Boyfriend has small penis syndrome?

[Xyo]

Hello all, I hope you don't mind that this is here instead of in relationships.

I suspect that my boyfriend has small penis syndrome. He has less girth than average and is of average length. He's asked me on a few occasions about the sizes of men I've been with and if his size was enough. He's asked his previous partner (his first was a virgin). He used to suffer from anxiety disorder, but is getting better. He has recently admitted to me that our "fit" bothers him and he's been having a "wandering eye" because he's curious if he can find a partner he is more of a physical match with. He's been with two women before me (he's 32); married both. I've told him that I'm sexually satisfied, but he remains less committed in our relationship due to our "fit." I don't believe my vagina is any larger than average, however, his first wife was tight and his second wife was tight enough that he felt more sensation with her than with me. With his first wife, he stopped having sex with her entirely near the middle to end of their six year marriage and became addicted to porn. With his second wife, he stopped watching porn, had sex with her once every two months, and felt sexually fulfilled when he dreamed of sex with her. With me, we have sex about two or three times a week, he masturbates regularly, and I fear he might be starting to watch a little more porn than what might be healthy. He seems more obsessive about his looks than other men I know. He seems a little obsessive about being perceived as masculine.

Questions I have for you:

1) Is the lack of sensation really enough to keep you from being committed to a woman no matter how great she is? (He claims he's with me because I'm perfect in every way except our fit, but he can't help but look because he is not sexually fulfilled)

2) Does lack of sensation always equate to bad sex? I feel like the sex is great, but now I'm starting to think he thinks it's horrible

3) Have any of you with SPS been in serious relationships and how does it normally effect them? Do you have any advice that might help me understand my boyfriend better?

4) Is it possible that his opinion of our sex life is more psychosomatic than actually physical?

5) Is there anything I can even say that might help? Do?

6) I haven't mentioned to him that he might have SPS and I'm afraid to. He refuses to go to counseling for any reason. Is there hope for us?

[51 Years of Misery]

He thinks he doesn't satisfy you. Make more groaning love noises during sex, "Thank" him occasionally for having sex with you every now and then, give him fed-back about how much you like having sex with him. say his name as you orgasm.

I have a totally average penis in length and girth it seems, but even today I was looking at my erect penis and I can not believe mine is "average", it seems ridiculously small to me! and that every other Man is more or less the same size as me, a World of tiny penises, my penis seems ludicrously small to me. it seems impossible to me. it is a perception problem, reassure him.

[TooOld4This]

Xyo, first things first: whatever decision your BF makes, it's not a reflection on you.

You're a good person; otherwise you wouldn't be posting here, asking about this topic.

If the BF isn't feeling sensation, then that's something neurological in his body, or possibly psychological.

Again, not an indication that you're doing anything wrong.

I doubt that he would start thinking about other women because of SPS insecurities;

i'm no expert, but i would imagine (and in this forum i've noticed)

that SPS tends to make men WITHDRAW from potential new partners, not seek them out.

Your man doesn't need a "better fit," Xyo. He needs a better attitude (i suspect).

My own opinion -- i think he needs to appreciate you more; you sound like a keeper.

[Xyo]

Thanks guys! Means a lot!

[TooOld4This]

Xyo

[TinyBrazilian]

you seems a hot china

[TinyBrazilian]

forgive me the rudeness

I will read the topic now

[TinyBrazilian]

hey xyo

listen to me carefully

I am Brazilian, fuck a lot and have a small penis

Brazilians are the leading experts in sex in the world.

I will answer your questions

1) The answer to that is the normal insecurity we feel small penis because better than having pleasure is to give pleasure at the same time, it becomes difficult for us

2) If you think the sex is good, make a point of saying this to him, and be naughty, men do not believe in just words, men like to experience the action

3) sincerely xyo, I can not believe how women are so fond of me, even with that my penis ridiculous, I'm currently dating 5 girls, and frankly it, I think they like my good humor, the person I I am, because if it was for my penis, I'd be paid. I have had serious relationships, which lasted up to two years, but now I just want to enjoy

4) Believe me, BOTH, physical and psychic

5) Now it's time for a shock treatment, there is something you can do so, you say this: "I like your sex, but if you are unsure, we can use sex toys" I recommend penile skin that stretches the penis.

6) sincerely forget psychologists, just in case he get depressed or want to kill yourself.

The best thing in life is you talk honestly with him. Tell him that you like sex, but if he still feel unsure, say that there is penile covers, cock rings and everything, that can increase his penis artificially

[Resolute]

3) sincerely xyo, I can not believe how women are so fond of me, even with that my penis ridiculous, I'm currently dating 5 girls, and frankly it, I think they like my good humor, the person I I am, because if it was for my penis, I'd be paid. I have had serious relationships, which lasted up to two years, but now I just want to enjoy

trust me, if you really are dating 5 girls, they're not with you for your humor. it's more likely for your looks.

5) Now it's time for a shock treatment, there is something you can do so, you say this: "I like your sex, but if you are unsure, we can use sex toys" I recommend penile skin that stretches the penis.

xyo, never ask a guy to use any "penis enhancers", unless you wanna make him feel like crap.

6) sincerely forget psychologists, just in case he get depressed or want to kill yourself.

The best thing in life is you talk honestly with him. Tell him that you like sex, but if he still feel unsure, say that there is penile covers, cock rings and everything, that can increase his penis artificially

same as previous.

[Jessie]

to anyone who is considering asking their partner to enhance the size of their penis or to get sex toys:

I would advise they pick their words carefully:

Because the guy will remember the conversation for the rest of their lives

(and will likely never to be able to enjoy sex again)

[51 Years of Misery]

Agreed Xyo don't suggest toys or penis enhancers they will just confirm in his mind that he is too small and can't satisfy you.

[51 Years of Misery]

No penis enhancers or toys, Try the Fed-back thing first. Praise and "Thank You's". Groaning noises during the actual sex, small thing but they can make all the difference.

[notbad]

1) Yes, it is. If sex isn't good, even if girl is great, beautiful I won't be happy .

2) The lack of sensation on his penis, makes a bad sex, even if the girl is beautiful and hot.

3) Try to show to him you really like him and he is important to you, his head, his body, his (small) penis, everything . Im sure he is important to you, this thread proves this, but he need be sure about this . (Don't show this thread to him)

4) From what you said, I guess its a big chance that his ''problem'' its only in his head, not in his penis . Don't seems to be a problem in his penis, its ''only'' on his head . This doens't means will be easy to him cope this .

5) Same answer at 3) . Make your best to make him feel good, before, during and after sex . Sex is very important to man .

6) Yes, theres hope . For guys with very small penis , its harder, for your boyfriend, seems the problem is more in his head, its still hard to cope, but less harder than if he had a very small penis, like many guys in this forum .

In my opinion, never, in any case, suggest toys or penis cover skin like someone suggest above. If my girlfriend says this to me, Id hate mysellf forever . And probably hate her too, even if this isn't her fault .

[TinyBrazilian]

accept

life is hard

[sara89]

Hey Xyo,

could it be the case that your boyfriend wants to express that the problem (which isn't a real problem) isn't only caused by him?

I can't imagine that vaginas can have such different sizes.

Secound guess: He is also unhappy in other parts of the relationship.

What I would do:

I would say:

"I really love you, I enjoy our sex life, I really like your company. (guess you said this before)

But I feel very insecure because of your thoughts. I am unsettled because of your "wandering eye".

This isn't a good situation for me."

Maybe you should allow him to have sex with another woman and let him try if it really feels better.

Ask him if there is anything which you could actively improve during sex.

Show him that you are willing to work on it and that you want to stay him with him.

But if he makes you to feel such insecure I'd suggest a short time-out of the relationship.

This could help to show yourself what you want/need.