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Hi I'm Carl and I'm 22 years old and still a virgin, because I'm insecure about the size of my penis. It's only like 4 inches fully erect on the length and I haven't measured the girth, but it's quite skinny as well. So I don't feel good about it and for me it's very crucial to improve as many aspects of myself as possible, because I feel like I need to go that extra mile to get the same result as an average male, because of my handicap. And it also feels like I was born at the wrong time. Right now there's more porn than ever and things just seems more shallow than before. If I was born in the 50's it would have been much easier to get a girlfriend. Well, at least that's what it feels like. I don't know if it's entirely true.

I also feel suicidal every now and then, because it's so hopeless when there's no way to actually enlarge my penis or any penis for that matter. Now you probably wanna throw this "women with small boobs" argument at me. Well, all I have to say about that is two things. First you have an option to actually enlarge your boobs. We men don't have that. What we men can do is to loose weight to show more of the penis and trim the pubes to make it look bigger (even though it isn't). Sure it's something, but I don't know if it's enough. Second of all men have more testosterone in their bodies than females, so we have a higher sexual drive than females. Sure there's exceptions, like always, but I think that we can agree that it's easier to get a man into bed than it is to get a woman into bed. I might be wrong and if so, feel free to correct me with great arguments. There's just more hopelessness with a small penis compared to small boobs.

Anyhow, besides all these crappy feelings I think that at least it would be worth it to give it a good try. My current mentality is like this. If I improve my life for the better, well then the chance of me having to deal with bullshit and feeling depressed would go away and that way I win. Not saying that it would be perfect, but just way better than today. Plan B is suicide and if that happens, well then I still win, because I don't have to deal with bullshit anymore etc. I'm not saying that I'm aiming for suicide, but I just put it there nice and dandy, so to speak.

Anyway that opens up for more risk takings and being more ambitious, because I really don't care if it all goes down the shitter. If it goes well, then that's obviously good, but if I fail it really doesn't bother me, because of plan B. But yet again, I wanna give it a really good try before I give up.

I would like to learn how to be more attractive as a man, learn more about female anatomy, how to cope with having a small penis etc. So I thought it would be a good idea to come to this forum and talk to people who relate to this to put our brains together and figure out solutions and make the best out of the situation.

Right now I go to the gym 4 times a week and eat a healthy diet to build more muscles and loose body fat. Trying to be more attractive in a lot of aspects. I'm also open to the idea of using sex toys, like me using a strapon on her as an addon (not a replacement) if and only if there would be a demand to spice it up a little bit. I actually looked into it and it seems like all you need to get is a harness system, a dildo to strap it on and lube to make it fit. I don't see that as humiliating at all. I see it as an improvement, because there are somethings that fake penises have that real penises can't compete with. Like unlimited stamina, built-in vibrator and perhaps even double penetration. Well the last one can obviously be possible if you're using two men, but good luck finding two men who would say yes to the devils threesome. Material wise, a real dick should be better and I understand that, but anyway I'm just open to that idea of using sex toys to improve the sex life, if I get into an relationship so to speak.

Well anyway I want to improve and I got ambitions. I stopped believing everything that has to do with expressions or blaming others or having this "my mum thinks that you guys are just jealous" type of mindset. I wanna solve my problems and be a better person.

P.S. I'm also reading a book called She comes first, The thinking mans guide to pleasuring a woman by Ian Kerner. Do you guys know if there's any other books that could come in handy?

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Forgot to mention that I'm quite busy on Mondays to Thursdays, because I got two jobs and the gym. Friday to Sunday are the days with most free time. Maybe I have time for a quick answer on Tuesday and Thursday. By the way sorry for the long post.

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Dude after reading your post the sky is the limit for you. You have a very good attitude and I doubt your ever going to have to resort to killing yourself. Not that anyone needs to take that route. The fact that you are open to sex toys is amazing. Most of us on here are not so you are light years ahead. Good for you. I have that same book She Comes First. It's very good and it works. It's benefitted my relationship. As far as other books I'm not sure.

The key here I believe is be honest with who you are getting involved with. Be very open and it makes things so much easier. Don't get down though you may run into a few cunts but there are good ones out there.

Anyways welcome to the community and hopefully you're not here for long.

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Dude after reading your post the sky is the limit for you. You have a very good attitude and I doubt your ever going to have to resort to killing yourself. Not that anyone needs to take that route. The fact that you are open to sex toys is amazing. Most of us on here are not so you are light years ahead. Good for you. I have that same book She Comes First. It's very good and it works. It's benefitted my relationship. As far as other books I'm not sure.

The key here I believe is be honest with who you are getting involved with. Be very open and it makes things so much easier. Don't get down though you may run into a few cunts but there are good ones out there.

Anyways welcome to the community and hopefully you're not here for long.

Well I'm not as open as having a threesome with another man or actually being fine with her having sex with other men. That's just wrong on so many levels. When it comes to sex toys I'm fine with it.

The problem with She comes first is that they only talk about cunnilingus. I would like to know more about how to give a woman multiple orgasms and tips on how to make the penetration part as good as possible. And of course how to be more attractive.

I might stay here for long though, because I still live at home and having a girlfriend while living at home at the age of 22 wouldn't work very well. And perhaps I might end up helping others later on. I don't know if I'm gonna stay here for long or not, but we'll see.

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Yea well I know my GF isn't open for threesomes at all man or woman. So you may not have to worry about that. Yea the book is a bummer it only talks about cunnalingus but since you're open to sex toys you'll be ok. But if the girl you are with is fine with you then you don't have to worry at all. You have to understand that most of the time it's us. My ex truly didn't mind. I'm the one who ruined the relationship. I find it hard to believe that some guys on here can't find a girl to accept them I know they're out there. My one friends dick is small as well he still manages to keep a GF.

My problem is i take it too far. I'm trying to be a perfectionist.

I'm thrilled with your attitude we need more of that around here.

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Hi Carl... I wanted to welcome you here

I think being in a place where you feel a comfortability within yourself makes you an attractive person. Giving some time to work on that acceptance of yourself, would help cope with having to deal with possibly negative reactions of people, socially...

Personally, I believe a person has alot to offer someone individually, I dont think it does much good comparing to others and feeling like you have to "out do" them. Focusing on our own ambitions and interests and where that takes you to me is alot beneficial in being a better person and building connections with others.

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