help101 Posted September 23, 2008 Report Share Posted September 23, 2008 Wow! Am I ever to pleased to have found this site! What I feel is almost "ashamed" to be written and I shake as I write this. I'm so afraid of being "found out"! In my life, it's just not ok to feel less than sympathic to our situation. And sympathic I am not! I deal with a 6 year old that visits only every other weekend. I have known him since he was 3.5. It was fine in the beginning. Really almost too fine....we blended families (I have two kids) without much fuss, though my oldest child resented it! We "got" over it and life was ok. But then things started to change, slowly at first and I'm afraid to admit has now become the full fledge snowball effect!I am terribly resentful that life seizes to exist every other weekend. It's like having an out of town guest that we have to cater to everytime he's here. I am terribly angry that everytime he arrives, my husband exits! Emotionally, physically, spirtually until that child leaves. It's simply not fair!I am told that I should be compassionate; that I should understand what it's like to not have a father for two weeks and how hard it is to rekindle a relationship when you only have 6 days a month to do it in. I am told that I am reacting to a six year old's behavior and that I should be the adult. I am told that I am wrong. Simply put.I hear all of that and try to change but the anger built up is down right scary! To say that I hate a six year old makes me sad. But it's the truth. I hate the fact that he steals ALL attention and makes it so that the rest of the family is left on the side lines. I hate that he simply can't share his father and becomes so needy that my darling husband caters to it! But maybe my husband isn't so darling if he is willing to let this happen?I've talked, cried, screamed, pleaded and have finally resolved to silence about the issue. The child comes and no one talks. Not a freakin word! So bad that when I enter the room, the 6 year old stops a sentence until I leave. My husband doesn't know what to do but please the boy so when he comes now a damn ticker tape parade insues! It's as if he knows that to get me out of the way insures all attention on him. Don't get me wrong ladies, my hubby is really trying to "fix" this.....but fight after fight results from his visits and always results in his son "winning" as my husband and I go our seperate ways while he's here! Just this morning, he was leaving and my husband made him say goodbye. He was standing like a dog at the door facing the wall and said "bye!" never moving! It inflicked a small tidal wave of rage and I relpied "See ya, thanks for the LOVELY weekend!" Damnit....I am childish! My oldest son was even more mature as he just simply said nothing!Please help this anger. I don't want to spend the rest of my life this way. I just simply can't see out of this mess! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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