sbio87 Posted June 7, 2008 Report Share Posted June 7, 2008 I tried writing this out a few times, but none of the posts I wrote really conveyed what I wanted to say, so let me try to state this as simply as possible.I overthink things. Especially when it comes to relationships, I dwell on minute details of every action, every word, and end up drawing ridiculous conclusions from these examinations. Combined with self-esteem issues, this ends up being emotionally encumbering far too often.Whenever I'm "blown off", for whatever reason, I end up taking the worst possible reason I can think of and blowing it out of proportion. For example, I was supposed to spend time with a guy I've been seeing today after he got out of a doctor's appointment, but he ended up contacting me and telling me he was really tired, and stressed for a trip that's coming up, and he didn't think "today would work".Although that sounds pretty basic enough, if you combine it with all the other little details that I see, it starts to drive me crazy.- We haven't known each other THAT long, but his trip that's coming up (Wednesday) is for eight weeks, where we'll have practically no contact.- We spent a lot of time together when we first met, but lately, it seems like he's been avoiding contact with me at all.- It seems, specifically, like he's been avoiding contact with me since the first we had sex.- Our plans weren't strenuous; we had planned to just sit around and watch a movie, or something like that.- He had to drive a half hour from his house to his doctor's appointment... which is less than five minutes away from my apartment. So it's not like he wasn't already in the area.- He usually calls, but he only text messaged me to tell me that he wasn't coming over.I could keep going, but I hope this at least highlights what I'm trying to explain.And just overthinking things wouldn't be as much of an issue, but then I tend to overreact as well. I've been emotionally dependent on other lately, it seems, and I get almost distraught when things like this happen, and I start hyperventilate. I nearly had a panic attack today when he "blew me off", and it really has been a culmination of the past few days of me overthinking every conversation we've had. And I shouldn't get like that, but I don't even know what to do.Any thoughts or advice? I can try to clarify, if this is too random or confusing.Thank you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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