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[onenut]

Hi everybody.  I am new here and want to introduce myself.  I have suffered with a small penis all my life.  It's tough to have the smallest one of anybody you know, especially when they know it, too.  But the really tough part is with my wife.  She was married to a well-hung man before so she had the pleasure of a big penis for several years.  And now she gets a small one.  I know she married me so that should count for a lot and it does but I can tell she really wishes it were bigger.  

[LostBoy]

Hi Onenut! and welcome to the forum.

As I mentioned in response to your other post, I am somewhat similar to you in this regard. My wife's ex fiance was huge and since she and I were friends before we started dating each other I got to hear a lot about their sex life and his package.

In the end she married me. I have learned to be creative to ensure that she is being satisfied (toys, lots of oral, etc...) and this has seemed to work for us. My wife has an orgasm every time we make love and it's typically before I even penetrate her with my little guy. It's not ideal but I've learned to work with what I have.

[Lodz]

This is the most triggering thing in the world for me. Thinking about my wife's former lovers and their presumably bigger packages. This is complicated further by the fact that it turns me on. I fantasize about her with bigger men when i masturbate, when we have sex, when i'm eating lunch, brushing my teeth. It's like my brain eroticizes it to protect me from the painful truth of it.

[LostBoy]

Hi @Lodz ,

I'm with you. I definitely fantasize  about her being with bigger guys when I masturbate and even sometimes during sex. It is erotic and I'm not sure why. Maybe I'm thinking that she could be really satisfied with a bigger guy and her satisfaction makes me happy? I don't know what it is but it definitely occurs.

[YOTH]

I do the same thing, it's normal I think. During sex it's just about us, but when I masturbate it's usually about her with some black guy or something and sex is an ordeal rather that pleasurable entirely. But that's fantasy, so it has to be out the box. I know she wouldn't cheat on me, so I usually imagine I'm in a parallel universe or something. Porn has ruined us all 😂😂 

[RonaldU]

I think you are attributing to yourselves something that is general. The idea of "girls being penetrated by huge dicks"  is something that defines porn. The scene where the guy starts penetrating the girls and she says "OMG it hurts" and so on it's a classic. If we talk about Hentai and tentacles... oh well...

Why do you think porn actors are big guys? Heterosexual men don't like other men, so  shouldn't care if the guy has 4" or 8", but we seem to care.  Why lots of porn is about girls being stretched to absurd limits and things like that? Why it happens the same in gay porn? I can't really explain it but clearly has something to do with sex-violence-power relationships and how we experience sex. A big dick is a symbol of power.

This same relationships are the ones that keep people with small penises depressed even if they have love and a satisfactory life. I do think size matters, but I think it matters way more from a psicologycal perspective than from a physical.

 

[Lodz]

@RonaldU you're definitely onto something there. But i think porn is only the most blatant example of big dick supremacy in our culture. There are so many other angles which are less graphic and less intense, by which we are fed the same narrative.

[LostBoy]

2 hours ago, RonaldU said:

I do think size matters, but I think it matters way more from a psicologycal perspective than from a physical.

I agree with your comment that size does matter and whether the physical outweighs the psychological just depends.

If we are talking about a 5x4.5 compared with a 6x5 then it's probably mostly if not all psychological. If we are talking a 3.5x3.5 compared with a 6x5 then it's likely physical. I don't think females want to be in pain but I do think they enjoy that "full" feeling. Think about male masturbation, would you be more "engaged" by just rubbing against the side of your penis or if it was being gently squeezed all the way around?

I know the female vagina is very elastic so it does a good job at conforming but there are nerves within folds that can't be felt unless stretched. In addition, that "full feeling" is definitely desirable by women in my opinion (my wife reacts more to two or three fingers than just one finger). She doesn't enjoy pain but she definitely enjoys being lightly and gently stretched.

I also agree with the comments that a big dick is a symbol of power. Fully clothed I am a leader amongst my industry and area of expertise. I am tall and broad shouldered and I have managed large teams of people. If I was standing naked in a room of guys I would likely have the smallest package in the room and I can imagine that I would cower like a beat dog. There would be no way for me to be an "alpha".

 

[RonaldU]

It's a really complex thing, isn't it?

[Introverted]

I know the feeling. I'm super thin and barely 4 inches. My wife cheated on me with her old boyfriend from high school. He was very thick. She said she is sorry it ever happened but I still can't get it out of my mind. I had a girlfriend in high school who use to tell me that no woman would ever be faithful because of my size. Unfortunately she's been right. I've never had anyone not cheat on me.

[bizzarecontact]

at least you were married ,hahahh so consider yourself lucky some people have very small penises that they can't even dare to think about wedding . if she really loves you she wont cheat on you with anybody . life goes on you'r not alone many many men have small penises , we can even make whole coutry of only small dick population.