jlambert Posted October 7, 2008 Report Share Posted October 7, 2008 HiI'm looking for some advice. My sister has had depression problems for around 10 years now, but I proabbly only found out about 6 years ago.She's a very pretty, girl in her 20's and is a single parent.She doesn't seem to be able to cope at all well with knock backs, particularly where men are involved. But when she does have have a set back, no matter how minor, she feels like it's all her fault and that she's a failure and what has she done for bad things to happen to her all the time etc. This usually means no sleep, dramatic weight loss (stops eating altogether for days on end) and constant crying. The most recent incident was a boy that she had dated many years ago had recently been in touch saying that he had always been in love with her and did she want to meet up with him. Now she didn't meet up with him becuase she was worried about letting him into her life with the baby, but did continue to text and have telephone conversations with him. Anyway after three months she found out he was actually living with a girl and this girl had found out he'd been texting her!My sister was devastated at this and has been incredibly upset, depsite the fact that she hadn't really got into a proper relationship with the guy. She's been on the phone to me several times a day, and texting me, in an absolute emotional mess asking me why people keep doing this to her and why would somebody want to treat her like this, what had she done wrong?Now, if it was me, I would just pass this off as another bloke being a b~stard and thank god i hadn't got involved with him, but my sister is devastated and I think it's down to the way she deals with and copes with rejection.Is there anything I can do to help her, because this isn't the first time this has happened. She has ahad a long line of blokes that I think play on her vulnerability and they always seem to have a girlfriend or are just using her. Most of them she has met online or are relationships from years ago and they tend to be very much text/ online/ or telephone based. it's like she is desparate for someone to care. She really is stunning and is a lovely person - how can I make her see she could just date normal guys, and when it doens't work out it's just becuas that's the way life is sometimes?Can anybody offer any advice at all of how I can support and help her through this?????Thanks x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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