Recycle Posted July 9, 2011 Report Share Posted July 9, 2011 Hi all,I can't believe I would ever be typing the title above. I have always been a loyal and trustworthy partner. I have never cheated on anyone in my life. Ive been with my partner almost 4 years and my partner knows what happened. Things never got past second base (for lack of a better term). I have been forgiven and the situation has actually made the love between my partner and I stronger so far. However, I feel like a monster of sorts. I didnt know I had the capacity to hurt my partner like this.......and am trying to be strong. Im sure Im not alone, but today I feel so lost.Thanks for listening...Recycle Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Recycle Posted July 16, 2011 Author Report Share Posted July 16, 2011 Anyone have advice? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Recycle Posted July 16, 2011 Author Report Share Posted July 16, 2011 Hi Pseudome, thanks for the reply...Oh yes, I still have waves of guilt. But I know that it's notgood to hold onto it for long. I guess what I need more issupport than advice. Cheating is not something I had the intentto do...totally snook up on me and Ive realized my weak spotsthat contributed to my actions. Im also feeling odd about this experience in that it didnt involvesex. It was still cheating, but I feel as though I may as well have becausenow im labeled a cheater.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pseudome Posted July 16, 2011 Report Share Posted July 16, 2011 Maybe don't label what happened with a tag like "cheater?" Refer to it as the actual events that occured, whatever those may be. It sounds like you are tying the negative feelings to the negative label, when it seems you've actually worked through the actual situation and reconcilled with your partner and your partner has forgiven you. People make all sorts of mistakes all the time. If each mistake we made earned us a negative label, we'd all be full of them. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Loneone Posted July 24, 2011 Report Share Posted July 24, 2011 That is very true, pseudo. I think life is also about learning. We all make mistakes, but what we take from it makes us who we are. You obviously feel very bad about it, so I doubt you would do it again. What exactly brought you to that point in the first place, and have you and your partner discussed it? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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