Lost In The Crowd Posted April 6, 2008 Report Share Posted April 6, 2008 well, it's kinda hard to talk about my unsolved problems..i'll be 23 years old on the 15th of April..and i dont feel alive at all..i wanna live my life the way i wanna live it, yet i cant do that..is it because i'm a girl or what..Mom is the source of my depression..she wont let me do anythin, she doesnt even allow me to go to my best friend's house ever since i graduated from college and we fight everytime i tell her that i wanna go..i mean why would she do that..my best friend is the sister i've never had..i love her and i cant imagine being away from her..she's the reason i go on..:mad:Mom is suffocating meeeee..she never cared about my life, i graduated and she didnt attend my party and now i might get a job and she doesnt care to advise me..she just wants me miserable..she knows nuthin about me, yet she wants to kill me !!i hate my mom so much i wish she'd die..i just want her to leave me alone !! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sheryl Posted April 6, 2008 Report Share Posted April 6, 2008 I can relate to you i'm 20, when i was younger my mother suffercated me she wouldn't let me go out at all and in the end i rebelled and started to go, has you mother ever given you any indicator that she wants you dead. i really feel for you, you must really feel isoleted not being able to go out even to your best friends house, have you ever tried just going out it worked for me well i had to move out first Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lost In The Crowd Posted April 6, 2008 Author Report Share Posted April 6, 2008 Gosh, i wish i could do that ! but there's a bad thing about my culture..a girl cant leave her family until she gets married "if she ever will"..and God only knows to whom she's getting married..life sux ! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nightfalls Posted April 6, 2008 Report Share Posted April 6, 2008 Hi Lost in the crowdI sometimes wish that I had had that type of protection mabe it is over-protection but still knowing that your mom is watching out for you controling you mabe, I see how it must be hard in your position but looking from mine I guess I see more youth in you then I had. I moved out at 17 and I think where did it all go? I didn't have the chance to just be a young lady I've already done so much. I understand where I am but sometimes I wish I could just be that girl again not holding so much responsibility in my hands. It is harder in this role I've made try to enjoy the protection! take care and sorry you are in this situation. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sheryl Posted April 7, 2008 Report Share Posted April 7, 2008 what kind of culture do you come from, if your really unhappy then maybe you should leave home, that must be awful not being able to leave home until your married are you a muslim at all? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest ASchwartz Posted April 8, 2008 Report Share Posted April 8, 2008 Hi Lost in the Crowd,Do you fear for your life if you decided to leave home and live on your own? Allan Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lost In The Crowd Posted April 8, 2008 Author Report Share Posted April 8, 2008 hey everyone, thanx alot for ur concern..well i am a Muslim, and i'm happy and convinced about it..but this has nuthin to do with my religion..it has to do with the stupid traditions that we follow..i'm an Arab, however, this kind of protection "suffocation" is not in every house..but Mom doesnt want me to go out alone cuz she hates me ! i'm her LEAST favorite..sometimes it feels like she hates to see me happy..it feels like she wants me all miserable..it SUX to be in this position ! it really does ! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lost In The Crowd Posted April 8, 2008 Author Report Share Posted April 8, 2008 hi Allan,yes sometimes i fear living on my own, but i think i'm ready to do it !but it's never gonna happen.. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sheryl Posted April 8, 2008 Report Share Posted April 8, 2008 hi lost in the crowd i really do feel for you and your situation, i'm a muslim but i haven't been brought up as one i converted because i've married a muslim, have you tried talking to your mother about it and telling her that you feel trapped or isn't that an issue. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nightfalls Posted April 9, 2008 Report Share Posted April 9, 2008 Hi LostAgain sorry for your stressful situation. I was curious if you are the youngest and how many other siblings you have? If any of them have tryed moving out yet or are married? take care:) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lost In The Crowd Posted April 11, 2008 Author Report Share Posted April 11, 2008 hey Sheryli cant talk to my mother cuz she never let me...whenever i try to talk about it she yells at me and doesnt give me a chance to tell her how i feel...she wants it her way ! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lost In The Crowd Posted April 11, 2008 Author Report Share Posted April 11, 2008 hey Forgetingyes i'm the youngest and i have one married sister and 3 brothers..they all moved out.. one of them came back recently and might move out soon cuz he's lookin for a job !! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sheryl Posted April 11, 2008 Report Share Posted April 11, 2008 hey Sheryli cant talk to my mother cuz she never let me...whenever i try to talk about it she yells at me and doesnt give me a chance to tell her how i feel...she wants it her way !oh, thats awful my mother l;iked it that way she only ever let me out to work because she knew she'd have all of my money at the end of it, do you ever out at all? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nightfalls Posted April 11, 2008 Report Share Posted April 11, 2008 Hi Lostso I guess you are child #5 that is a big family:) I was asking because my thoughts were that mabe if all the other siblings have moved out mabe that is why your mother is so strick with you. Not that this gives her any right but that mabe she has her own issues going on mabe with the empty nest happening around her mabe she is just despretly hanging on to you as her "youngest" mabe it is not so much that she does not want you to succeed more that once you do you are gone as well and then she is alone. I don't know, just a pondering though Still a hard thing for you regardless...take care Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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