OK I didn't know where else to post this because it's a sensitive subject. I didn't know if it would fit in sexuality or if it would be dumb to put it there or general coping. So here it sits.
At my main job this morning I went to break with the guys as usual. One of them mentions a news story he'd heard about a guy getting raped. Most of them immediately started cracking jokes about the guy's masculinity and was the guy's name that raped him Bubba and he must have dropped the soap etc etc etc....
When A said that they got it wrong that the guy was raped by a woman every last one of them busted a gut laughing. I heard eveything from some guys have all the luck to you can't rape the willing.
So I just had to pipe up. I said it wasn't impossible and they should have a little empathy for another person. I had 9 men staring at me like I had 2 heads. Then A looks at me and says (like I'm stupid) How could it be rape? If his dick got hard he had to be willing.
I was dumbstruck. All of them nodded their heads like this was just common sense and I was ignorant.
So I came to my job here and had to get a second opinion. While I was inside buying my lunch to take out here I asked a group of guys I know if they had heard the news story. They hadn't and when I told them they all cracked up!
Is this a guy thing? Do most guys think this about men getting raped? Or do I just have the good fortune to work with some of the most callous assholes ever.
I realize that this is a sensitive subject for me. All I could think is wow if ANYONE had laughed at me like that or expressed those ideas I would have killed myself.
These same guys though during the conversation got on the subject that any guy who rapes a female should have his junk cut off. So why do they have no sympathy for some guy this happens to?
Is it a type of defense mechanism? If I think it's impossible and it didn't happen to that guy it can't happen to me. Is that what it is?
Either way it made me inordinately sad. I truly hope this poor guy gets help and doesn't run into schmucks like the ones I work with.