IrmaJean Posted September 29, 2011 Report Posted September 29, 2011 What is the allure for the conscious person? Anyone ever done this? to a stranger?These acts probably fill some need in that person. The meanings could be numerous. You deserve to be valued, Jai.And vice versa' date=' I like being the unconscious person. anyone else experience this? like or dislike? this happened a bunch as a teen /twenties to me. does that experience foster the interest? is this unusual? it doesnt seem to be, if ur a guy creeping on a girl sleeping. Why do i like this so much, would it be considered a fetish?Just curious.=j[/quote']Could it be a form of disassociating or a way of keeping pain (or yourself) at a distance? Escape? The dominance/submissive symbolism could also hold deeper meaning. Do you see any of this in other aspects of your life?
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flander Posted September 29, 2011 Report Posted September 29, 2011 my ex said that sex when I was sleeping was the best we ever had (but that's not saying much).
IrmaJean Posted September 30, 2011 Report Posted September 30, 2011 IJ-The twisted thing is, this is what does make me feel valued. that someone wants this from me enough, that they'll just take it.Is it the taking, is it the providing, or is it possibly having an effect on others? Do you value what you're giving?Ideally, you hope for someone to want this with you... Lots of questions. Just food for thought...Take care, Jai.
IrmaJean Posted October 1, 2011 Report Posted October 1, 2011 No, i dont value what i give-thats why i dont care who takes it.Maybe this can be something to work on?Some of my behaviour feels like that' date=' like its just happening, without so much as my being a lucid participant, or sometimes a willing participant.[/quote']Could this be a form of disassociation, do you think?
Jack's Smirking Revenge Posted October 1, 2011 Report Posted October 1, 2011 Some people get off on being used. Happens more than you think. Be very smart and safe about your health, and don't fret too much about it. I remember when I was a kid there were some things that turned me (at the time, I didn't even realize it). These same things do today. You're normal.
IrmaJean Posted October 1, 2011 Report Posted October 1, 2011 I think the question is whether behaviors are self-destructive in any way. How do you feel about yourself? Is this causing you pain? Interfering with your daily functioning? Causing you any discomfort? Do you wish things were different?
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IrmaJean Posted October 2, 2011 Report Posted October 2, 2011 It may have been a place where your younger self learned to survive and cope through some difficult and painful experiences.How are you feeling now about possibly going to therapy?
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