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I'm not as happy as I could be if I had 2-4 more inches. But my size surprisingly doesn't effect my social life and how I interact with people.

Actually, if you met me, I'd be that last person you thought had size insecurities.

I thankfully am a sports fanatic, so that keeps my mind off of it, especially recently because of the NBA playoffs. My feeling of inadequacy only surfaces when I'm alone and/or have too much time to think.

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I'm not as happy as I could be if I had 2-4 more inches. But my size surprisingly doesn't effect my social life and how I interact with people.

Actually, if you met me, I'd be that last person you thought had size insecurities.

I thankfully am a sports fanatic, so that keeps my mind off of it, especially recently because of the NBA playoffs. My feeling of inadequacy only surfaces when I'm alone and/or have too much time to think.

If people looked at me they would not know I had any problems whatsoever, it's only those that know me really well that know I'm down.

I hadn't really thought about any insecurities due to my sports team doing well and other things in my life going okay but now thats worn off and I've got time to think about stuff I have been hit with it all again.

If only I could magically gain an extra inch or inch and a half

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I went to a bar recently with some friends and at the end of the night after my friends had bailed and when I was getting ready to go, I ran into a bachelorette party and ended up getting invited back to one of the girl's apartment. She was overweight, but not like morbidly obese, and I'm overweight so who am I to judge, and I told her that I'd hang out but that we weren't going to have sex. Being forward about it, and letting her know that I simply don't do that, was so weightlifting and made me so much more comfortable. With no pressure, we ended up fooling around and she gave me a bj and I made her cum numerous times with my fingers and mouth that she was calling me all the next week trying to hang out again even though she knew I had a 4" penis. We talked and she liked me for who I was, and she like that I believed in feminism, and she really like orgasming numerous times in a night, even if she wasn't getting rammed by chad thundercock. I cut it off with her, because I just wasn't feeling her as much as she was feeling me(i'm pretty awesome), but I don't think us men are alone in just wanting simple compatibility and orgasms from our partners. I don't need a perfect 10 in my life, and there are plenty of women out there who don't need a porn star to be happy.

so to bring this anecdote back around to your question, I used to really let my lack of confidence hurt me socially, but in reality I just need to change my approach. I'm never going to be a huge player, in part because of my personality but also because I don't want large swaths knowing about my penis, but I can definitely make one or a few women really happy, as I have proven to myself. I just think that we are all sold a bunch of patriarchal machismo bullshit by our culture and by porn and by other men and by the vocal size queens in the world and the people who enjoy inflicting emotional pain and feeling superior to others. There are so many out there who want us to hate ourselves, and they are really just full of shit. We can be successful sexual partners, sexual ability is not a measurement. And a good partner is a whole lot more than sexual ability.

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I went to a bar recently with some friends and at the end of the night after my friends had bailed and when I was getting ready to go, I ran into a bachelorette party and ended up getting invited back to one of the girl's apartment. She was overweight, but not like morbidly obese, and I'm overweight so who am I to judge, and I told her that I'd hang out but that we weren't going to have sex. Being forward about it, and letting her know that I simply don't do that, was so weightlifting and made me so much more comfortable. With no pressure, we ended up fooling around and she gave me a bj and I made her cum numerous times with my fingers and mouth that she was calling me all the next week trying to hang out again even though she knew I had a 4" penis. We talked and she liked me for who I was, and she like that I believed in feminism, and she really like orgasming numerous times in a night, even if she wasn't getting rammed by chad thundercock. I cut it off with her, because I just wasn't feeling her as much as she was feeling me(i'm pretty awesome), but I don't think us men are alone in just wanting simple compatibility and orgasms from our partners. I don't need a perfect 10 in my life, and there are plenty of women out there who don't need a porn star to be happy.

so to bring this anecdote back around to your question, I used to really let my lack of confidence hurt me socially, but in reality I just need to change my approach. I'm never going to be a huge player, in part because of my personality but also because I don't want large swaths knowing about my penis, but I can definitely make one or a few women really happy, as I have proven to myself. I just think that we are all sold a bunch of patriarchal machismo bullshit by our culture and by porn and by other men and by the vocal size queens in the world and the people who enjoy inflicting emotional pain and feeling superior to others. There are so many out there who want us to hate ourselves, and they are really just full of shit. We can be successful sexual partners, sexual ability is not a measurement. And a good partner is a whole lot more than sexual ability.

good on you man! I'm glad you've had a good experience. Hopefully I and everyone else can take something from your experience and mindset and use it to their benefit.

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And there again from those who sham us almost do it from the perspective as if this whole deal were a choice or something we have control over. Sometimes the guy with the small cock is villinaized as if he went to the place where you pick up your penis, and he purposely chose the tiny one that nobody else wanted.

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