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This is addressed to the men who are "actually" small, not the one's who have warped perception of themselves as small, but the ones who are close to me in size. Does sex feel different for us? There's so much fixation on women's experience of it here I was wondering if it is different for us? Do you have trouble feeling them or feel not much suction or tightness on your penis? Does it feel good anyway? I've heard men complain about certain women having "loose" pussies, implying other's are tighter. In your sexual history have you encountered significant differences in tightness? Is it true that virgin's l have tighter pussies? Have most of the vaginas you've had sex with been loose?

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Hey Jupiter I am little closer to average than some guys here (I am NOT bragging, it has done me no good) but anytime I have been with a woman I have always felt like "she could use a little more". Especially in less conventional positions I always feel like "damn if I could just go in a little more she would really feel me".

That's the only frustration for me, just wishing I could go deeper and avoid slipping out. Other than that sex is terrific. The non terrific part is when they find someone better, which is what always happens to me.

I think 7x5" would be perfect. It would challenge the vagina w/o hurting it in a variety of positions.

I like em a little loose, not too tight, because then I can hold off longer and feel like a stud. I do everything I can to compensate, saying and doing everything (and I do mean everything) that is pleasurable for her.

I hope you find a chick that digs you and things go well. I wish the same for me!

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Yeah I kinda felt the same way- though its a long time since I had sex

I think the ideal size is 7.25 BP x 5.75 G.

or something like that- based on the research and my life observations.

But I wouldnt be upset to have 9 x 6.

ps hell right now I'd pay a lot of cash for 5 x 5…. :(…. or even 4.5 x 4.5…..

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Yea I always wonder if sex feels twice as good for porn sized guys who really stretch pussies to the limit. But I am barely 5 inches and not too thick and am lucky enough to be married and have had a great sex life, although I always do feel my wife is being cheated. Sex feels just as good to me as it does to anyone else. My wife's pussy always feels great despite the fact I know it could handle soemthing twice as big with ease. I think where shit really sucks are those occasional times when I get one of those what I call "Lazy Hard Ons," where the dick just isn't completely raging hard. But when I get a total raging boner things work out well I guess.....but one postition I can never do because of my size is the one we see in porn quite a bit which is a total visual for the camera where the woman has her back to the man and he is fucking her from behind in a straight up position. My dick is too short and always slips out....doggie style is what's best for us. Sadly I can't really do too well with my wife riding on top. We used to do this when we were younger but after two kids she has a little belly that mades it almost impossible.

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Yea I always wonder if sex feels twice as good for porn sized guys who really stretch pussies to the limit. But I am barely 5 inches and not too thick and am lucky enough to be married and have had a great sex life, although I always do feel my wife is being cheated. Sex feels just as good to me as it does to anyone else. My wife's pussy always feels great despite the fact I know it could handle soemthing twice as big with ease. I think where shit really sucks are those occasional times when I get one of those what I call "Lazy Hard Ons," where the dick just isn't completely raging hard. But when I get a total raging boner things work out well I guess.....but one postition I can never do because of my size is the one we see in porn quite a bit which is a total visual for the camera where the woman has her back to the man and he is fucking her from behind in a straight up position. My dick is too short and always slips out....doggie style is what's best for us. Sadly I can't really do too well with my wife riding on top. We used to do this when we were younger but after two kids she has a little belly that mades it almost impossible.

Totally agree with the 'lazy hard on'- that can be depressing I guess. I'm glad you've been able to have normal sex as I'm around your size

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Interesting thread.

About sex with 5 inches, I guess first question is what measuring system are we talking here? Many guys measure their erection by pressing in a ruler to some extent. Depending how hard you press this could easily alter the measure by as much as an inch. So 5 inches could actually be nearer to 4 inches. But that aside, I think a genuine 5 inches (with no pressing) is only about half of an inch below average. So is there anything that you could do with extra half of an inch?

About porn, I believe it's quite well known that some of the more exotic positions would be difficult/impossible to achieve with sizes in the average or ordinary range. That's one reason why they hire guys who are significantly bigger than average size for these films. (Another reason is, they can generally only film the penetrations if there is a gap - so in porn people are typically positioned further apart than they normally would be.)

Would regular girlfriend sex be better with porn sizes? I guess we'd have to ask someone who is that size! But I'm guessing that for some girls full penetration of these sizes really wouldn't be so comfortable? And if she isn't comfortable it isn't going to be good sex, right? If you think about it, it kind of makes sense that the average vagina is built to take the average penis. I know there are endless youtube videos where girls say the ideal size is like 8 or 9 inches, etc. But girls don't measure penises and they generally don't have any accurate idea how these unit sizes relate to real life.

I think girth rather than length is possibly what makes most positive difference? (But almost no one ever talks about girth.)

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i'm pretty much 4"x4" and have really only had PIV sex with 1 girlfriend, but I can say without a doubt that the sex I've had was pretty awesome for me. I've heard that a vagina can constrict and tighten around whatever size object it is, otherwise how would tampons not just fall out all of the time. IDK, don't quote me on this, but from a strictly personal level, I'm sure all of us would get plenty of pleasure from sex with most women, assuming we stay hard and don't PE, which are separate but also serious issues(for men of all sizes).

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Hey guys, I just wanted to say something about this and you can take it or leave it, not going to hurt my feelings but just something to think about. The vagina is essentially a muscle or rather it has several rings of muscles just inside of it. It can open up pretty large (obviously big enough to shoot a baby out of, lol!) but it can also feel tight on any regular day. The thought that after a woman has a child or if a woman has had a lot of sex, she will be "looser" is not totally true, the fact is when a woman is super turned on and in the moment or however you want to say it, she can feel looser and the reason for that is because she is feeling good, satisfied, she is stress free and relaxed. When a woman, perhaps a virgin or someone without a lot of experience, is having sex they are sometimes more tense or not completely relaxed, they seem "tight" because they are tensing the muscles of their vagina. Just like when you are around your friends joking and laughing and you feel comfortable, you are relaxed, but if a hot chica comes to talk to you, you tense up.

Sex for a woman is going to feel great regardless of whether she is tensed up (tight) or relaxed (loose) because there are a ton of nerve endings in the vagina and women can also flex those muscles which can lead to better orgasms for her as well as a feeling of tightness for you.

Sometimes a very small tampon can feel uncomfortable in my vagina but my boyfriends penis (which is bigger than the tampon) feels great and it's really just a matter of how turned on I am.

So...although it seems contradictory, the looser she feels to you kind of means the better you feel to her. She is feeling relaxed, satisfied, and good.

There are women out there who are going to be rude and cruel no matter what, and they will say stuff about small penis on men, but really it has more to say about them and not about the man. The vagina is full of nerve endings, sex is going to be good and the more you can shut down your mind and just FEEL, the better it will be for you and for her because girls want to know their guys are satisfied as well. It is a sense of accomplishment to bring your man to orgasm. :)

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Yet the studies and surveys repeatedly show that the ideal penis for women is above average girth and length.

The studies also show that roughly 100% of men who are 'small' have partners who are unhappy with their size

(a correct extrapolation from the often quoted but mostly misunderstood UCLA study)

the issues associated with small penises according too many of the clips and articles I have provided are:

- unpleasant to look at

- falls out during penetration

- lack of depth of penetration

- he cannot feel much if too thin

- she cannot feel much if too thin

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I wish you guys could climb into my brain and read it, because I'm not so great at putting together my thoughts in a way that makes sense so I'm going to use a very dumb analogy and it's just because I can't think of any better way to make my point.

Let's say there is a burger place with the absolute most amazing burgers in the world, just deliciousness on a bun...

If you go there to eat with some buddies, you are going to enjoy that burger so much more than if you go to eat with some uptight stranger that you're not comfortable with. The burger is the same both times but it's so much better when you can relax and enjoy yourself.

Same with sex, if you are with someone you are comfortable with and can be yourself around, sex is going to be so much more amazing than if you're with some uptight snooty witch that you can't relax with. Vice versa for guys and girls...

It's not all about intercourse, it's also about feelings and touch and kisses and words whispered in your ear.

Don't dwell on the scientific parts of it, just enjoy it for what it is...I guarantee the more you can relax and enjoy yourself, the more she will as well. She will enjoy herself just like if she was sitting at the burger place with friends, but if you're throwing off uncomfortable vibes because you're thinking too much, it will be like eating that burger with someone not so fun.

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Above link is an article that just came out regarding women and penis affiliation.

Well the trouble with that data is that it doesnt list the girth and lengths in the photos.

They also havent asked the women what their optimum, skin colour, length and girth etc are

In actual fact Im amazed that some of those factors are even listed - jeez how fickle and cosmetic are these women!!

I have enough to worry about with inadequate length and girth- now I also have to worry about the positioning of my meatus??

I dont even know what the f….k that is??

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I wish you guys could climb into my brain and read it, because I'm not so great at putting together my thoughts in a way that makes sense so I'm going to use a very dumb analogy and it's just because I can't think of any better way to make my point.

Let's say there is a burger place with the absolute most amazing burgers in the world, just deliciousness on a bun...

If you go there to eat with some buddies, you are going to enjoy that burger so much more than if you go to eat with some uptight stranger that you're not comfortable with. The burger is the same both times but it's so much better when you can relax and enjoy yourself.

Same with sex, if you are with someone you are comfortable with and can be yourself around, sex is going to be so much more amazing than if you're with some uptight snooty witch that you can't relax with. Vice versa for guys and girls...

It's not all about intercourse, it's also about feelings and touch and kisses and words whispered in your ear.

Don't dwell on the scientific parts of it, just enjoy it for what it is...I guarantee the more you can relax and enjoy yourself, the more she will as well. She will enjoy herself just like if she was sitting at the burger place with friends, but if you're throwing off uncomfortable vibes because you're thinking too much, it will be like eating that burger with someone not so fun.

You make valid points, and I'm sure we all understand what you're saying. Your encouragement is appreciated by the way.

But, being sensually attentive and getting your partner relaxed can only do so much. At some point, the physical stimulation has to be up to par, and there's levels of stimulation that 4-3 inches or less simply can't provide (or at least won't cut it amongst the majority of women)

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