JustTrying Posted September 7, 2010 Report Share Posted September 7, 2010 To make a long story short..... going on 22 years of marriage.For the last 7 he has not shared a bed with me and has been working out of town most of the time.... He was gone 3 weeks at a time and now only during the week.Last year sometime, I tried to have relations with him and he could not... or so he said.... I kept on about it and he told me that he could not have sex anymore.... that he had a prostate problem.... OK>>>> SO GO TO THE DOCTOR before it turns to cancer and they make a pill to help ease the prostate problem.He did not goto the doctor.This weekend I got tired of sleeping by myself and went into his room and climbed on the couch with him. ( first hug I had in a long time). We then moved to my room and the bed. As I was hugging him I realized that he was aroused and I took advantage of that and we had relations... NO PROBLEM.... things were just like they use to be.....My problem is now that I know he CAN have sex ( which is good) .... it just makes me wonder.... why did he not want to have sex with me this whole year? Does he have ANOTHER girlfriend? Or is it that he is just not attracted to me anymore.... I know he likes young girls and I have just turned 41....Part of me is sooooo happy that we had relations and I feel like it could be a news beginning. ( Was planning on divorcing him REAL soon) BUT another part of me is angry and feels like he is a LYING SOB...... How could he reject me for a year and make me feel so bad and alone? He is suppose to love me.... how can you do that to someone you love?DIVORCE is already in the works... but I do not know what to do now.... If we can work this out I would love to stay married. I do not expect things to be like they were 20 yrs ago.... we were both younger then and have changed over the years,...but I do not want to stay to just find out that the sex was a one time thing and he keeps rejecting me.It is not just about the sex , but it is the connection of having a warm caring body laying next to yours.... The hugs, the intimacy ......I have felt HATE for him for the past year.... but yet I still LOVE him.... he is my husband, my world.... I gave up my life for him.... I gave up sooo much to be with him.... moved 1800 miles away from home.... I have been with him through the good and the bad. When I decided on divorce .... it was so that I could get on with my life and move on. So that I could perhaps find someone that wanted to be with me. I have been miserable for 10 years and it is time that I do something for me.... Life is too short to be miserable.I know I am Bipolar, but I do believe that they way that he has made me feel effects my mood swings....He can make me feel up or down, depending on how he treats me.Still fixing to get a job and move on with my life, he is hardly ever home and all I do is sit in this house... I need to get out of the house and around people. But not so sure about the divorce now....Any thoughts?JT Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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