courage and go for it.

Don't let the thoughts in your head keep you from enjoying the best things life has to offer. Stop watching porn.

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I don't think so.

YES YOUR GENETICS ARE EXACTLY 50/50 -

LET ME ASK YOU- DO YOU KNOW HOW MANY CHROMOSOMES THERE ARE IN YOUR SKIN CELLS…?

What studies?

YOU APPEAR TO OWN A COMPUTER- SO YOU CAN LOOK THEM UP OR CHOOSE TO DISBELIEVE MY ASSERTION.

I DONT MIND EITHER WAY.

umm no.

UMM YES… IF HE DIDNT HAVE THE PHYSICAL ISSUE THEN HE WOUDNT HAVE THE MENTAL ISSUE .. PROBABLY ANYWAY…

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YOU APPEAR TO OWN A COMPUTER- SO YOU CAN LOOK THEM UP OR CHOOSE TO DISBELIEVE MY ASSERTION.

I DONT MIND EITHER WAY.

Why do I have to do the work to back up your claim? I've seen a few charts but they all contradict each other so they're pretty much worthless.

UMM YES… IF HE DIDNT HAVE THE PHYSICAL ISSUE THEN HE WOUDNT HAVE THE MENTAL ISSUE .. PROBABLY ANYWAY…

but he doesn't have a physical issue. Since when is having a 7" penis an issue?

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glenj,

-You dont HAVE to do anything- you can look it up or believe the contrary to my claims. Entirely up to you.

- I dont think 7 is a physical issue, I eventually told him that too if you care to refer back.- I actually told him thats the perfect length for some women.

When I originally said 'its a physical problem causing the mental issues' that was BEFORE he admitted he had 7 inches.

Having said that - if he is truly the smallest in his community he may well experience rejection BUT I still think he has true SPS if he's in angst over it being tiny. Because its not tiny in any culture- even on a porn set.

ps I notice you haven't come back to me about my chromosome question? Still looking up the answer? :)

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I had sex before but with the same sex so yeah I seen lots of guys of my country and I am indeed the smallest among all the guys I've seen; its just my penis really looks small I don't know why :'(

its 7 inches on the measure but when the ruler is taken away it's like 3 inches -_- just WTF -_-

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you must understand that whilst some women do regard flaccid length as important MOST women consider the ERECT size to be WAY more important.

I fully accept you may be the smallest in your peer group and of course that may have consequences that are 'not just in your head'.

BUT I hope you realise that 7 inches is not small according to any medical survey I have ever seen and I have read 100s or even 1000s of articles and studies all over the world.

If you face rejection from your peers then I suggest you move location- seriously.

In the uk 7 inches is often quoted as the ideal erect size for women and your girth is fine.

You could have a great sexual or romantic future ahead of you if you so wished.

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disregarding the fact that some girls have shown interest in me and I always ends up with me acting blunt and cold to refuse their interest; I don't feel enough for a girl; like I worth nobody; I don't know why I feel this way. its like I don't fee like a man.

I wonder if porn ruined my mind since it was forced onto me by the age of 4-6 by my babysitter, who also forced me to do on her what's in the videos -my parents found out, fired her and punished me because boys can't be raped by girls they said-; I was also raped by 5 guys 3 years later;

I can't help but spitting on my projection on the mirror.

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my penis is 7 inches in length 5 inches in girth; and it looks SO SMALL on me; its like I have a body dismorphic disorder; I just don't know what to do

There's clearly more going on than SPS here. Whether it be physical appearance, or like you mentioned, the fact that you aren't good with girls. Or just don't have good social skills in general.

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so you mean it's not SPS alone it's a mixture of different disorders?

That's what it seems like to me. Regardless of how much sexual experience you lack, I can't imagine any guy with your measurements being this down and out over your size.

I'll admit, I do the same thing sometimes. Although I genuinely do feel insecure and sexually inadequate because of my size, I tend to use it as a scapegoat for other things I have going on.

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I never had sex with girls before, and as you may have already known, I am not willing to any soon.

It's just that I feel inadequate in size and I know that my EXTREME insecurity is the actual "fuck up".

I mean that I understand that my size is more than fine but all those years I can't feel "fine".

In other words, I know that from a statistical point of view, I am big; however all the facts failed to actually change my mind/subconscious. I still FEEL inadequate.

This year, I stressed on abstinence because I am not secure which is obviously a deal breaker.

if you asked me about my penis size, I would say small because that how I see it even in mirrors.

another factor which maybe important: my thighs are 31.5 inches in circumference and 16 inches in length ; so it maybe a reason why I "see my penis small"?

even if my above statement is true; still I can't feel anything about my size but being small and inferior

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I never had sex with girls before, and as you may have already known, I am not willing to any soon.

It's just that I feel inadequate in size and I know that my EXTREME insecurity is the actual "fuck up".

I mean that I understand that my size is more than fine but all those years I can't feel "fine".

In other words, I know that from a statistical point of view, I am big; however all the facts failed to actually change my mind/subconscious. I still FEEL inadequate.

This year, I stressed on abstinence because I am not secure which is obviously a deal breaker.

if you asked me about my penis size, I would say small because that how I see it even in mirrors.

another factor which maybe important: my thighs are 31.5 inches in circumference and 16 inches in length ; so it maybe a reason why I "see my penis small"?

even if my above statement is true; still I can't feel anything about my size but being small and inferior

Well, it's all mental, and I can relate. Even though I'm a bit on the small side of average statistically, I don't suffer from physical SPS, just the mental part. It's not easy to just get over it, especially when you've been told (or at least telling yourself) you are small for majority of your life. I wish I could just wake up tomorrow, be done with it, and say "Well, glad that's over" but it just doesn't work like that.

The one bright side for guys like you, and even me, is that it can and will eventually be over. But for the gentlemen here who's penises really do fall under the category or Micro Penis, it's forever, and I definitely feel for those guys. Even though my size makes me feel pretty damn shitty, I am well aware I could have had it worse. Doesn't make me feel any better to be honest, but I still recognize that I got lucky compared to others.

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Well, it's all mental, and I can relate. Even though I'm a bit on the small side of average statistically, I don't suffer from physical SPS, just the mental part. It's not easy to just get over it, especially when you've been told (or at least telling yourself) you are small for majority of your life. I wish I could just wake up tomorrow, be done with it, and say "Well, glad that's over" but it just doesn't work like that.

The one bright side for guys like you, and even me, is that it can and will eventually be over. But for the gentlemen here who's penises really do fall under the category or Micro Penis, it's forever, and I definitely feel for those guys. Even though my size makes me feel pretty damn shitty, I am well aware I could have had it worse. Doesn't make me feel any better to be honest, but I still recognize that I got lucky compared to others.

see that doesn't apply to me; regardless of whoever's inadequacy or whatever statistics say; when I face a girl I can't feel anything but I am inferior and that she's superior to me; like that I am an F quality while she is an A one; its just I don't worth somebody like this and that I can't give her what she wants; and to be a realist, say if I actually satisfy her, I won't feel that I did a good job; I feel like she is hiding the "you SUCK" statement to be nice.

I tried to get out of this mindset but I am imprisoned inside this cage that other people think of being made of thin air, while I can feel, see, touch and perceive the coldness of its steel.

and btw I didn't say this to any of my parents all those years, but I think my mother knows; I just told them not to expect seeing me one day next to a girl and child.

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Feeling sexually inadequate is one thing, this is another. This is a different issue entirely.

I feel this way because I believe I am not equipped with a member that can be satisfying; its not in a femdom way.

To make it clear lets say a girl asked to date me; whats come to my mind is what a girl like her would do with someone like me then I refuse because I want her to invite a man better than I; its like when a straight-A-student go asks a D-student a scientific question.

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Reisto, perhaps most of your problem comes from having been raped as a youngster, as you shared. This must have had profound negative effects on you - there's almost no way to escape it. It is something you really need help to properly deal with. the fact that you hate yourself for any reason, whether it be perception of a small penis or anything else, is not a healthy state of your mind. I don't think your penis or your body is the root issue. The rape, a crime committed against you, has to be a factor.

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Reisto, perhaps most of your problem comes from having been raped as a youngster, as you shared. This must have had profound negative effects on you - there's almost no way to escape it. It is something you really need help to properly deal with. the fact that you hate yourself for any reason, whether it be perception of a small penis or anything else, is not a healthy state of your mind. I don't think your penis or your body is the root issue. The rape, a crime committed against you, has to be a factor.

would professional help really help? is there any sign for it?

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