Guest GingerSnap Posted July 22, 2010 Report Share Posted July 22, 2010 In about all the forums of different types, there is usually controversy at some point. Since I can kind of be like a pitbull and dig my heels in especially when we are dealing with either God or politics (I guess that is why you are supposed to steer clear of those subjects in the first place), I came up with my own rule of when I win (winning is real important to me also - we all have shortcomings, right?). I don't announce I won but in my heart I feel that I have won - true to myself. This is necessary because I can end up trying to make a point that is impossible to make or just because at some point, it becomes physically and/or mentally not healthy. So the rule is, to say what I have to say and check back in case I want to clarify and also, I am actually open to new ideas, well, a little anyway and at the point that the other side of the controversy resorts to personal insults - I win!!! In other words, I can't just not be right because I'm stupid, ugly, brain dead, or don't have a clue. This has really helped me and in my mind it makes sense. I think that debates are great when they are more toward brainstorming a problem/solution but making them personal............So, that's the rule - you tell me I'm wrong because I'm stupid or tell me that my choice of dog shows I have no class so who would listen to me in the first place - I win!!! Just food for thought - one of my coping skills and I have bag full. And, stay away from politics if you want a calm lifestyle. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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