Symora Posted July 23, 2010 Report Share Posted July 23, 2010 I was reading an article elsewhere on the site that I found very interesting because it is relevant for me. It is an interview with Holli Kenley, MA, on Surviving Betrayal. Ms. Kenley became highly attuned to the idea of betrayal after noting it as a common theme in multiple clients and dealing with it in her own life. Her efforts to understand what people refer to when they say "betrayed" resulted in her identification of three common experiences or states of being: confusion, worthlessness, and powerlessness, which she describes as stages that occur in that order, respectively. The difficulty a person will have in processing a betrayal and moving through these stages is affected by multiple factors, including one's personality or ego strength, the degree to which the betrayal affects identity investments in particular social roles, and the chronicity of the betrayal (whether it is a single event or a recurring theme). People who have experienced multiple and chronic betrayals may find that they are dealing with a pool of residual betrayal, in that they have come to identify themselves as a victim and have low self esteem. Betrayal has been a very powerful force in my life and has moved me in strange directions. It started at home when I was a teenager where I was rejected for being different, and has reoccured enough to have created a form of trauma in me I think... how have you worked through betrayals? Were you able to maintain your sense of worth, your self-esteem? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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