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Sazzduhnuh,

Hi! I think you made a good start here just by writing about it. Writing helps us to organise our thoughts, it helps us to see what is appropriate and what isn't, and it helps us create boundaries. It sound like a trust thing. Maybe your testing him - wondering if he can handle the real you. We can make a list of the things we are doing that seem to be getting in the way of our relationship and we can make the decision to stop doing them. It's not easy but it can be done. It's all about becoming aware of what it is we are doing, and writing about it helps. I feel too that sitting down with our boyfriend or friend and talking over what we're going through helps too.

Some of it can be about time management - balancing your time between your boyfriend and your friends as well as your other interests. It's not a good idea to neglect your friends as their usually the ones who listen when things don't work out as we hoped.