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Does anyone else feel inadequate during penetration because they can tell that the woman can't really feel it? I sometimes feel less like a man when I am having sex with a woman and i know she isn't getting pleasure from it. It sometimes turns me off sex altogether.

I have become good at oral to make up for it but it doesn't really feel the same for me, i still don't feel like a man during sex. The other way it is a problem is it sometime means its hard to get an erection because I don't feel like I am going to be any good etc... do others feel the same?

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I really liked a guy I was seeing, we got on so well, he wanted me to move cliser to him to give the rship a real shot..,until we had sex..., he felt totally inadequate in the bedroom and was really nervous. But I really liked him... I was fine about his penis but he wasn't... Then he dumped me and refuses to talk to me??? So figure that one out..... ??? Is his refusal to talk out of shame? Inadequacy? Too scared in case it actually works!!

Just act confident men, because chances are the girl is just as worried you even like her body. Be passionate lovers and don't be so hard on yourselves xx

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I like your replies ....let me ask you something. You know kinda what Mr.Right for you would be like because we all have an idea of about who we want to share life with.

My wife met who I wanted: she is funny ...very confident..not shy..a take charge lady course she is an ER Nurse. Also smart and she is cute.

So Ms. You get the guy who has got your chemistry going...you are alone just you and your dream guy! He got a little one...you going to at least try or show him the door ..

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Ps his size was 3 1/4 to 4 inches I'm guessing and kinda thin.. Hard to know real size we only had sex a couple of times n I didn't pack my tape measure

Were you able to vaginally orgasm with him?

Do you even feel him?

Did you vaginally orgasm with previous partners?

Do you even need vaginal sex to be satisfied?

These questions popped into my head- I daresay they preoccupy your ex...

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Were you able to vaginally orgasm with him?

Do you even feel him?

Did you vaginally orgasm with previous partners?

Do you even need vaginal sex to be satisfied?

These questions popped into my head- I daresay they preoccupy your ex...

No we only had sex 4 times so didn't have enough time to fully get to know each others bodies..., yes I could feel him, more so when I was on top n doggy style... No never vagina orgasm from previous partners.., I love vaginal sex but I usually just touch myself during and then cum at the same time.. ..

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awww so true what a waste if he only sat down and talked it though spend time to find out what works for both of you if could have been something magical

don't beat yourself up to much about it there is plenty of other guys out there that would love the chance to date you and will not be shy about learning what works best for the both of you

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Were you able to vaginally orgasm with him?

Do you even feel him?

Did you vaginally orgasm with previous partners?

Do you even need vaginal sex to be satisfied?

These questions popped into my head- I daresay they preoccupy your ex...

I realize that this is easier said than done, trust me. In my experience, sex is all the way around better and more satisfying when both people involved are feeling confident in themselves. For me, even more, if I allow myself to feel sexy as well. The second one is extremely difficult for me since I am a larger sized woman. If both sexual partners are confident in themselves, it will shine through during the sex.

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Does anyone else feel inadequate during penetration because they can tell that the woman can't really feel it? I sometimes feel less like a man when I am having sex with a woman and i know she isn't getting pleasure from it. It sometimes turns me off sex altogether.

I have become good at oral to make up for it but it doesn't really feel the same for me, i still don't feel like a man during sex. The other way it is a problem is it sometime means its hard to get an erection because I don't feel like I am going to be any good etc... do others feel the same?

Yes. I suffer from the same thing. Mines 4.5. But I realized recently I could get to 5.5 if I got down to the lowest body fat possible. I'm not fat but I have bit of a pad hiding some of my penis. Although I'd look a little better the girth is the killer. It's way too skinny. I haven't posted in a while but I'm still having the same problem. Sex is like once every 2-3 weeks and its killing me. I need it more for 1. I have the drive and I desire my woman. 2 I need to feel desired its really killing my confidence. 3 I need more practice learning her body.

Last time we had sex I heared what I thought were some genuine moans but hardly could tell if she orgasmed. That's another thing my stamina is taking a hit. Now that the sex has dropped off I finish faster. Not good. I'd rather be 4 inches long and real thick than to have what I've got. This girth is killin me. I think I'm done talking to her about it. It's only going to make things worse and ruin the mood. Kind of just have to forget about it move on mentally and just try my best at pleasing her.

As far as the comments in society I stand by my precious comments. I'm not remaining silent anymore. Society and porn makes us feel worse and worse. I feel women feed in and believe that shit as well.

I swear deep down I believe I can be a good lover. The best ? Eh prob not. But I'm going to keep trying. I just wait now wait for some asshole to make a tiny dick joke or anything involving small penises as a fun joke. Ready to stand up for everyone suffering from this.

Sorry for the mini rant I haven't posted in a lil bit. Hope you guys have been getting better.

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I really liked a guy I was seeing, we got on so well, he wanted me to move cliser to him to give the rship a real shot..,until we had sex..., he felt totally inadequate in the bedroom and was really nervous. But I really liked him... I was fine about his penis but he wasn't... Then he dumped me and refuses to talk to me??? So figure that one out..... ??? Is his refusal to talk out of shame? Inadequacy? Too scared in case it actually works!!

Just act confident men, because chances are the girl is just as worried you even like her body. Be passionate lovers and don't be so hard on yourselves xx

Yeah this guy really needed to just push through his feelings of inadequacy. I am the same size as him by the sound of it, and I like I said in the initial post it defiantly has an effect on my sense of masculinity.

Actually, come to think of it, I rely on not seeing the women again after the one night stand as a way to push through some of those feelings. I don't do well with intimacy with women I know. Hmmmm, I do wish for his sake he stayed around but I have empathy for the fact that he didn't...

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